I try and bring something off the list in person. It's a risk in case someone else gets it online first but I usually bring the gift receipt too. I'm selfish and want to experience the gratitude right away lol.To those that don’t understand men gifting SPs items on their wishlist, I just saw a very obvious AI generated Twitter account that has a wishlist with items being bought
At least if you gift a SP something, she truly exists and will thank you in person
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Seeing her happy right away is nice but I like to surprise (almost) anonymously and Throne disappointed and frustrated me as I had no clue if she had received or even know about it. So I couldn't be happy of making her day
Plus you have to be careful/check out the items independently first bc a lot of items on Throne are marked up from retail by upwards of 20%. Also, no disrespect against those that do this but, if the whole list has "Payout" on every item, you're just giving them money, not gifts, which for me defeats the purpose. I can give cash in person without a middleman.
Yeah that's why it's a bit off putting but well, I'll find other ways to surprise the lady. I have lot of social dates ideas up my sleeve
Yeah but the in-person thanks tend to be noticeably, um... wetter.
I have my in person ad, and my online stuff is only a mention in a further message, used as a means to bump my ad, it isn't in my main part of the ad.
I agree with online people shouldn't advertise in the in-person section, but someone who is in-person, and also does online shouldn't be prevented from advertising both in their advertising space.
Like when I was offering in person only, I wouldn't go advertising in the online space. (But I agree the online only advertisers have found a way to breach all areas to try pushing their advertising, it is an issue it seems all over the internet, not just here.)
Reviews don't make the difference either, as I've been Indy for 3 yrs, and online for like 2 weeks, with no reviews from being an indy. And I don't want to have to try and push ads in 2 places on merb, I am Indy first, so anything I will have to advertise goes on my 1 Indy ad.
I couldn't be bothered with makeing a second ad for online stuff.If they aren't Indy, they get their ad removed from the Indy section, (sounds good to me) but I don't see why anyone should gatekeep what another indy has to advertise in their ad. If I do both, then it is my right not to make my life more difficult and have to make seperate ads to advertise the 1 person who is myself. It's more work for nothing.
Posting my address in case someone was looking to swing by
OK, so follow up question. If it's twice are you supposed to be annoyed if someone only says thanks once? Are they rude and deserving of your contempt for poor etiquette?
Nope. Gratitude isn't required, just nice, so the lack thereof isn't rude. Grabbing the door and closing it behind you purposefully would be deserving of contempt.
A-ha! Kindness is its own reward! I may have to re-evaluate how I perceive and interact with my fellow humans.
Never be nice with the expectation of a thank you and never assume what you're doing is nice in the first place.
I had a guy get angry at me for not thanking him for holding the door open. He was 20 feet ahead of me, so that made me have to speed up so that he could "be nice" to me. I actually did thank him, but I had headphones on and it was downtown Montreal. I must not have said it loud enough, because he didn't hear me. He got in my face and said "You could at least say thanks!". I left with the impression that his life must be absolute shit if he's getting angry at this.
Well, if you have to ask someone to say thanks to you (who isn't a 6 year old) then you're clearly swimming in the wrong pond anyway. Random people shouldn't demand gratitude. totally agree with you.
If they call out to hold the elevator, any distance will do. If not, and you don't visibly see/hear them ask, they're gonna need to be in front of the elevator to have it held.
Hmmm. Don't think I can go with that one. The definition's not inclusive enough. If you see people on crutches or in wheelchairs for example you shouldn't have to be told to hold it for them. Also, how much extra space do cute girls get? I mean, if we'r being honest don't we stretch the wait zone a little further for the hot chick than we do for the accountant with the lemony face? I'm not saying it's fair, but...
Yes yes, but visible is the definition. If I see them coming clearly for the elevator, I'm holding it. If I don't see them and they don't ask for it to be held, it's not going to be. That's why I said 'in front of the elevator.' You shouldn't hold the door without a reason, just in case the cute girl you saw in the lobby is potentially also going up, bc that would be disrespectful to the people already in the elevator.Hmmm. Don't think I can go with that one. The definition's not inclusive enough. If you see people on crutches or in wheelchairs for example you shouldn't have to be told to hold it for them. Also, how much extra space do cute girls get? I mean, if we'r being honest don't we stretch the wait zone a little further for the hot chick than we do for the accountant with the lemony face? I'm not saying it's fair, but...
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