Would you trust me as "Merb's voice" in the open?

[CaptRenault]

Donald Trump is a woman? Anyways you guys are missing my point, I'm out.

When liberals are badly losing a debate, all they can say is "Donald Trump."

 

[Fradi]

I think all that had to be said specifically on my question was said. The majority of you saying its better not to and that everything would be distorded is very likely to happen, so i won't do it. I won't hide that i was a bit emotive that night as it all happened. A mix of disapointement and a bit of anger toward the medias for jumping the shark that much. But the dust is falling, the former Euphoria SPs seem to relocate in different agencies. Of course nothing prevent these journalists from doing another piece in the futur but only time can tell.

I do hope James manage to rebound in some way and not just in this business but i mean in life. I spoke with my cousin who watched the show and he agreed with me that James didn't looked "bad" per se. But considering his face and full name was shown, its still a blow to him. Just hope he is ok mentally and all.

Yeah poor James lol.
He is probably a very rich man, all derived from these women.
He knew the risks, saw what happened with XO and continued on.

Is he ok mentally ? Do you think all those young girls in their 20s that he recruited into prostitution are ok mentally? Yeah they had the option to leave but often you only realize years after the affects of what an escort lifestyle can leave behind and affect you forever.
Do you think these agencies care if these women are ok mentally or is it about $$$.
Do you think most women in this type of work are ok mentally ?

I doubt most young girls dream about becoming a prostitute and many have all kinds of issues of not being able to hold a regular job because of anxiety, drugs, alcohol, being abused before, there are too many reasons to name.
Yes there are some who choose it and can make a great living out of it but I am willing to bet that they are the minority and the majority choose it because they have serious issues preventing them from being able to make a decent living in the civi world.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

When liberals are badly losing a debate, all they can say is "Donald Trump."

I'm not a ''liberal'', I didn't even get a chance to vote, and this isn't even a political debate.. I don't think neoliberal governments like Justin Trudeau's are that great either. We don't align politically but when I'm talking about conservative values, I'm not talking about a political party, although certain governments can be majorly conservative and repressive. Once again, whether somebody aligns themselves with a certain political party doesn't mean they are progressive, or not. People and institutions and organizations are multifaceted.

Those anti prostitution advocacy groups, for instance, view themselves as progressive, but that is because they are not well informed and at this point many of them refuse to have a dialogue. It isn't progressive to be against the rights of sex workers, and criminalizing clients harms sex workers and therefore harms a certain class of women. I would even argue that from a certain point of view it is anti feminist to refuse to look at a certain reality in order to maintain a single narrative, therefore throwing a bunch of women under the bus. It's also anti feminist to deny women the choice to engage in sex work, not because sex work is inherently a desirable and perfect job, but because it is a job that already exists in this system, that some women actually enjoy, or prefer to other forms of labor or marriage.

I said earlier that Donald Trump imposed the Fosta Sesta law. Nobody else did. Same thing with the laws here, they were created by a conservative government. Not an advocacy group. Those are cold hard facts.

You were right, more women are opposed to prostitution than men, according to a random national survey you found through Chatgpt, that I personally haven't been asked to contribute to. lol
This doesn't explain why they are, and if that actually does have an impact on law makers. My opinion is that it probably doesn't. In fact if most men are in favor of legalizing prostitution, that should be taken into consideration by law makers, but it isn't. If most men think the sex industry isn't a negative thing, then the government surely would consider most men's opinion on this.

What makes me upset here is that you guys are implying civilian women don't like that prostitution exists because they feel threatened by prostitution, or because they feel jealous of other women, or something.. this is a ridiculous idea. Also it's not because men are more in favor of legalizing buying and selling sex, that they have a positive opinion of sex workers, and of ''women with loose morals''. Many things can be true at once. I'm not trying to create a gender war here.

 

[Mtl_explorer]

A few posts in this discussion put down "old" male clients over 40... I imagine that affects 80% of Merb members including me , haha..

 

[Sexy Judy]

I will say it again, with a little more insistence.. nobody needs a podcast about Merb and it's users. Nobody needs to draw attention to this place.

Also, to the idea of "good client".. that looks different depending on the person. Maybe you think you're a good client, but that doesn't mean every provider you meet thinks so.
I used to refuse seeing clients who post on Merb a lot.

