Long term arrangements

[jalimon]

Thanks guys.
BTW, is sex on the first date a thing with SA people? Was chatting with a girl who seemed to be in that; almost brought up the topic herself. but I was being a bit sceptic. Anyone here had such experiences?

The short time I was on it I had 2 meeting with sex but without $$ either. Simply told them i do not pay for social but would meet them if that made them feel good.

Had 3 other with sex on the first date. One that I met at a coffee shot nearby and told her if she was comfortable we would move on to my place. We did not even order coffee

Cheers,

 

[deadhead]

Thanks jalimon. Without $$, that's rare; or your charm, I'm sure . I get what you are saying. If the topic is brought up while chatting, it can be a possibility.

 

[deadhead]

Just curious, on an average what was the $$ have you paid on SA dates?(if it's okay to answer it here) Usually, you talk about a duration? or you go with the flow. I'm aware this thread may have answer to these questions; will go through that long thread. Still thought of asking you once.

 

[jalimon]

Probably why i did not pursue SA... Its has expensive if not more then SP...

 

[believe]

On SA it may be more expensive per say , but dates are usually much longer than 1 hr and easy going talk, chat ,drinks, romance etc..sometimes it last even overnight.
Secret is if they say 1 hr they are pros , so are false SA..LOL so I avoid.
Most are just fun gals looking for easy cash as they say better than working at Macdo.
You just have to weed them out..Im haveing a ball there wow for me.
I dont have enough time $$ for all on my list! ,I wish I did

 

[CoolAmadeus]

For the last 2-3 years I completely stopped seeing SPs and very seldomly saw MPs. I’ve had a number of experiences with Montreal women on SA, and most were delightful. The thing is, you have to spend time reading profiles, but also read between the lines. The ladies expectations range from next to nothing, to high maintenance ones who will ask you for a monthly agreement, a credit card, vacations, etc. But these extremes are the exception.

Probably met close to 20-30 women on there (or more, I didn’t really count! LOL). Again, a very large spectrum in the types of relationships I had (and still have). Some want money and reluctantly offer sex, and some women are primarily there for sex (like us) and they ask for money simply because it’s easy money. They get to choose who they meet, and the respect you show them at the beginning of the written exchanges is of the utmost importance most of the time. I have also had a few no-shows, either because the girl backed off at the last minute, or she felt so bad about herself about meeting strangers for money that she simply disappeared.

What kind of women are there? Again, the full spectrum! Mostly students, but also women living a separation, or the looser types of girls too, there to do anything for a few bucks... I could tell about so many types!

- The shy student you meet at a coffee, who likes you, and becomes the most devilishly horny woman you can imagine.
- The young woman who likes sex in the morning (6:30am!) and asks you to go wake her up at home every week or so, leaving her door open.
- The sexaholic who is there for her own fun and literally jumps on you and almost rapes you every time she enters the hotel room.
- The one who wants to be abused, inviting you to her place, waiting for you nude on the bed, asking you to fuck her in the dark and leave 100 on the table (didn’t even see her face).
- The young woman you see twice a week for sometime, who gets attracted to you because you help her with different things in her day to day life (helped her move at the last minute, bought her washing/drying machines, etc), and wants to drop the arrangement completely and ask you to move in with her. (It obviously didn’t happen, but although I don’t have sex with her anymore, I still see her every other week and act as a mentor and father figure for her).
- The student living in MTL but from another city, and in need for help at the beginning, but eventually wants to see you every week even when you say you can no longer afford it, for a ridiculous amount per month, and eventually for free, simply because she likes you so much (I had to tell her my wife caught me in order to be able to set her free, she wouldn’t want to let me go).
- The very brainy medecine student would had a kid who died a few years back, was and still is really disturbed by that and couldn’t meet gentlemen in a regular social setting, so turned to SA. She was assistant heart surgeon! She still needed some warmth she couldn’t get otherwise but on SA.
- Women who some men would consider “less desirable”, but SA was a way for them to feel attractive.
- Women who were a deep sh*t financially, and who needed help, SA being a not so bad way to get out of trouble quickly.
- One women who had been in a relation with a single man for the first 10 years of her sexually active life, and I was her 2nd sex partner. Damn was she nervous, but Oh VERY appreciative in the end!
- Also a few escorts, but it’s a small percentage. You can spot them easily in the first written exchange and rule them out.

