I entered this hobby in my very early 20s. Now, I am 25.
2025, I met an escort almost once a month. I decided to withdraw after a very bad experience towards the end of the year. Instead, I've been spending on strip clubs. I find it to be better value in terms of $/hr and many times safer. I tried to see an escort a few weeks ago (see my history), but I got a bait and switch. After the past year, I've become more selective in whom I book. Still a LL gambler but opting for highly reviewed women instead (Like sweet.cherry. Might see her soon when she comes back to downtown!)
I don't believe this hobby has ruined my relationships with women. In fact, having my sexual needs filled has made it easier to form genuine connections with women. I'm very early in my financial journey, but I imagine hobbying is like being financially independent; where you are not beholden to a job you don't enjoy. Likewise, I seek out friendships with women whose company I enjoy, in the same manner I seek friendships with men. Although I do often wonder if that friendship would persist if they knew of my hobbying.
I did ask a friend, jokingly, if we would still be friends if I engaged with sex workers. She said yes, but keep it to myself like any other sexual activity.
I work out regularly. I have a girl I'm fwb with who asks me why I have so many female friends but I only sleep with her. I've had women compliment me on my facial complexion and its symmetry. I have a fairly complex skincare routine by most men's standards. I sometimes surprise women when I discuss skincare ingredients with them. I've had escorts ask me if I was underage. I prefer to be humble but I think I'm good-looking. Not 10/10 but above average to the point that some women wonder if I'm gay (again, if only they knew of this hobby).
To your point about objectification, admittedly, I've sometimes looked at a young woman and wondered what price, if any, would she accept.
I've almost entirely stopped spending on escorts. Instead, I have diverted most of it towards investing and a fraction of what I was spending on escorts into real dates instead. I've found it to be more fulfilling. The emotional value in spending time with women who are interested in you is way more than escorts could offer at a fraction of the cost.
I see myself leaving this hobby soon. I see my money better spent on cultivating myself and my relationships with women. I imagine I'll be like many of the older gentlemen here who hobbied in their 20s, quit for decades, and came back after they grew their wealth.
2025, I met an escort almost once a month. I decided to withdraw after a very bad experience towards the end of the year. Instead, I've been spending on strip clubs. I find it to be better value in terms of $/hr and many times safer. I tried to see an escort a few weeks ago (see my history), but I got a bait and switch. After the past year, I've become more selective in whom I book. Still a LL gambler but opting for highly reviewed women instead (Like sweet.cherry. Might see her soon when she comes back to downtown!)
I don't believe this hobby has ruined my relationships with women. In fact, having my sexual needs filled has made it easier to form genuine connections with women. I'm very early in my financial journey, but I imagine hobbying is like being financially independent; where you are not beholden to a job you don't enjoy. Likewise, I seek out friendships with women whose company I enjoy, in the same manner I seek friendships with men. Although I do often wonder if that friendship would persist if they knew of my hobbying.
I did ask a friend, jokingly, if we would still be friends if I engaged with sex workers. She said yes, but keep it to myself like any other sexual activity.
I work out regularly. I have a girl I'm fwb with who asks me why I have so many female friends but I only sleep with her. I've had women compliment me on my facial complexion and its symmetry. I have a fairly complex skincare routine by most men's standards. I sometimes surprise women when I discuss skincare ingredients with them. I've had escorts ask me if I was underage. I prefer to be humble but I think I'm good-looking. Not 10/10 but above average to the point that some women wonder if I'm gay (again, if only they knew of this hobby).
To your point about objectification, admittedly, I've sometimes looked at a young woman and wondered what price, if any, would she accept.
I've almost entirely stopped spending on escorts. Instead, I have diverted most of it towards investing and a fraction of what I was spending on escorts into real dates instead. I've found it to be more fulfilling. The emotional value in spending time with women who are interested in you is way more than escorts could offer at a fraction of the cost.
I see myself leaving this hobby soon. I see my money better spent on cultivating myself and my relationships with women. I imagine I'll be like many of the older gentlemen here who hobbied in their 20s, quit for decades, and came back after they grew their wealth.
