Taking care of our own - meaning SPs

[amelie]

Il y a déjà une liste chez Stella d'agence ou on peu aller travailler et on m'a dit que les mauvaises on été enlevé de la liste.

- l'Ordre des agents d'escortes du Québec: les filles pourraient appeler avant de choisir, question de savoir si l'agent est en règle ou si d'autres avant elles ont porté plainte

- La Société de protection des escortes, et son mensuel 'Protégez-vous': vendu dans tous les bons dépanneurs, accompagné, gracieuseté de Stella, de l'excellent 'Bad Client List'

- La Charte des droits du consommateur: 1) le droit de ne pas être pris pour une valise (pleine de cash); 2) le droit de payer pour être baisé non pas d'être baisé par des faiseurs de fausse publicité (il était une fois Mcdo qui vendait des hamburgers '100%' vraie viande...)

Ridicule,

t76

Avoir le droit de refuser un client qu'on a déjà eu et qui nous a fait mal. Ou de prendre le droit. Je suis très tolérante, mais pour ça, non ça ne fonctionne pas. Il y a les maladies, mais aussi les gens qui nous font mal.

Pour ce qui est de la question sur... bonne ou mauvaise escorte, je sais qu'il y a des agences qui font tester leur fille à l'interne. Et bon quand tu es réceptionniste, c'est pas trop long que tu sais ce que la fille donne comme service. Je crois pas qu'on est besoin d'attendre trois mois pour le savoir. Même qu'on voudrait avoir les meilleures reviews du monde... il y a des fois ou la magie ne fonctionne pas. On a beau être douce, aimable et gentille, on a aussi le droit de se respecter quand on a affaire à un homme qui est tout sauf un gentlemen.

Pourquoi les filles qui font du GFE ne demande pas à leur client une preuve réscente de résultats médicaux avant de commencer une scéance??? C'est clair que je vais me faire ridiculiser... En théorie c'est bien beau... mais en pratique c'est tout autre.

 

[amelie]

««-How can we help ladies transition out of SPing? I am looking at school, jobs (thank Roxanna), financial aid, support, etc...»»

Cette question aussi avait été soulevé par Stella, il y a même un programme qui à été écrit dans ce sens. La dame qu'il l'a écrit avait soulevé que Stella avait été là pour elle quand elle a commencé et qu'elle aimerais aussi que Stella soi là quand elle arrêterait...

Pour le planning finacier aussi il y a des références chez Stella, et une bonne en plus de ça. (ok je comprend que les références soi peut-être plus en français, beaucoup de traduction y sont présente et je sais aussi qu'il y en a chez Stella qui son plus anglophone que francophone.)

M'enfin idéaliste que je suis, j'espère vous voir en grand nombre lors des comités de travail. Même si nous avons toutes nos visions et nos espérances, j'espère qu'on pourras s'unir pour continuer à travailler dans la dignité!

Anik dit moi que tu connais Stella?

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Pour les finances ce qui aide aussi c'est d'avoir un but, un condo, un voyage, une maison à acheter, retour aux études... peu importe le projet. Ça aide à mettre de l'argent de côté.

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Et moi je voudrais des cours d'anglais... it's very long to translate all the post with Bable fish.

 

[Just-ass-weet]

I apologize

I won't be answering anything on the boards until after the 8th - I turned my originally planned tour of the USA into a vacation and decided not to bring my computer - airport delays has me at a terminal right now - but otherwise, I am disconnected... I promise to reply once I am home on the 8th!

xoxox
Anik

 

[vodka236]

As promise, a forum has been created. Everybody is welcome.
Obviously, there is still no content.
As an administrator, I will "try" to remain impartial.
The best thing about it... no censorship (free speech).
You are required to register then login to view the forum (privacy).
The server is slow but it use low power consumption.
Hope it will be useful while waiting for Stella forum.

http://ferb.no-ip.org

take care,

vodka236

 

[Candy Baby]

I have registered....

Thank you so much Vodka...Hopefully SPs will take advantage of the board and use it as a reference and will give their input as much as they have here and on other boards throughout the years.

I have one question for you ... are there any sections on the new board that will not be accessible, not even view, to non-SPs? I ask this because I would not post any information concerning any particular agency, knowing that the information was viewable by all, and risk getting my butt whipped for it.

Candy

 

[vodka236]

Ah ! Finally got in !

Hey thanks !

Jessy xxx, you're welcome.

Thank you so much Vodka...Hopefully SPs will take advantage of the board and use it as a reference and will give their input as much as they have here and on other boards throughout the years.

I have one question for you ... are there any sections on the new board that will not be accessible, not even view, to non-SPs? I ask this because I would not post any information concerning any particular agency, knowing that the information was viewable by all, and risk getting my butt whipped for it.

Candy

Candy baby, yes it has already been done it's called the "VIP section".
All sp members have now a VIP status. I'm a bit reluctant to add
anyone based on their member name only. PM through merb would be the
best, i think. I will judge on your merb profile or reference from a
known merb sp member. This will protect the SP community from outsiders.