Bottom line, most are regular women, and it’s really addictive (Yeah, it’s always been my problem!)

Enjoy!

CA

 

[CaptRenault]

For the last 2-3 years I completely stopped seeing SPs and very seldomly saw MPs. I’ve had a number of experiences with Montreal women on SA, and most were delightful. The thing is, you have to spend time reading profiles, but also read between the lines. The ladies expectations range from next to nothing, to high maintenance ones who will ask you for a monthly agreement, a credit card, vacations, etc. But these extremes are the exception.

Probably met close to 20-30 women on there (or more, I didn’t really count! LOL). Again, a very large spectrum in the types of relationships I had (and still have)...

CA, first of all, great to see that you are doing well and enjoying life. I'm sure many other longtime members feel the same about you.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I and others would love to hear more about them. I haven't had nearly the number of experiences you have had on SA, but like you, I have encountered (in person and virtually) a variety of women with a variety of motivations and expectations. Some guys enjoy that and others don't. As I and others have often said, the sugar game is not for everyone.

I hope you stick around here a bit and share your experience and wisdom.

 

[EagerBeaver]

I have met many women on SA and as I said earlier in the thread, and as CA’s post attests, the variety of women, and the variety of motivations and objectives and financial requirements is such that any attempt to characterize or categorize what’s available on SA fails.

One thing I notice a lot lately is an increase in women favoriting my profile. I responded to a few of those favoriting me (only the super hot ones!!!!) and a couple of them were trolling for online arrangements (sexy pics and videos for money). I have done a few of those kinds of arrangements but I don’t do them unless I meet the woman in person first. The trolls who will favorite you usually will be quick to give out their cellphone, send you a “sample video” (which may or may not be the actual girl because she is nude but you don’t see the face), and the usual line is they have to pay their phone bill today and need $60 or their phone will be shut off. The way I handle these trolls is to ask to meet them in person because if they are for real they will. And if you offer them the $60 to meet in person and they still say no, they are exposed as scammers. Beware of these trolls.

CA is right about reading profile language carefully and reading between the lines. If I start messaging I directly ask women what they are looking for or are open to and what financial requirements they have. If you be direct and business like in your inquiries they will respect it and usually respond in kind.

 

[hungry101]

One thing I notice a lot lately is an increase in women favoriting my profile. .

Did you, by any chance, change your profile picture to the one with the yellow smoking jacket? If so, that's not good form sir. How could they resist?

 

[EagerBeaver]

Did you, by any chance, change your profile picture to the one with the yellow smoking jacket? If so, that's not good form sir. How could they resist?

I don’t have a profile pic. The pics in my profile are all private and cannot be viewed unless permission is granted and these were “cold call” favorites. In other words those who are favoriting me unsolicited and don’t know what I look like. They are favoriting based on what they read in my profile, but they probably didn’t read it. That’s the point- it’s trolls looking for a response. I don’t think you read or understood what I posted. Or else you don’t use SA so as to understand what I posted.

 

[Tony2000]

I started out with SPs but have switched to SeekingArrangement. If you find the right girl on SA, there is a much stronger connection - which is important to me. As other posters have indicated, you have to commit A LOT of time to sorting through the profiles and there are sometimes no-shows. But once you find a keeper you can continue for a year or even longer (unless you get bored). Bottom line, each man is looking for something different. To each his own.

 

[CoolAmadeus]

CA, first of all, great to see that you are doing well and enjoying life. I'm sure many other longtime members feel the same about you.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I and others would love to hear more about them. I haven't had nearly the number of experiences you have had on SA, but like you, I have encountered (in person and virtually) a variety of women with a variety of motivations and expectations. Some guys enjoy that and others don't. As I and others have often said, the sugar game is not for everyone.

