Long term arrangements

[jalimon]

Can anybody give ma an idea of costs? Monthly? Per meeting? Thanks

fly my advice is to avoid monthly cost. Too easy for the girl to collect monthly only to then find excuse to miss sessions...

the cost are entirely define by you and her. I had many girls who quoted me 300-400 an hour and up... More then agency sp, especially in montreal. On the north shore i had great findings at 150-200 per sessions. I did trid to talk about sessions or meet up with girl so no real time was defined.

One thing with SA you need to be able to do outcall, meaning the girl will come to you.


cheers,

 

[MrProfiteroles]

fly my advice is to avoid monthly cost. Too easy for the girl to collect monthly only to then find excuse to miss sessions...

OMG! Per my own experience, it's not a good idea to pay in advance! I'm done with this and only pay the lady when she show up at my place!

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

I think they are talking about having a drink and meet up for the first time for free. That is, the SD buys the beverage. I imagine that this would have to be a tough pill for some escorts to swallow that want to dabble in the SB/SD relationships.

But is this usual? Because I did receive a LOT of messages and almost as much of different types of arrangements...kind of not used to choose when you are not used to this kind of bargain lol

 

[Ubu]

Mon expérience pour un mois d’expérience sur SA:

60 messages envoyés (approx). Je ne montrais mon visage qu’à celles qui me répondaient.
40 réponses (approx) et échanges par messages. Très cool parfois mais aussi souvent très « sec ».
20 numéros de cellulaires échangés et textos échangés. Pour faire connaissance et « négocier » I guess.
9 personnes rencontrées (de 35 ans à 40 ans):
. 1 totalement disjonctée rencontrée pour un lunch. Frustrée de la vie. J’étais son paratonnerre à marde (elle ne recherchait pas de $$)
. 1 pour un drink avec qui on a cliqué, beaucoup de textos ensuite mais qui a disparu parce que trop occupée (elle ne recherchait pas de $$)
. 1 pour un lunch et un café qui ne voulait pas de $$ mais aller magasiner avec moi. Elle était insultée de la notion de SB ;-)
. 1 pour drink et gros french kiss dans le parking... No go. Fille bizarre
. 1 pour un lunch et à suivre. Elle veut des $$ (À négocier mais approx 200$-250$ par rencontre. « Rencontre » à définir)
. 1 pour un brunch et ensuite un souper. Elle ne voulait pas de $$ mais une relation sérieuse et ne comprenait pas le site. Elle m’a parlé de ses chats toute la soirée.
. 1 avec lunch et sexe. Cool fille mais PSE style et go home... Ressemble plus à un service d’escorte PSE je dirais mais avec la notion qu’il faut que ca clique avant entre nous... pas mon truc (250$)
. 1 avec lunch et sexe. La fille était cute mais réservée. Sexe nul... Faire la planche et partir... pas mon truc (200$)
. 1 relation intime répétée. 3 rencontres. Lunch + intimité + 100$. Souper-spectacle + intimité + 300$. Drink + intimité + 120$. Elle ne veut plus de $$. Ressemble plus à une relation ami-amant. Elle a 2 autres SD. Cool. Ca continu.

Ça doit ressembler à des stats typiques sur ce genre de site à mon avis

Mon commentaire: Sauf exception il y a 3 catégories de dame sur ce site
1) Des Professionnelles (indépendantes et agences aussi)
2) Des non-professionnelles qui n’assument pas leur status d’escorte
3) Des non-professionnelles qui explorent (beaucoup plus rares)

Ah oui... un 4ème type: Des femmes totalement perdue qui ne savent pas vraiment ce qu’elle font là et ce que veut dire SB et SD

My 2 cents : Il y a tout et son contraire sur ce site mais je dirais que c’est surtout un endroit pour des femmes qui n’assument pas leur status « d’escortes » ou ne comprennent pas que recevoir de l’argent pour du sexe est de la prostitution (j’utilise le mot sans jugement ici). C’est un endroit parfait par contre pour des escortes qui veulent se monter une clientèle régulière et « filtrée ».

Ubu (Région de Montréal)

 

[jalimon]

thanks ubu!

tres drole et interressant. Tu me donne le gout de retourner sur SA (mais pas pour la folle qui parle juste de ses chats haha)

cheers

 

[moliere]

Ubu, je ne crois pas que tes expériences soient typiques de SA. Tout d'abord, tu as rencontré des femmes de 35 à 40 ans alors qu'il y a très peu de filles de plus de 30 ans sur SA, du moins à Québec.

De mon côté, toutes les filles que j'ai rencontrées via ce site étaient des GND dans la vingtaine qui veulent du sexe pour des $ mais pas avec n'importe qui (comme une escorte). Elles veulent filtrer leur(s) SD. Elles entrent dans ta 3e catégorie.

 

[Ubu]

Oui Molière,

Quoique mon filtre de recherche était 35-45 ans. Il y avait tout de même pas mal de choix (à Montréal)
En fait ce que tu décris est ma catégorie 1
Les filles qui recherchent et explorent sur SA sans trop d'attente financière sont plutôt rares

 

[sambuca]

I think this is just clever marketing. I find that most the women on the site in my metro area are way past college age. The whole help with college expenses gives the site more respectability.

