Feeling guilty

[LeafsSuck]

I am short, fat and bald and always have a good time with the ladies. It's all about your attitude. I also dine out a lot and I can say people are genuinely happy to see me. I'm sure some fake it though!! Tony Robbins has a course on DVD, I would recommend it, my friend swears by it. One day I will borrow it from him and watch it. It can't hurt.

 

[Georgy07]

From my pov, getting in shape is part of my routine and results are only good collateral damages. I never had goals when I started training, I just love it along with all the good people I meet. For me, it’s just the way I wanted to age and be able to live an active long life (I know nothing is guaranteed).

You probably had all good reasons in the world to become an incell but as the bottle you sent, you seem to have introspection. I went through about the same in my younger years and the problem was not women nor my physicality… It was my attitude toward life in general. I left some negative mind in the closet and went in about for every adventure opportunities I could get involved (changed pretty much all my friends, did new activities, etc)

I didn’t change everything but enough to bring some fun factor without waiting or expecting anything from life and then…you suddenly find that every key has its hole.

Ok, this obviously worked for me and didn’t end like a fairy tale. I am still not the most happy man in the world but it changed me for a better version.
The one that say “what’s next?” with a certain smile.

I am not an incel. Im just ugly and fat.

 

[interferon]

This might not be a popular view point with most post telling to lose some weight, get in shape ect... Maybe you should go see a therapist and get some tools to learn
how to love yourself. Those tools might help you with how you are felling and allowing to enjoy other people in and out of this hobby.

Best advice in this thread. Find a good therapist you trust and talking things out that way can help you get new perspectivs. There is no shame at all in talking with a therapist, it just means you care about your self.