Vodka, great idea, but having an SP-board moderated by non-SPs seems to me to defeat the purpose of 'a place for SPs to talk openly between themselves'...

Anik, get back in town I know this baby is your next project.

my 2 cents,

t76

t76, yes indeed a sp-moderator would be needed.

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I've realized that some may just want to see the forum without having to
remember their password or login each time, so here is a guest account.
All sections are viewable (except for the VIP section which is reserved
to (ex)SP only). I prefer to hide the content of our forum from general
public because I don't want search engine robot to fetch members profile
(email spammer) or archive private gallery photos and weblinks. The thing
I like the most about this project is we have full control of the data location.
We do not rely on any webhosting to store our senstive data. No payment.
No delay. No censorship. It is located on a physically accessible server that
I can fix in-situ and restore backup data when needed (Server attacks,
blackout, hardware failure, etc.)

username: demo
password: demo

A forum is a very powerful tool...

vodka236

 

[Melody]

Well...

Hi to all of you... (sorry my english is kind of poor)

I'm Melody, some of you already know me (well a little), I have been out of here for a looong while... Almost since I have discovered that site though. I guess approximatly three years ago.

When I first came on merb, it was not only my first viewing of an "escort review" board... It was actually almost my first contact with a board (forum). Since then, I have been on a few board (mostly webmasters boards and others) so now I know a little better the game... or the "thing" whatever. (I mean, people telling "n'importe quoi" or games between old timer and newbies... etc... you know...).

Although, I'm now not SO horrified by this board like I was at first, well, I still think the same way... there is still a big lack of maturity (intellectual and sexual) in here for this tool to be a really usefull tool. I mean, how many people knows how to use merb in a good way ? 5% ? 3% ? 1,2 %
Now, dont tell me how it works and how it's good and how this can be usefull... I know it...pretty well actually and I have used it myself but I dont think that everybody can do it well... (please don't get mad with what I'm writing here... that's how I think)

I know plenty of you will think I'm some kind of little "prétentieuse" or frustrated girl... or either that I'm too sensitive... I'm so not too sensitive mais je ne peux m'empecher de mettre les choses en perspective that's it... and I don't wanna change!

So now, about what Anik brings here in this topic, there is already Stella who exist and I dont know them that much. I think they do a good job and brings some very usefull tools and services for SPs and even for the costumers, so, for those who dont know them go and have a look http://www.chezstella.org

I tought many time in the past about involving myself (not sure of what I'm writing here, I mean "m'impliquer") in some way with stella group. But I did not. Now, in the past few weeks I got some new experiences and I was quite surprised...Well, not surprised I should say, but I got some confirmation on what I tought. Now I think it may be the time for me to kick my ass and do something for the girls!!

I'll just tell you what happened to me... of course you will probably think "Well, that's nothing!! There is so many really bad things that happen to the sex workers"... But, I know that!!!!! I just want to share what I was "not so surprised" about and what you all already knows...that's it!!

First of all, I have been an indy for more than 3 years... I had only one bad experience in all this time (I must say I have never done tons of clients a week though). Anyway... A few weeks ago, as I was tired of doing all the work by myself (taking care of website, publicity, SEO, receptionist, anwsering emails, cleaning the place etc) I deceided to try something different...

First, I wanted to try with an acency... mmmphf... well, I realised quickly that there's no place there for someone who dont want to do GFE (I mean here, unprotected oral sex)... people were telling me that there is no call for a safe-GFE... Well, I do believe it... but how come I have been independant for 3 years and I actually was'nt working enough to awnser all the calls?! I mean they know I am "safe-GFE" there is probably some kind of costumers who are looking for it ? No ?

Anyway, I know (or guess) that it's not the same thing for an agency! Than I told myself once again that I probably attract the non-typicals "hobbyists" which is ok with me.

So, as no agencies wanted someone like me, I went to a massage parlor to give a try, the place was nice and very clean the owners were super sweet... but WoW!! This is a totally different thing and there I understood many things... things that I dont want to live and things that girls should not have to live!! The fact of having the control on who you will meet (and for the costumer to really who who he is gonna meet) make a very big difference with just beeing there and don't know who is gonna come, who you're gonna meet. Once again, nothing very bad happened to me... but... For all those years I have liked my work and I was so confortable with what I was doing! (Well, I am still!!) But now I understand how sex work can be "unpleasant" for some girls.

So, I deceided to climb back on my little cloud and I am so happy to be there!!

But from now, I do really feel like involving myself into helping others. I'm not an utopist... but If I can help anybody, in any way, I will...

And please dont get me wrong... I dont think that massage parlors or agencies are bad places to work... I just think that every girl have to be confortable with what they are doing, how and where!

Thank's Candy Baby for talking here about some stella's projects!!

Well, I know I write a lot... sorry
Thanks for reading!