I hope you stick around here a bit and share your experience and wisdom.

Thanks for your nice comment

I don't really take much time to come here anymore, just once in a while, and I'm no longer fan of the "kiss & tell" approach (reviews). There's not much more I can tell, other than generalities. However, feel free to ask any question, and I'll be pleased to reply if I have an intelligent answer

Wisdom? Naaaahh! Just some experience!

One thing I notice a lot lately is an increase in women favoriting my profile. I responded to a few of those favoriting me (only the super hot ones!!!!) and a couple of them were trolling for online arrangements (sexy pics and videos for money). I have done a few of those kinds of arrangements but I don’t do them unless I meet the woman in person first. The trolls who will favorite you usually will be quick to give out their cellphone, send you a “sample video” (which may or may not be the actual girl because she is nude but you don’t see the face), and the usual line is they have to pay their phone bill today and need $60 or their phone will be shut off. The way I handle these trolls is to ask to meet them in person because if they are for real they will. And if you offer them the $60 to meet in person and they still say no, they are exposed as scammers. Beware of these trolls.

I have experienced the same type of "sollicitation" as well. Before reacting on any woman favoriting me, I first check if she also viewed my profile. It's a very good way to differentiate REAL interest vs interest in your money only. Notice how easy it is to favorite a bunch of people right from the list of people showing on the search screen, without even opening the profile! When they do that, it's clearly and attempt to sollicit your attention, either as an SP, or worst, a scammer trying to lure you in sending her money in exchange of promises about hopes you may have. I normally just block them. As EagerBeaver suggested, never EVER send money up front!

CA

 

[EagerBeaver]

CA,

With that recent type of solicitation I normally assume there is no real interest but if the profile has pics of a very hot looking woman I do respond just to see where it goes, and it typically ends in the kind of exchange I described. The usual MO is to give you a cell # or ask for yours. Once that exchange happens you get a chat going and inevitably there is an invitation to exchange pics and vids for money, coupled with a story that they need money right away. And some will send a teaser pic or video but who knows if it’s the actual girl. Two different times the story I got was, “my phone will be shut off today.” I invite them to meet me for coffee or lunch and on several occasions have offered to give them in cash the $60 they are asking for via Cash App. When they say no to that, that’s when you know for sure they are scammers and probably actually men who are using pics or vids of their GFs. I am fairly certain that is now happening with greater frequency on SA.

One of the reasons I know it’s now happening with greater frequency is because SA has a new rule that if you discuss “exclusively” online only arrangements, you will receive a 24 hour suspension, and you will only be allowed back with messaging privileges if you verify that you watched an instructional video. This was never a board rule until recently. In the past there were tons of college girls selling nude pics and videos as the only arrangements they would do. Now there are scammers on both sides- guys posing as hot SB girls with their own ex or current GF’s pics to scam the SDs, and guys posing as SDs seeking bank info of SBs in order to send them money. Was only a matter of time before SA was infiltrated fully with these scammers and the only way to defeat them is to demand in person meetings as a condition to getting any money.

The SA rule language is somewhat ambiguous and you need to really, really be careful about talking about transactional stuff in SA messages now. The best protocol is to exchange numbers and take it off site once transactional stuff begins to get discussed. Because I have done both online and in person dating arrangements and you risk suspension if you put those proposals out in an SA message and it sounds like it could be “online only”. The scammers know this too, which is why they give out their cell# or ask for yours quickly.

All of the above being said, there are many legit hot girls on SA who will do pics arrangements, dinner dates or both, you just have to be careful and have a really good bullshit radar and filter to identify them.

 

[CoolAmadeus]

Eager,

Thanks for your detailled experiences. I totally agree with what you are describing, but I didn't know about the new SA rules.