100% agree !!! I absolutely do not want our platform to be put under the spotlight. Please, let's keep a very low profile. Discretion is essential, and I cannot stress this enough. Some of us do not want to be exposed publicly, and bringing unnecessary attention to our platform could end up doing far more harm than good. I strongly urge everyone to think carefully about the potential consequences before moving forward. Let's nip this in the bud before it escalates into something we can no longer control. Prevention is always better than damage control, and once the spotlight is on us, it may be too late to undo the damage. Please, let's protect our privacy and keep things discreet.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

100% agree !!! I absolutely do not want our platform to be put under the spotlight. Please, let's keep a very low profile. Discretion is essential, and I cannot stress this enough. Some of us do not want to be exposed publicly, and bringing unnecessary attention to our platform could end up doing far more harm than good. I strongly urge everyone to think carefully about the potential consequences before moving forward. Let's nip this in the bud before it escalates into something we can no longer control. Prevention is always better than damage control, and once the spotlight is on us, it may be too late to undo the damage. Please, let's protect our privacy and keep things discreet.

That's also what I was thinking.. It's not good for discretion. I also don't think the idea of a platform intended for reviews of sex workers necessarily needs to be defended.. Merb also doesn't represent clients as a whole, and most users are silent or don't contribute often.

 

[LookAlike]

I’ve been reading everyone’s comments, and I think this conversation is exactly why I’ve decided to create Red Carpet Montréal 2027.


There’s a much bigger purpose behind this event than simply bringing people together for an elegant evening.


After spending so many years in this industry, I’ve come to understand something that I wish more people outside our community understood.


This industry is not simply about sex. It’s about human connection.


Sometimes it’s companionship. Sometimes it’s affection, conversation, intimacy, or simply having someone make you feel appreciated for a few hours. People have different reasons for seeking these experiences, and I don’t believe anyone should automatically be judged for them.


There are gentlemen who understand discretion, respect, boundaries, and the importance of treating a woman with dignity. There are independent women who take enormous pride in their work, their professionalism, and the experiences they provide.


Those are the people and values I want to bring together.


Regarding the recent Enquête report, I have mixed feelings.


I’ve been in this industry long enough to have seen many different sides of it, and my personal experiences haven’t reflected everything being portrayed. That doesn’t mean these situations don’t happen. It means I would like to understand the complete facts before forming an opinion or condemning anyone.


I’m not here to defend any particular agency, and I’m certainly not here to excuse exploitation, coercion, or mistreatment.


If women are being abused or exploited, they deserve to be heard, protected, and taken seriously. Period.


But I also believe there’s an important distinction between exploitation and consenting adults who independently choose to participate in this industry.


Working through an agency doesn’t automatically mean someone is being exploited, just as working independently doesn’t guarantee that someone is safe.


Some women prefer agencies because they don’t want to handle advertising, scheduling, screening, or administration. Others, like myself, prefer managing their own businesses.


Neither choice should automatically define someone’s character or experience.


What matters is how women are treated, whether their choices and boundaries are respected, and whether appropriate safety measures exist.


I also believe agencies have a responsibility to establish proper screening, verify identities and legal eligibility, provide guidance to newcomers, and make sure women understand their rights and can refuse situations without pressure.


Experience and mentorship can make a tremendous difference.


Now, regarding the idea of speaking publicly, I understand the concerns expressed here.


The media can absolutely influence public perception, and not always fairly. A complicated industry can quickly be reduced to a sensational headline.


But I also wonder what happens when the only stories the public hears are the worst ones.


Where are the stories about the women who have built successful independent businesses? The gentlemen who have always behaved respectfully? The people who have found genuine companionship, confidence, or comfort through these experiences?


Those stories exist too.


And they deserve to be acknowledged.


That doesn’t mean everyone needs to reveal their identity, appear on television, or sacrifice their privacy to make a difference.


In fact, I believe discretion should remain one of the foundations of our community.


And that brings me back to Red Carpet Montréal 2027.


I’m creating this event to bring together the ladies and gentlemen of MERB, TERB, and PERB in an environment built around mutual respect, discretion, safety, and unity.


Not to expose anyone.


Not to create controversy.


Not to defend everything that happens in this industry.


But to encourage meaningful conversations between people who actually understand it.


I would love to see experienced independents supporting newcomers, gentlemen sharing constructive perspectives, and women from different communities exchanging knowledge about safety, boundaries, and professionalism.


I would also love to see more solidarity instead of division.


Because whether someone works independently or through an agency, every woman deserves to feel safe, respected, and in control of her own decisions.


And gentlemen who conduct themselves respectfully shouldn’t automatically be portrayed as predators simply because they seek companionship.


I believe we can acknowledge the problems that exist without pretending those problems represent everyone.


To Halloween Mike, I appreciate your willingness to bring forward a positive perspective. But I also understand why others are urging caution. Both perspectives deserve consideration.


If we want the public to understand this industry differently, we need to be thoughtful about how we approach that conversation, who participates, and what we’re trying to accomplish.


