The Bitching thread

[LeDodo]

He's not wrong, and taken outside of a local (NA) context that would absolutely be the prevailing general attitude and It is with many people here too. The thing is that it's important to take in the entire tapestry of the mongering experience and to make the distinction between the small group of SPs we know here on the board and the total population of SPs at large. I think we all agree that you could probably pay deposits to the ladies that post here and they would very likely treat them responsibly. However, when making statements of this type we're talking about everybody, not just the 6-10 SPs who post here regularly. I think everyone would also agree that there's a lot of con artists out there that the ladies on this board are not representative of, but who vastly outnumber the ladies here. Those ladies do not inspire the same level of confidence and trust and as mentioned there's a lot more of them. If you're going to make a rule it might as well be a consistent general rule and cover the majority of the likely experiences. Everyone can make their own decisions in that regard.

That's the thing, his grain of salt experience is not representative of all the clients experience same as you consider the population of escort of honest escorts here.

The point here is not to disagree with the existence of scam from escorts (genuine or scammers) nor the existence of legit escorts honoring their service.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Why would you? There are providers who will not see you without one

So? There is plenty of others, their losses , not mine!

 

[urquell]

That's the thing, his grain of salt experience is not representative of all the clients experience same as you consider the population of escort of honest escorts here.

The point here is not to disagree with the existence of scam from escorts (genuine or scammers) nor the existence of legit escorts honoring their service.

We don't really know what his experience is. We just know he's new to MERB. He can talk about that if he wants to.

I know that my level of experience certainly isn't zero or close to it and I agree with him. I've also been quite clear about making the distinction between the separate groups of people on both sides of the transaction as well as empathizing on why deposits can and should be requested and why from the other standpoint they shouldn't be paid. It's all about an individual assumption of risk and their comfort level, and to a certain lesser degree for some guys the focused desire to see a particular SP. There's not really a right or wrong answer here, just the answer that's best for you.

I'm going to qualify the above with a single statement. You should never provide a deposit in a way that discloses your personal information, nor screening that does the same. There is never a good reason for any monger to do that under any circumstances no matter who the SP is.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I feel like everybody missed the point here lol.

This is the bitching thread.

I was bitching about the fact that I don't require deposits, and that people are able to cancel appointments without suffering any consequences, which has happened many times recently.

And I was bitching about the fact that people constantly bitch about deposits, not understanding why they exist.

And the people who bitch about deposits appeared and did their thing and missed the point.

I still don't require deposits.

And yes there are scammers who are not escorts - usually pimps or people who aren't genuinely providing services. Nobody denied this.

 

[The_super_dude]

So, then what's the best rule of thumb to avoid scams from escorts?