The Bitching thread
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Great, because of all of you, I'm here looking up cow print lingerie on Temu. (this is the bitching thread so I'm bitching) 
Expectations come with communication.
The same I go into a restaurant which I know will cost me X$.
But I don't expect they will know what I want to order. I need to tell them.
I don't think I'm a cow print type of girl, I'm more in the leopart print category!
Not really bitching, but an observation..
I've been on this board for 2 years now. Since I advertise here, I always find myself pulled back to the conversations, due to curiosity, boredom, an interest in human psychology and a desire to be a bit subversive in this echo chamber (which is not always appreciated lol)
One thing I've noticed is that the same subjects and complaints come up very very often. Another, is more about certain users who seem to come here to find answers during a personal crisis or a moment of interrogation about various topics. What I want to say is that I believe that those users need, or rather deserve, much better and appropriate resources and spaces to ask those questions, to discuss these concerns without a fear of judgement and to break isolation, none of which can be done in a forum like this one.
I've been on this board for 2 years now. Since I advertise here, I always find myself pulled back to the conversations, due to curiosity, boredom, an interest in human psychology and a desire to be a bit subversive in this echo chamber (which is not always appreciated lol)
One thing I've noticed is that the same subjects and complaints come up very very often. Another, is more about certain users who seem to come here to find answers during a personal crisis or a moment of interrogation about various topics. What I want to say is that I believe that those users need, or rather deserve, much better and appropriate resources and spaces to ask those questions, to discuss these concerns without a fear of judgement and to break isolation, none of which can be done in a forum like this one.
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Astute (I love saying that word, especially around people who don't necessarily hear it the same way) observation.
1. The (relative) anonymity of a BBS can act as a dis-inhibitor. In theory, people can ask questions without revealing their RW identity. That can lead to more openness and candor. In theory.
2. The same anonymity also allows people to posture as something they are not (example, Alpha males with large....IQs) and not respond with empathy, understanding, and nuance. A BBS like this can become yet another echo chamber, like Twitter became (more of) when it became X. Or a (fill in the blank) shaming / blaming chamber.
3. As a lifelong observer and researcher of human behavior (I can watch them all day long), this board has allowed me to observe very intelligent, perceptive people and also allowed me to begin direct communication with those who also perceive that there's more to the story than just the screen persona. A few of those "back channel" communications actual resulted in very intense, personal, and intimate communications with other men who are facing prostate cancer and what life and sex are like afterward (spoiler alert: GREAT!!!!) as well as recovering from a heart attack as well as double cataract surgery. That was / is never the goal, but if you ask me an honest question about something I have experienced, I will more than likely respond. Men have a lot of fear about sex, primarily the fear of not being able to perform. I'm way past that point. It took me awhile, but now I realize that the most important sex organ everyone has (and the least used, perhaps) is the brain.
I think that it is possible to start an honest, meaningful dialogue on this platform, but one has to be patient and disciplined. The signal to noise ratio is a bit high, but nothing like US based BBS's.
Just my $0.02 USD, worth everything you paid for.
Il est inclus à volonté avec la plupart des mets principaux. Désolé j'ai juste réservé pour moi, Luna et Giselle. Tu arrives trop tard. LOL
Le bar à pain, quel radin.... il ose charger pour ses services!
I don’t like bread I was just surprised it wouldn’t be free, my parents are cheap I doubt they would have paid for that and I remember going there as a child
If we take the word "demographic" literally, I would say that it's quite the opposite: we have people from a vast age range, from different ethnicities and levels of education. My view on the situation is that most of our disagreements here are actually generational, and to a lesser extent, cultural. Let's face it, it's always the same two or three people who are often confrontational, and they are predictable–and not part of my demographic.
Maybe I worded this the wrong way, but there are very specific types of people who use this forum a lot, and men from certain demographics are more common here.. I also don't think being ''confrontational'' is a bad thing, as long as it's done with respect.. The disagreements here always revolve around the same things as well, in my opinion.. and I guess that's because of the reason why this forum exists in the first place.
Anyways, what I was trying to say is that I don't think this is the right place to seek advice on certain things or find solace, but I'm glad some people were able to have truly vulnerable discussions with their peers if that's the case
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You're right that this isn't the most ideal place to get true answers about difficult subjects but I would say that any place is a good place when you're alone and need to ask some tough questions sometimes. Can you trust most things people say on here? Maybe not. Will you potentially find some other people who've encountered (and overcome) this particular obstacle in their lives? Maybe yes. And that's why sometimes there are "wins" on here, amidst the insanity.
I can't get my head around that rôtie refers specifically to toast in Québec in French ...
It's included with most meals. I love bread, but it doesn't work well with my low carb goals. So, I try to stay away from it.
Rôtie de porc, Rôtie de boeuf. It refers to a cooking style. If you come across a French Canadian saying:Rôtie, instead of toasts. They are either not French Canadian or you should not eat said toasts and look for an escape hatch.
Rôti de porc, et non pas rôtie*. Des rôties, c'est plus joli à dire qu'une tranche de pain grillé, ou toast :- )
Yes that's how I use rôtie in French. Or without the accent for me it's the Indian (flat)bread lol
