Not true. Almost every single new SB I have seen in the last 2 years has either asked me to use SA video chat function or Face Time as a condition precedent to meeting. The use of these functions by SBs has already been well discussed in this thread, as has identity verification.
It's really good that you haven't met sb that fit that description but it does not mean that what I'm referring to doesn't happen or isn't a problem.
I believe you've also said you had to tell an sb she probably shouldn't use her real name last week, that you've met very naive SB's and that you've refused to go through screening using the method they preferred but pushed for facetime instead - which you've admitted doesn't protect from scams - in your case. Or from violence - in her case.
So I'm not sure what you're trying to say tbh.
As a matter of interest, do you Face Time or video chat with new clients?
As a matter of interest, what would be the purpose or reason for me to FaceTime? I don't post or share pictures of my face ever for privacy reasons, so facetime would make no sense, especially since it doesn't actually add anything in terms of safety. I just run the risk of my face ending up online associated with Anna Bijou..
I can absolutely appreciate that FaceTime might make sense in terms of knowing what the sd/sb looks like and getting a better idea of compatibility. However it doesn't help with safety concerns in any way.
What I wrote originally was prompted by a tweet by a swer in the US who was saying that she met a sb at a bar. She offered to check a couple of SD the girl was supposed to meet, only to find they were both blacklisted across the board by multiple escorts. She was tweeting about it to let any sb know that they were always welcome to contact her and she'd happily verify if they had any reports or were blacklisted.
The fact is that bad clients who end up blacklisted and can no longer find any escorts willing to see them because of that reputation transition to calling themselves sd's. Suddenly they are enjoying a large pool of women who are completely unaware of their history, whether it's scamming, stealthing, assaulting, pushing boundaries, wasting time, etc.
FaceTime isn't going to do a single thing to keep a sb safe from those men.
Your post above purports to generalize based on some "bad client" forums. Like it's a news flash that there are some bad apples in any large population using any service?????????? There is also probably a Reddit sub-forum about SBs who have robbed/swindled SDs. So what? Does that mean all SBs are thieves, any more than you suggest most SDs are sexual predators?
I'm not sure why you are so defensive or completely mischaracterizing what I actually wrote. You literally have my comments quoted above your reply so I'm not sure how you came up with something completely different than what I wrote.
As far as reddit, the sub I'm referring to is actually for SB and SD, it's not an SB space to complain about SD's. I'd just like to say that a situation where a woman is raped by a man with a lot more power than her is not the equivalent of a situation where a wealthy man is scammed out of a few hundred dollars he was planning to spend.
The point/agenda of your posts in this thread seem to be to "shame" users away from using SD websites. Nobody who is intelligent and plays by the rules is going to have any shame, nor should they.
Agenda?
I'm not sure how you concluded that I'm shaming from my comments. I don't see where I wrote something that would be interpreted that way.
I think the SB/SD thing is complex because it doesn't mean the same thing to everyone. The misunderstanding seems to be that I am making a general comment and lumping all sd's into the same basket, which I assure you I'm not. My views are actually the complete opposite of that, which is why I have these concerns to begin with.
Obviously there are genuine SD looking for a situation that fits into the actual definition of a sugar relationship.
Those are not the men I'm concerned about. I'm concerned about the others who present themselves as legitimate but are predatory, scammers and scum.
There are men who have no clue or no interest in a sugar relationship and either looking for cheaper sex (no interest in any kind of ongoing relationship, just a fuck then on to the next one) or those who are predatory, deliberately targeting or trying to take advantage of, pressure, scam, rape, steal, etc.
Those are the "SD's" I talk about. I never generalized or claimed all SD's are like. So unless you're in the second category, you literally have no reason to find any of what I say unfair or untrue. These scum exist, period. And they do deserve to be shamed.
Just because you haven't seen it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist, so it doesn't make sense to get defensive and imagine me as a resentful hooker who just wants to shame all SD's for reasons that are unclear to me.