 

[vtp246]

Seeking arrangement

Hi Guys,

Did anybody had success with this? There are a lot of beautiful ladies there, but the membership is a bit high for « « maybe » hooking up.

What are are your opinion on this should we stick with regular providers?

 

[CaptRenault]

...When it comes to these long-term arrangements, “Careful, boys, you play with fire”. You are talking about the possibility of rapidly changing power dynamics, potentially unlimited spending, absolute misery, and even violence/death. This is a lot different than the hooker/John relationship where each of them has a lot of other sources of revenue and sex, even if they both primarily enjoy seeing regulars for sessions of greater length with occasional social activities.

I agree. That’s why I and several other merbites have not entered into true long-term arrangements that involve weekly or monthly allowances. We treat SA like an advertising site for “amateur” escorts. We make initial contacts on the site, and exchange some messages without touching on financial details.

Then we meet the woman at a coffee shop or restaurant and if we both click, then we negotiate a per-encounter rate for each meeting. There is an unspoken understanding that the arrangement might continue as long as both parties remain satisfied with the deal.

My arrangements have lasted varying numbers of encounters: 1 time, 2 times, 13 times and 2 times. Yes, it takes time to research, exchange messages, meet offline and negotiate a deal. It’s not like calling an agency or walking into a massage parlor and getting almost immediate satisfaction.

But given how much the moral panic about paid sex has negatively impacted the commercial sex business in most of the U.S, SA is a worthwhile and sometimes very rewarding alternative for guys.

 

[EagerBeaver]

The people who post on Seeking that haven’t actually used the service don’t get what’s on there. What’s on there is everything from personalized booking of escorts to PFP per meet arrangements to weekly and monthly arrangements to sexy/nude pics arrangements, to dating to platonic social eye candy arrangements, all of which are negotiable. There seem to be a lot of people, or perhaps sheep, who have been brainwashed to believe that the website is for rich dudes only. It’s beyond laughably false. The downside to the website, in reality, is the time commitment needed. For a single guy with a reasonable amount of free time it’s doable but for many it’s not. My ability to use the website successfully improved over time (there are rules to be learned) and earlier in this thread I posted the basic rules that one must use to achieve success on that website.

I have continued to see a lady I met on the website for 2 years. I would estimate we have 5 friendly (platonic) social lunch or dinner dates, for which I do not give her an allowance, to every 1 sexual dinner date, for which I do. That’s just how it happened to evolve over time but there is no such thing as a standard arrangement. An arrangement is whatever 2 people mutually negotiate and want it to be.

 

[AdeleBeaumont]

If you don’t mind wasting your time and meeting up with a bunch of desperate ladies, I say go for it

 

[CaptRenault]

If you don’t mind wasting your time and meeting up with a bunch of desperate ladies, I say go for it

You sound like a taxi driver stereotyping Uber drivers as inferior. It’s unbecoming for you to look down on women who choose to make some money by selling sex in a manner different from how you do it. Do you think you’re selling something different?

 

[EagerBeaver]

Seeking is to MERB what AirBnB is to hotels and what Uber is to taxis. It’s competition with a different business model. Different business models are easy to insult, but these must also be feared. Competition is good for the consumer.

 

[AdeleBeaumont]

You sound like a taxi driver stereotyping Uber drivers as inferior. It’s unbecoming for you to look down on women who choose to make some money by selling sex in a manner different from how you do it. Do you think you’re selling something different?

I am in no way judging or insulting women on SA. Until last week I had an account.

I’ve just noticed SA was full of time wasters men and women.

I also like poor assumptions

 

[luvdozer]

Yeah Eager Beaver is right - there really are range of girls and scenarios on Seeking that run the entire spectrum of sex work. There are even girls on there who are treating is an honest to goodness dating website. It really is anything and everything. It just takes time and effort in a way that dealing with an agency in a place like Montreal does not take.

 

[luvdozer]

It does include many time wasters, but if you are comparing Seeking to escort agencies you are missing the point. As Eager Beaver points out in the other thread, there are all kinds of girls on Seeking that are offering a broad range of arrangements - not just straight pay for play. Some of that time wasting is actually people figuring out whether they are a match or not. Its just different.

 

[CLOUD 500]

If you don’t mind wasting your time and meeting up with a bunch of desperate ladies, I say go for it

The hunting for the good one is what makes it so much more fun and rewarding. When you find the right one the sky is the limit. This is more similar to dating. The arrangements come in all ranges and types there are no set rules. Now booking an escort to me is what I call the pizza delivery experience. Not really my thing. The setup is just too business for my liking. It is a different game. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[EagerBeaver]

The hunting for the good one is what makes it so much more fun and rewarding. When you find the right one the sky is the limit.

It’s the above, plus the fact that on Seeking most girls will have (at least in their private area) full face and body pics. And if they don’t they will send them via text off the website once you establish a rapport and they give you their number. You will never get a facial pic from most escorts, even indies.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

I am in no way judging or insulting women on SA.

Not from what I read in you first post.