My next Self-Made blog will explain more about the vision behind Red Carpet Montréal 2027 and why this project means so much to me.


I’m not trying to put our community in the spotlight. I’m trying to bring our community together so that we can build something better from within.


Because discretion and dignity can coexist with unity.


And sometimes, real change doesn’t begin in front of a camera.


It begins when the right people finally sit down at the same table.


Christina Di Milano


The Art of Prestance

Interesting. I would be interested to be a participant of your project .

 

[mauricevachon]

Halloween Mike could absolutely be trusted to go public.

It would literally be the first time most Canadians heard a Hobbyist/John speak out.

Key points:

1) Escort safety is the key issue.

2) Making sex work illegal drives the industry underground and leaves the field open to bad actors.
Sex work should be legalized.
Immediately.

3) Hiring more police will make things worse.

The police will close existing online "companionship" agencies were there is at least some oversight ability.

Increasing police actions will drive escorts to become street walkers, leaving them vulnerable to pimps, violent offenders.

4) Benefits of sex work:

- "The only difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for free costs more."
- The cost of living is simply un-affordable for most young women.
Many of which are on increasing numbers of drugs and anti-depressants.
- That's particularly true of university education ... which affects women more than men.

5) Warning: They will try to drag you into the mud.

Do NOT speak about details of sex acts.
Not a word.
Stock answer:

"The government (and to a certain degree the media) have no business in the bedrooms of this nation."

*****

That said it's unclear whether anyone could speak for Merb.cc except the owner.
(It is still Mike Service?)

 

[interferon]

To answer the original post it's not a matter of trusting you or not, it's that one person cnnot represent the many different voices/povs/opinions on here. If you want to do it go ahead, but represent only yourself, not merb, keep merb out of it.

 

[neverbored]

So this topic has been in my head since I woke up... and no matter how I spin it, I only think of bad outcome. @Halloween Mike , I get that you would want to help in your way.... but Imagine these headlines with your name and face attached as the thumbnail.

Note that the terms used aren't representative of who you are, but understand that the media will slap anything that can be controversial and shocking. And I think it could be 100X more destructive than what I came up with. Again, I don't think Johns are the voice that helps in this situation. You already pay for sex... of course you'll defend it kind of thing.

Examples:

Q: Have you ever unknowingly paid someone being exploited?
A: "Not knowingly, but I can't speak for everyone's circumstances"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "Frequent prostitution client admits he may have helped finance human trafficking and has no way of knowing how many victims he's paid"

Q: Why do you review escorts online?
A: "Sharing experiences helps other clients make informed choices"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "Men rate women's bodies and sexual performances online like consumer products looking for the best bargain"

Q: What if your daughter became an escort?
A: "I'd worry about her safety, but ultimately respect her decisions"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "Man who pays for sex says he'd accept his own daughter selling her body to strangers despite the risks of rape, violence and exploitation"

Q: Who gave you the authority to represent escort clients?
A: "Nobody. I'm simply offering a perspective that's rarely heard"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "Self-appointed spokesman for an online community of johns, incels and sexual deviants demands society listen to men who pay women for sex"

Q: Can consent really exist when money is involved?
A: "Consenting adults should be free to make their own decisions"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "John with 6000 reviews insists money buys sexual consent"

Q: Why pay for intimacy?
A: "I appreciate the freedom from traditional relationship expectations"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "Incel spokesperson admits he’d be a 40-year-old virgin if it weren’t for hookers"

Q: Is prostitution empowering?
A: "For some women, it offers financial independence"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "Man who pays women to satisfy his sexual urges from porn addiction claims prostitution is empowering and calls it financial independence"

Q: Have you ever considered how your activities affect these women?
A: "I always try to be respectful and considerate"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "John who purchases women's bodies believes saying please and thank you makes sexual exploitation acceptable"

Q: Is there anything wrong with a 40-year-old man paying for sex with an 18-year-old escort?
A: "She's legally an adult. As long as it's consensual, I don't see the problem"

Spoiler: Click for Headline example

Headline: "Official spokesman for sex buyers says there's nothing wrong with middle-aged men lining up to pay teenage girls for sex the moment they turn 18"

 

[Sexy Judy]

I’ve been reading everyone’s comments, and I think this conversation is exactly why I’ve decided to create Red Carpet Montréal 2027.


There’s a much bigger purpose behind this event than simply bringing people together for an elegant evening.


After spending so many years in this industry, I’ve come to understand something that I wish more people outside our community understood.


This industry is not simply about sex. It’s about human connection.


Sometimes it’s companionship. Sometimes it’s affection, conversation, intimacy, or simply having someone make you feel appreciated for a few hours. People have different reasons for seeking these experiences, and I don’t believe anyone should automatically be judged for them.


