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I am sure this has been covered so many times before but I would like some advice. I am married and deeply in love with my partner. Yet, I have been having constant urges to go to a massage parlor or a provider just because I miss the diversity and excitment of having good sensual sex. How do you guys reconcile these two things? The urges have been constant in the last year.
 

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I am sure this has been covered so many times before but I would like some advice. I am married and deeply in love with my partner. Yet, I have been having constant urges to go to a massage parlor or a provider just because I miss the diversity and excitment of having good sensual sex. How do you guys reconcile these two things? The urges have been constant in the last year.
Same here. I would go every day
 

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As Chris Rock stated it is not hard to find new pussy. The hard part is turning old pussy into new pussy.

The hardest part of any relationship no matter how solid and strong it is there will be a time where it is going to hit that ultimate and become stagnant. There is a solution of course but it takes both parties to not allow that to happen. Both of you cannot let things slip. For one you and your partner can’t get fat and let things go lol.

Also loving someone and being in love with someone are two different matters. If you have that urge and need to scratch that itch you can’t fight nature. Just don’t bring any nasty thing(s) back to your partner.
 
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The urges have been constant in the last year.
You should act upon them, as long as you are discreet and don't leave your phone somewhere where your wife can find it, because this is what can happen:
That MP definitely needs some muscle/bouncer type working for them- this type of shit cannot be allowed to happen by any respectable MP.
 
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follow your urges...for now.

But long term it is not sustainable to be in a supposedly monogamous relationship while feeding your urges on the side. Unless she is a pig like us guys :) and you can have an open relationship...but that is unlikely. Not too mention you will probably eventually get caught (high likelyhood of that over the long term).

just my humble opinion.
 

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"Cheating" is a betrayal of trust.

Sounds like you dont want to hurt your relationship and betray her trust or you wouldnt be here looking for feedback.

There is alot of variables about yourself, your wife and your relationship:

If you go behind her back and get caught, is it worth hurting your relationship?
How long have you been together, and is repression of your desires leading to unhappiness that will enevitably hurt the relationship?
Do you have a satisfactory sex life with your wife?
Are you sexually attracted to your wife?
Do you watch alot of porn and jerk off? (Stop, this is feeding your urges imo)
Have you had satifying and fulfling sexual experiences before meeting your wife?
If no, is it something you feel you missed out on that you cant let go?
If yes, is it something you need to re-live?
What is your wifes attitudes about sex?
how secure is your wife around other women?
Does your wife love you back unconditionally and does she know how much you value the relationship?

There is a difference between love, sex and relationships. All three can be together or just one or two of them. Relationship is about compatibility. You can love someone but not be compatible and vice versa.

if you have a great relationship and have great sex, then maybe live with the knowledge that you are "sacrificing" lust for something much greater.

Otherwise live with consequences of going behind her back or being open with her if it turns the relationship sour.

If bringing up the topic on its own is going to hurt the relationship, then maybe its better you go behind her back and live with the guilt.

Without knowing all the nuances, i will say the best thing is to be open and honest about what you want, how you feel about her and the relationship and let the chips fall where they may.
 

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I am sure this has been covered so many times before but I would like some advice. I am married and deeply in love with my partner. Yet, I have been having constant urges to go to a massage parlor or a provider just because I miss the diversity and excitment of having good sensual sex. How do you guys reconcile these two things? The urges have been constant in the last year.
Looks like the majority told you to go for it. What did you expect on a monger’s forum?!

Personally, I would tell you not to do it. Once you cross that line, there’s no turning back.
Try to work on and spice up your current relationship.
 

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Many of us, are here because we can't, or choose not to resist our urges...

How bad would your life become if you hurt your partner like that?
How bad would it be if she did it to you ?

I feel like its a bit like choosing to drive drunk instead of taking a 50$-100$ cab ride but X100000.... worst

But if you are asking on this board and really want feedback, feel free to share a little more.

Are your impulses something that she could/would never provide? the lack of variaety? etc ...

call me curious.
 

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I've been caught before and it went really hard on her...
Left me and evrything...

If it's hint to what to do not to get caught I would say go in mp's or agencys and erase your messages
Have a job where you're often on the road and could justify a couple hours stop
They usually don't contact you afterwards
I went to see an indy
Been in contact by email and forgot to erase one little thing and got caught...

But of course the most biggest hint I could provide is... make a knot...
Or talk about it to her
Say that you would want to spice things up for a starter and see where that goes
Sometimes good things can come to you with honnesty
 

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Looks like the majority told you to go for it. What did you expect on a monger’s forum?!
Of course. If he was looking to be talked out of it rather than into it, he would be posting on the Jilted Wives Forum. He has chosen to post here because he seeks affirmation in his decision, which has in large part already been made.
 

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I see SP as the same as seeing a therapist that actually helps my marriage because after a session I go home with a smile. Sometimes I see SP as a personal trainer because after a session I get a great work out. Sometimes I see SP as a companion where I spend most of the session talking. Every time I go home happier with no guilt because without my sessions I would have walked out of my marriage 35 years ago. Most wives do not want to know how you stay is a long term marriage, they just want to know you will always be there so off load your baggage on your next session and do not bring it home.
 

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I am sure this has been covered so many times before but I would like some advice. I am married and deeply in love with my partner. Yet, I have been having constant urges to go to a massage parlor or a provider just because I miss the diversity and excitment of having good sensual sex. How do you guys reconcile these two things? The urges have been constant in the last year.
If your ok with her getting layed by other guys also, sure go right ahead.
If not keep in mind that the % of you getting caught at some point has the odds against you for sure.
Good luck, hope you have a good pre-nup ;)
 
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