The more time I spend on S.A. , the more I appreciate escorts...
Same for me on SecretBenefits. Need a lot of patience and time. I gave up..!
FYI, SecretBenefits is a scam.
I've never tried Secret Benefits and I probably won't do so. However, as I have described here previously I have had some good luck on Seeking.
Having said that, I understand why not everyone likes sugar sites. And I especially understand why guys in Montreal would not want to waste time looking for a sugar baby in a town where great escorts are easily and safely available within minutes or hours, whenever you want one. (Though I will say that when I look at the girls from Montreal on Seeking, I would be tempted to at least give it a try sometime.)
Nevertheless, for some of us who are stuck living in a country that is in the grip of a vast and ever-worsening moral panic about prostitution and other aspects of sexuality (yet another
anti-prostitution law was passed with bipartisan support last week), the sugar scene can be a relatively safe and rewarding outlet for fun.
As I've reported here before I've met and had encounters with a few women over the past year and one of them became a regular for me. Unfortunately that relationship seems to have come to an end.
I kind of saw the end coming. During the last couple of months she seemed less enthusiastic about meeting me and then she started being less reliable in communicating with me to set up meetings. Furthermore, I became aware a while ago that she was
engaged in another relationship and I had become concerned that maybe it wasn't such a great idea to continue seeing a woman whose partner was probably not aware of her
other "engagements."
So sensing that the end of the relationship was near, I reengaged with Seeking.com in search of a new partner. The membership fee of $89/month is high but you have to keep in mind that you usually only need a single month to find one or more new candidates for the job and that you can easily cancel your membership after a month.
Within a week of renewing my membership I found someone whom I think will take the place of my former regular.
She contacted me first (always a good sign). We exchanged a few messages and shared our private photos. She fit my preferred demographic, i.e. 30ish single mom, and her photos were pleasing. She is half-Filipina, half white (I like women of mixed ethnic backgrounds), pretty, with a nice body. We decided to meet for a get-to-know you lunch and that went well enough that we quickly came to an agreement on terms ($250 per encounter of 2 hours including social time and intimacy). So she came to my house the next day and we consummated the relationship. All in all things are off to a good start and I plan to see her again soon.
But I will be the first to admit that things don't go like that with most of the women on Seeking. Since I renewed my membership I have had some kind of contact with 15-20 women and all of those contacts led to nothing except for the one successful case. I can definitely understand how guys would get frustrated with such a situation. However, I am willing to put up with lots and lots of strikeouts in order to have a chance to hit a home run.
The reason that I put up with the frustration of Seeking is that, in
the current atmosphere of hysteria in the U.S. about prostitution and sex, I find it safer, cheaper, better and ultimately easier to find good amateur escorts than professional ones. When I go back to Montreal, Germany or Asia, I will hire the pros. However, until then, I have been satisfied with my experience on Seeking.
