Continuos SP Cancellations and Your Time

[EagerBeaver]

It was no big deal and I am glad she is comfortable enough with me to just ask me and tell me the truth.

It's one thing when it's a regular, if it's someone you just saw once such honesty would be quite rare (see talking head post). With some very high end HDH ladies, it's always a case of the highest bidder.

I usually found out from the "booker" that was used by these indies, rather than the ladies themselves, that I had gotten outbid.

 

[anatomy]

I can't imagine why so many would cancel like that on you.

I know there are some clients who set up the appointment, then last minute start trowing in curveballs asking for things that are not to the providers taste, that will get them canceled because it makes the provider uncertain and feeling unsafe to see the client. Some will make up excuses, others will tell them straight out when asked why they have been canceled.

Lol... but my guess is if your getting that many cancelations, your finding them on LL. Reputable providers will try not to cancel if they can avoid it.

I'm sorry but whenever this comes up the SP sisterhood always seem to circle the wagons and try to excuse the excuses. You presume too much Rebaynia. These appointments were 1st time with well-known SPs who advertise on the first page of MERB. The only time I booked from LL was after doing research and she, in fact, was reliable. Cut the holier-than-thou attitude and tryng to blame the victim., it sucks.

 

[Rebaynia]

I'm sorry but whenever this comes up the SP sisterhood always seem to circle the wagons and try to excuse the excuses. You presume too much Rebaynia. These appointments were 1st time with well-known SPs who advertise on the first page of MERB. The only time I booked from LL was after doing research and she, in fact, was reliable. Cut the holier-than-thou attitude and tryng to blame the victim., it sucks.

It is not victim blaming. An appointment not working out does not make you a victim. Being scammed out of a deposit does, but not getting to meet someone you were looking to meet does not a victim make.

And was the reason I canceled on 2 people, the very day I wrote that. It isn't an excuse when in my situation that day, it was the reason.

Also i only stated a reason why some might, I didn't say that was your situation either. I might have responded to your message, but you're also not the only one on this forum, and was a point out for others who might be reading and wondering why they are being canceled on. And to learn from others errors.

Only part that had any assumption directly to you, was that they likely came from LL. Which on this forum often seems to be the case. I will take my holier-than-thou attitude and eat it for that part, but the rest was not directed to you specifically. This is a public forum and comments are given out to the masses not you alone.

But yes we all have lives, and there are 1,000,000 reasons and excuses why plans don't happen. Often just means, didn't work out, move on, and pick someone else next time.

I was using LL as an ecuse on your part why they would cancel on you, rather than assuming what I was going threw that day, was what was happening to you.

 

[Merbcc12345]

I can't imagine why so many would cancel like that on you.

I know there are some clients who set up the appointment, then last minute start trowing in curveballs asking for things that are not to the providers taste, that will get them canceled because it makes the provider uncertain and feeling unsafe to see the client. Some will make up excuses, others will tell them straight out when asked why they have been canceled.

Lol... but my guess is if your getting that many cancelations, your finding them on LL. Reputable providers will try not to cancel if they can avoid it.

After reading many of your posts, I have a new appreciation of ladies in your line of work. Truly. And it is not an east thing to say. I would have to say my approach previously was, to say the least, improper. I thank you for all your candid comments. My eyes were opened. Sadly you do the south shore, which for me may as well be Albany. Just a bit far, but i am sure it would be worth the trip. Stay Safe!

 

[Rebaynia]

After reading many of your posts, I have a new appreciation of ladies in your line of work. Truly. And it is not an east thing to say.

Thank you I take that to heart.

I would have to say my approach previously was, to say the least, improper. I thank you for all your candid comments. My eyes were opened.

Good thing I give people with that kind of approach many chances to redo their first impression. Sometimes I'm sure I'm the only one to know how many times someone has retried reaching out to me, until they change their approach. Seems most people delete their messages.

Sadly you do the south shore, which for me may as well be Albany. Just a bit far, but i am sure it would be worth the trip. Stay Safe!

Not sure what you are meaning about doing south shore. I am outcall threwout Montreal, and surrounding area. I don't have a restricted location, I just don't like traveling to other cities.

 

[Merbcc12345]

Thank you I take that to heart.



Good thing I give people with that kind of approach many chances to redo their first impression. Sometimes I'm sure I'm the only one to know how many times someone has retried reaching out to me, until they change their approach. Seems most people delete their messages.



Not sure what you are meaning about doing south shore. I am outcall threwout Montreal, and surrounding area. I don't have a restricted location, I just don't like traveling to other cities.

i was under the impression that you were south shore based. Do you offer incall in Montreal (anywhere but downtown, as the roads are like a war zone)?

 

[Halloween Mike]

Personally my only issue is that there is no "equivalence" in this business.

If you are a client and cancel : You are the bad guy or/and you lose deposits. Hey i agree with that... Its how it should be.

But if you are the SP and cancel : Oh well tough luck budy ... better chance next time...

I know there is some gymnastic saying "its our business, while you do that for fun" wich ok... i can at least understand the reasoning. But if a client goes out of his way to book you, like pay travel, pay hotel, reserve his time... is it ok to just be like "im sorry bud... can we reschedule".

I dunno... for me it kinda feel "not right". Should a discount the equivalent of a deposit be applied next time he schedule and it work?

Je sais que ca peux sembler un peu "bébé" de dire ca ... mais imaginez ... vous etes un parents et votre enfant se leve le jour de Noel... mais ya pas de cadeau en dessous de l'arbre... Et la vous dites a votre enfant "bin dsl le pere noel y pouvais pas passer... y'avais mal au ventre". Moi c'est un peu de meme je me sens quand ya une cancellation surtout 3/4 du temps c'est tellement des excuses bizarres qui cache autre chose. Je sais que bin des clients sont des ... hum je peux pas dire le mot parce que ...rules... lol, mais je suis pas eux. Moi je book, je show up... Meme si j'ai une jambe peter je vais quand meme show up !! (la demoiselle devra juste travailler une tite affaire plus lol). Bref ... juste mon sentiment.