There are gentlemen who understand discretion, respect, boundaries, and the importance of treating a woman with dignity. There are independent women who take enormous pride in their work, their professionalism, and the experiences they provide.


Those are the people and values I want to bring together.


Regarding the recent Enquête report, I have mixed feelings.


I’ve been in this industry long enough to have seen many different sides of it, and my personal experiences haven’t reflected everything being portrayed. That doesn’t mean these situations don’t happen. It means I would like to understand the complete facts before forming an opinion or condemning anyone.


I’m not here to defend any particular agency, and I’m certainly not here to excuse exploitation, coercion, or mistreatment.


If women are being abused or exploited, they deserve to be heard, protected, and taken seriously. Period.


But I also believe there’s an important distinction between exploitation and consenting adults who independently choose to participate in this industry.


Working through an agency doesn’t automatically mean someone is being exploited, just as working independently doesn’t guarantee that someone is safe.


Some women prefer agencies because they don’t want to handle advertising, scheduling, screening, or administration. Others, like myself, prefer managing their own businesses.


Neither choice should automatically define someone’s character or experience.


What matters is how women are treated, whether their choices and boundaries are respected, and whether appropriate safety measures exist.


I also believe agencies have a responsibility to establish proper screening, verify identities and legal eligibility, provide guidance to newcomers, and make sure women understand their rights and can refuse situations without pressure.


Experience and mentorship can make a tremendous difference.


Now, regarding the idea of speaking publicly, I understand the concerns expressed here.


The media can absolutely influence public perception, and not always fairly. A complicated industry can quickly be reduced to a sensational headline.


But I also wonder what happens when the only stories the public hears are the worst ones.


Where are the stories about the women who have built successful independent businesses? The gentlemen who have always behaved respectfully? The people who have found genuine companionship, confidence, or comfort through these experiences?


Those stories exist too.


And they deserve to be acknowledged.


That doesn’t mean everyone needs to reveal their identity, appear on television, or sacrifice their privacy to make a difference.


In fact, I believe discretion should remain one of the foundations of our community.


And that brings me back to Red Carpet Montréal 2027.


I’m creating this event to bring together the ladies and gentlemen of MERB, TERB, and PERB in an environment built around mutual respect, discretion, safety, and unity.


Not to expose anyone.


Not to create controversy.


Not to defend everything that happens in this industry.


But to encourage meaningful conversations between people who actually understand it.


I would love to see experienced independents supporting newcomers, gentlemen sharing constructive perspectives, and women from different communities exchanging knowledge about safety, boundaries, and professionalism.


I would also love to see more solidarity instead of division.


Because whether someone works independently or through an agency, every woman deserves to feel safe, respected, and in control of her own decisions.


And gentlemen who conduct themselves respectfully shouldn’t automatically be portrayed as predators simply because they seek companionship.


I believe we can acknowledge the problems that exist without pretending those problems represent everyone.


To Halloween Mike, I appreciate your willingness to bring forward a positive perspective. But I also understand why others are urging caution. Both perspectives deserve consideration.


If we want the public to understand this industry differently, we need to be thoughtful about how we approach that conversation, who participates, and what we’re trying to accomplish.


My next Self-Made blog will explain more about the vision behind Red Carpet Montréal 2027 and why this project means so much to me.


I’m not trying to put our community in the spotlight. I’m trying to bring our community together so that we can build something better from within.


Because discretion and dignity can coexist with unity.


And sometimes, real change doesn’t begin in front of a camera.


It begins when the right people finally sit down at the same table.


Christina Di Milano

Let's do this babe !!!
Post in the Lounge so de can discuss about it there .
Im already shopping my dress LOL
Cant wait

 

[EastWind]

Ok first of all i am still unsure if ill do it because even in my situation it means a lot. So consider this "testing the water"

But i want your opinion as in would you guys trust me to represent you guys in medias? Like not merb per say as an entity of course but clients overall.

I wanted for a long time to give my version on the business but i never pulled the trigger. Im thinking maybe Sonia Von Sacher's podcast (if she want to have me) or similar outlets. Maybe even more mainstream but i doubt they would give me a voice.

Lots of you know me. I been around a while..

I don't have much to "lose" like im single, my familly and friends know i do it... It could close some doors for "the futur" but im 40+ now...

Like im not a young guy...

Give me your opinions ...

You do you honestly but be prepared for the consequences and the onslaught that is most likely to come out of this. This hobby is not something I talk about and tell everyone so if you are trying to speak for me or not doesn’t really put any negative and positive dents or impacts. Unless after you coming out the prices drops to $100 an hour then I would thank you and pay off a few of your sessions lol.