From my pov, getting in shape is part of my routine and results are only good collateral damages. I never had goals when I started training, I just love it along with all the good people I meet. For me, it’s just the way I wanted to age and be able to live an active long life (I know nothing is guaranteed).
You probably had all good reasons in the world to become an incell but as the bottle you sent, you seem to have introspection. I went through about the same in my younger years and the problem was not women nor my physicality… It was my attitude toward life in general. I left some negative mind in the closet and went in about for every adventure opportunities I could get involved (changed pretty much all my friends, did new activities, etc)
I didn’t change everything but enough to bring some fun factor without waiting or expecting anything from life and then…you suddenly find that every key has its hole.
Ok, this obviously worked for me and didn’t end like a fairy tale. I am still not the most happy man in the world but it changed me for a better version.
The one that say “what’s next?” with a certain smile.