I think we are not looking for the same thing though. My point of view about meetings on SA is this: I'm not interrested AT ALL in online stuff, so any favoriting from someone who didn't look at my profile is ruled out. Same thing if a woman requests to see my pictures at the very begining of the conversation (some don't even say Hello! LOL). I have a teaser picture (blurred), but if you're not interrested first by what I have to say (and I have a very long profile), then there's no point. I'm no longer interrested in "empty" sex. I want the woman to enjoy her time not only sexually, but also in getting to know each other as well. I guess I'm right somewhere in my approach, as it works; at least for me!

CA

 

[EagerBeaver]

Most women also get upset if you ask to see their private pics without an even pithy intro message. It’s a sign to them (and maybe to you as well CA) of poor social skills. I get those requests to see my private pics with no message as well. I admit it’s poor form, but my criteria on whether I respond is pretty much whether the SB has really hot pics that are visible or have been shared with me. If she does, I send her my pics, and start a chat. My profile isn’t very long or wordy- it’s pretty short and describes what I like to do in my free time. But I will send a short and pleasant intro that adds something, because it’s what they want to hear and expect, and it’s good form in the game. 90% of the battle on SA, especially with women in my target age range which is college and grad school women, is to convince them that (1) you aren’t a creep and (2) that you are a gentleman/chivalrous. They are looking for someone who they will be comfortable with - at dinner, going out for a coffee, and eventually in intimate situations.

Regarding that new SA rule, I was not aware of it until it was claimed I violated it. I don’t seek exclusively online arrangements, and didn’t in the instance of the claimed rule violation, but the reality is that some women only want to do that, or they only want to do that until they get to know you better and gain your trust. One woman told me that I had to purchase her sexy pics “to prove I am for real”, once she proved that she was for real. I acknowledge that reality, but now I am more careful when doing so in my messaging. Some of the SBs have the mindset to use online arrangements as a starter to something else- it’s safe and comfortable for them especially because they are getting money for pics they can easily take with their phone and edit to blur or obscure their faces. With certain women, sexy pics and videos are for the girl a way to gain trust and feel chemistry develop, and for the SD it’s a nice appetizer to what could be a very tasty entree. But the majority of my arrangements have been traditional intimate dinner date arrangements. It’s just that women are often more open to starting an intimate arrangement with sexy pics and videos and if that’s what you ultimately need to do to get what you are seeking, and you are really attracted to her, why wouldn’t you pursue it?

 

[CaptRenault]

...There's not much more I can tell, other than generalities. However, feel free to ask any question, and I'll be pleased to reply if I have an intelligent answer.

OK, CA, I'd like to know about the financial arrangements that you have made.

Do you usually pay per encounter or do you work out a weekly or monthly allowance?

In either case, what are the typical terms of the deal in dollar amounts and frequency and duration of the meetings?

Also, do you typically meet in an hourly motel or at the residence of the girl?

It would be interesting to know about such things for a city like Montreal, where it is so easy to find great escorts at reasonable prices.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

So where should I take my sweetheart on Tuesday to celebrate our third anniversary?

 

[CaptRenault]

So where should I take my sweetheart on Tuesday to celebrate our third anniversary?

I recommend Ferreira. Great food and service. Not cheap but worth it.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

I recommend Ferreira. Great food and service. Not cheap but worth it.

Wowza, certainly not cheap. Thankfully, neither of us drinks. She is a pescatarian making Ferreira a perfect option. I'll fill you in tomorrow. Thanks.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

I don't really take much time to come here anymore, just once in a while, and I'm no longer fan of the "kiss & tell" approach (reviews). There's not much more I can tell, other than generalities. However, feel free to ask any question, and I'll be pleased to reply if I have an intelligent answer

Let me chime in here as well that it's nice to see you here again. I'm pretty much inactive here myself.

Met my dream girl, woman actually, 33, on SA exactly three years ago. It's been a fabulous ride. For the first couple of years, I'd see the occasional escort when she went home to BC to see her family, but the last few times she went off, I thought about it, but just wasn't in the mood. We're going to Ireland for a couple of weeks next month after which she's going out west again for a week. Remains to be seen if I'll do anything while she's gone.

Enjoy.