I don't doubt that you did your homework about him before agreeing to hire him, Maria. After all, I'm sure you have the verification of hobbyists down to a science, so a photographer should have been a walk in the park. It's a shame that you found that "one," the one I would personally slap around, because it gives guys like me a bad name even though I have a lot of great references. Considering who I know (pornstars), I've been around a lot of creepy guys, fans and crew (production people are way less creepy than fans), yet I find what this "mid-pro" did to you quite disturbing. If he got excited by your strap-on, maybe he wanted to be pegged, lol. In any case, I still would have fired him, taken the time wasted as a loss, and hired someone else. You mentioned you had a second day with him... being nervous because of his behavior would never result in your best pics no matter how talented the photographer. And if he is the one who took the current "portrait" pics on your site, not to toot my own horn, but I shoot better than that on my worst day, and I don't consider myself a pro... and most of my true pro friends make me look like a hobbyist with a camera phone.
I'm usually very busy when I'm in Montreal, but if we can coordinate schedules, I'd be happy to shoot you for an hour or two with no obligations... you don't have to pay me, f*ck me, or watch me touch myself, lol... in fact, bring a friend, gf, or family member along, providing they shut up and don't interrupt the process. Ok, I lied... one obligation... if you like my work, give me photo credits/reference.