What's your experience as a young hobbyist ? Or what was your experience like if you started young ?

[JustIndude]

For context, I’ve been hobbying for a few years. I started in my mid 20s, I'm currently in my late 20s.

long story short, as dumb as it might sound, I started hobbying cause I wanted to get over a girl and my huge ego wouldn't let me text her back. Out of curiosity, I looked up and found an SP who had a similar physique to her, I enjoyed the experience and discovered more SPs I was attracted to, and I"ve never stopped.

I have a fairly busy life, long hours at work, gym, and personal projects. The little free time I get, I try to spend it with friends and family, so I haven't really been dating, in fact, I have been single the whole time since I started hobbying. I'm slowly starting to realize that I'm having less and less emotional connections with civic women, and that need or urge is slowly fading away.

I've had instances when I'd meet a new SP and they would ask me "'why are you here ?'' ''why don't you get a girlfriend'' or ''you're so young''. I used to brush it off and come up with some dump excuses like "'I just got off a relationship'' then I'd change the subject. Now that I replay those scenarios in my head, I'm starting to feel like there might be something wrong with me ?

Just today, I was coming out of a great session with an SP downtown, I was kind low on energy and decided to grab a coffee. I locked eyes with a cute girl at the shop, we both smiled, we glanced at each other a couple more times (in my early 20s I would have 100% talked to her and try to get her number) but in that moment, she reminded me of an SP I saw a couple times and it kinda felt pointless cause I've already experienced it ?! In retrospect I kinda objectified that girl and it feels like shit.

Sorry for the long post, I'm trying to make sense of these thoughts and feelings.

Maybe this has been asked before, but what is or was your experience like as a young hobbyist ?
Do you ever feel like it affects your dating life or relationships ?
Has your approach on dating or women changed since you started hobbying ?
Do you ever need to take a break from the hobby to build that aspect of your life ? or does it come naturally to you ?

I'm fortunate enough to afford to see one or two SPs per week, not every week but it's been kinda consistent for the past few years. Is that way too much ?

 

[twenty4seven]

I'm fortunate enough to afford to see one or two SPs per week, not every week but it's been kinda consistent for the past few years. Is that way too much ?

I'm not in the right age range for this question (only started seeing providers just over a year ago) and never saw anyone other than a gf during those years but I'm in this ballpark for sp spending, myself, so I'm not a great judge but I'm comfortable and it's within my budget so who cares?

 

[mtlspacial]

For context, I’ve been hobbying for a few years. I started in my mid 20s, I'm currently in my late 20s.

long story short, as dumb as it might sound, I started hobbying cause I wanted to get over a girl and my huge ego wouldn't let me text her back. Out of curiosity, I looked up and found an SP who had a similar physique to her, I enjoyed the experience and discovered more SPs I was attracted to, and I"ve never stopped.

I have a fairly busy life, long hours at work, gym, and personal projects. The little free time I get, I try to spend it with friends and family, so I haven't really been dating, in fact, I have been single the whole time since I started hobbying. I'm slowly starting to realize that I'm having less and less emotional connections with civic women, and that need or urge is slowly fading away.

I've had instances when I'd meet a new SP and they would ask me "'why are you here ?'' ''why don't you get a girlfriend'' or ''you're so young''. I used to brush it off and come up with some dump excuses like "'I just got off a relationship'' then I'd change the subject. Now that I replay those scenarios in my head, I'm starting to feel like there might be something wrong with me ?

Just today, I was coming out of a great session with an SP downtown, I was kind low on energy and decided to grab a coffee. I locked eyes with a cute girl at the shop, we both smiled, we glanced at each other a couple more times (in my early 20s I would have 100% talked to her and try to get her number) but in that moment, she reminded me of an SP I saw a couple times and it kinda felt pointless cause I've already experienced it ?! In retrospect I kinda objectified that girl and it feels like shit.

Sorry for the long post, I'm trying to make sense of these thoughts and feelings.

Maybe this has been asked before, but what is or was your experience like as a young hobbyist ?
Do you ever feel like it affects your dating life or relationships ?
Has your approach on dating or women changed since you started hobbying ?
Do you ever need to take a break from the hobby to build that aspect of your life ? or does it come naturally to you ?

I'm fortunate enough to afford to see one or two SPs per week, not every week but it's been kinda consistent for the past few years. Is that way too much ?

Hey Justin,

I personnaly started in my 20's as well (now I am 48). But never been really active except on a few occasions when I was single. I had stopped for about 15 years and started again 2-3 years ago only occasionally. Now I find myself more active.
I am not going to complain about my first experiences when I started, because it was pretty awesome. I was overseas, young and it was great sex. However, for me, hobbying doesn't beat the deep emotional connection you can have with a compatible sexual partner. I have met some amazing SP's who provided me with awesome moments. But, it never felt the same as civilian sex.

 

[JustIndude]

I'm not in the right age range for this question (only started seeing providers just over a year ago) and never saw anyone other than a gf during those years but I'm in this ballpark for sp spending, myself, so I'm not a great judge but I'm comfortable and it's within my budget so who cares?

Glad to know that someone else thinks that's reasonable spending. On the financial part, I'm good, but I'm just curious if there might be some unintended consequences on an emotional or psychological level at that rate of seeing different providers on weekly basis. Maybe I'm just overthinking it

 

[JustIndude]

Hey Justin,

I personnaly started in my 20's as well (now I am 48). But never been really active except on a few occasions when I was single. I had stopped for about 15 years and started again 2-3 years ago only occasionally. Now I find myself more active.
I am not going to complain about my first experiences when I started, because it was pretty awesome. I was overseas, young and it was great sex. However, for me, hobbying doesn't beat the deep emotional connection you can have with a compatible sexual partner. I have met some amazing SP's who provided me with awesome moments. But, it never felt the same as civilian sex.

Thank you for your response, I feel the same way. I appreciate hobbying, I've had so great experiences, but they are all fleeting. I wonder if hobbying is making me less likely to approach a potential sexual partner in my civilian life, is it still worth at that point ?

By the way, what made you stop for 15 years if you don't mind sharing ?

 

[Vardhan945]

I started in my late 20s for the exact same reason as you. dated the same girl from 19-26 with very little experience with other ladies.

I cant say ive had those types of reactions from SPs though...I would recommend seeing Indies, especially well reviewed ones on here although theres some gems amongst agency girls as well...
If you dont mind me asking do you look really young ?

Theres nothing wrong with you man. if anything the fact that you felt bad for "objectifying" the girl in that instance shows you have a stronger moral conscience than most IMHO