How often do you see your regular?

[Romeo99]

Hey merb members!

I'm curious to know how often do you see your regular ? Once a month, once a week?

And girls? How often does your regular client book you?

For me I usually see my atf once every 3 weeks. Around same date every month. Pretty sure she's expecting my text any time soon lol!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I deleted the comment I posted because someone laugh reacted it, and I don't want that reaction to stay on my comment, it's honestly rude and annoying when people do this without responding..

I was mentioning that I consider someone a regular client if he books me once at least once month over a period of at least 4-6 months. But that's not always the case. I have clients I've seen a less often but for over a year. I have one client that I've seen since the very beginning, I appreciate him a lot and he books me for short periods of time, sometimes we go a month or two without seeing each other, but we always end up reconnecting.

To me there's a difference between a regular and a repeat client, some clients will see you a few times over a few months and move on to another SP or something else, which is also fine. I also have clients I've seen a few times over the course of 1 to 3 years, when they're in town. Maybe they would be regulars if they lived here. I always appreciate seeing them.

 

[LC18]

And girls? How often does your regular client book you?

Weekly and if budget allowed it, I know it would be more than once a week

 

[Rebaynia]

And girls? How often does your regular client book you?

One of my most constant regulars, has seen me anywhere from 3 times a week, to going without seeing eachother for 3 months. Depends what is going on in his life. Relationship, job, vacations... ect. Have been seeing him since the very first month I became available almost 2.5 yrs ago.

Other regulars I enjoy seeing are often 1x/month - 1x/3 months. Depends what they can afford, like and want. I fully expect them to be seeing other SPs in that time too. It is up to them who they want to spend time with. I'm just happy when I see their text looking to meet again.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I've had repeat clients who booked me weekly when they were in Montreal for a month or two but honestly one of my goals is to have regulars I see weekly or bi-weekly.. it's pretty rare. this is really my wish for my 4th year as a SP..

 

[puss1985]

Since I have two regulars whom I genuinely enjoy spending time with, and since last summer, I've become less busy, I try to visit them almost every other week. This way, I get to see one of them every week, provided my availability allows

 

[ciscok1d]

Are regular clients generally the type of clients SPs like seeing again? I remember one SP mentioning she had a regular she wasn't all that keen on for whatever reason.

 

[Petit prince]

I used to do

Girl Friend #1: 10h/week+
Girl Friend #2 4h/week
Girl Friend #3 2h/week

For 2 years +

I keep 1h / week for discovery or to say hi to SPs that I see maybe occasionally . understand once in a month… and they still think I am a regular. which is true in a way.

I got even restricted in how many hours I could book at one point because other regulars couldn’t have the chance to meet them sorry

It was a risk to deal only with me and I understand

So I learned how to share even if it’s not fun and reduced the hours and diversified.

But I believe they enjoy the company otherwise they wouldn’t accept so much booking because they have the choice honestly

This Girl friends are lucky compare to others who do not have this type of bookings

The full shifts kind of booking with food & drinks, booked a week in advance with zero no show rate from me. Pretty steady income for them.

They said: you book more hours per week VS my SP work. I said yep.

And it turns out it’s not that fun in the long run.
It was until it’s not. So I don’t book like crazy now. I am more chill.

 

[Rebaynia]

Are regular clients generally the type of clients SPs like seeing again? I remember one SP mentioning she had a regular she wasn't all that keen on for whatever reason.

Regular, would be anyone who we see on a regular/semi-regular pattern, basically constant repeat. More than at least 3 times. Before that it is concidered repeats (in how I see it for myself, I can't speak for how anyone else sees it.)

I can say regulars are more the goal generally, as they are still calling and supporting us year round, not just on a whim out of nowhere. When being contacted by several people at once I will prioritize people I know, and know I enjoy my time with them, over people who I have never met yet.

As for SPs seeing regulars they aren't keen on, not everyone we see is going to be someone we are compatible with, but it is a job, and sometimes we need to compromise for work and accept/or not, who we are willing to see.

It is apparently rather a privledged role I have been told, that I refuse repeats with people I have not enjoyed my time with, preventing them from ever becoming regulars. Most don't have that luxury, and admittedly one I can't really afford either, but for my mental health, and to prevent SW burnout, it is necessary.

 

[bermude]

once every month or 2 for an average of 9 x per year. It depend of my schedule and vacation time, etc.

 

[tishina]

Usually once or twice a year but then two times during that week. If I lived in MTL it would be far more frequently.

 

[Sylar]

Usually once or twice a year but then two times during that week. If I lived in MTL it would be far more frequently.

I’ve only recently started becoming a regular for the first time in this hobby as I was always the explorer type before.

I’d say once every 2-3 weeks when both of us are in town. However we both travel frequently so it’s less in reality.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Are regular clients generally the type of clients SPs like seeing again? I remember one SP mentioning she had a regular she wasn't all that keen on for whatever reason.

Often people come back because there's chemistry and a mutual interest in developing a relationship. Most of the time when I've seen a client more than once we really did get along and like each other.

But it's not always the case.. some regulars or repeat clients can become really demanding and pushy, or get really upset if you're setting a boundary. That's not the majority tho.

My advice: generosity brings generosity. If you want a good relationship with your regular, be generous with her, and this will definitely pay off for you, if you're respectful of course.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

As for SPs seeing regulars they aren't keen on, not everyone we see is going to be someone we are compatible with, but it is a job, and sometimes we need to compromise for work and accept/or not, who we are willing to see.

It is apparently rather a privledged role I have been told, that I refuse repeats with people I have not enjoyed my time with, preventing them from ever becoming regulars. Most don't have that luxury, and admittedly one I can't really afford either, but for my mental health, and to prevent SW burnout, it is necessary.

Yes many of us can't refuse seeing clients we have problems with or choose not to. But I think we have to be more specific here because this is giving the impression that SP's generally keep seeing aggressive clients and boundary pushers... Which isn't true.

I think there's a difference between not seeing a client anymore because we're not compatible vs not seeing a client anymore because he crossed a line. There are clients I've seen again and even kept as regulars even if I had problems with them sometimes. And there are clients I haven't seen again because they did something unacceptable. Everyone's tolerance levels and boundaries are different. But when I worked at MP's there were clients no one wanted to see, or very few SW's accepted

It's a privilege to be able to have regular clients but it's also a privilege for clients to have a good relationship with SP's they see on a regular basis, because we could choose to stop seeing a client at any time, and I think that needs to be understood.

However, yes, having a regular SP can end up bringing special perks! But you have to be realistic about it. It's not because you bring her cake that she'll give you a discount, and if you always see a regular SP at moment and place where she can't spend more time with you, she won't be able to, and that's not due to her being ungrateful.

Offer generosity and kindness and wait until the initiative comes from her and don't expect anything because we're not always in a place where we can offer something more to our regulars.. some of us welcome arrangements tho.

 

[Gazoo64]

Roughly once a week. The chemistry is great, we are familiar with each other, doesn’t feel transactional, etc.

I know what I’m getting and I’m satisfied, so I repeat often.