My guess is that with the widespread use of social media. the expectation of unachievable naturally, hard to maintain body standards is more common.
How likely are you to report a bad hobbying experience?
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Social media is a big culprit here. The algorithm will literally feed you only videos and pictures of stunning models. You end up expecting that's the standard. AI made it even worse. A stunning model (real) doesn't compare to a perfect fake AI girl in the looks department IMO.
I read an article recently that put forth the same thesis, namely: the rise of social media, instagram and filters have flattened the concept of beauty. So many people are chasing the same beauty standards (Karadshian/Jenner, Emily Ratajkowski, Olivia Rodrigo, etc.), and getting the same cosmetic procedures, and therefore converging on a similar look as the standard. It also claimed that it had distorted the dating market, in that guys in small town Iowa are not the only ones competing for the hometown beauty queen; she's getting offers to be flown out by, for example, Miami influencers. Like most 'just so' stories, it's overdetermined, but was interesting nonetheless. Here's an article from a few years ago discussing the converging beauty standards theory: https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/beauty-features-same-face-instagram-b2534111.html
Interesting to note as well than men are increasingly and substantially affected by these exagerrated beauty standards, whether it has to do with hair loss, shape of the jaw line, biceps, etc.
I think the filtered, botox injected dolls are actually ugly AF IMHO. I much prefer natural looking women in general.
It feels so wrong and broken to have everyone have this asthetic and often zero personality.
I had to look up what was an "hickey" and ...yikes ! Lol
I would prefer this to not happen to me. I bruise easily and it takes forever to go.
To answer OP as long as its done politely/constructively and is not gratuitous bashing, i think a negative review is just as fine as a positive one. The service/attitude part is what is the most important in my opinion.
I seen look being mentioned. Thats the part i sometimes feel a little uneased with when clients are harsh with an SP on that side. Unless pictures are clearly done in a deceiving way, i don't think its an important factor to bring too much on. And if it is, i think it can be mentioned in a respectful matter.
I would prefer this to not happen to me. I bruise easily and it takes forever to go.
To answer OP as long as its done politely/constructively and is not gratuitous bashing, i think a negative review is just as fine as a positive one. The service/attitude part is what is the most important in my opinion.
I seen look being mentioned. Thats the part i sometimes feel a little uneased with when clients are harsh with an SP on that side. Unless pictures are clearly done in a deceiving way, i don't think its an important factor to bring too much on. And if it is, i think it can be mentioned in a respectful matter.
Yea exactly. I agree with your sarcastic comment. Unexperienced provider who see comment that her BJ aren't the best may be tempted to get her skill to another level. By either learning from other, asking clients tips or what they like or not, watching porn to learn ect. The negative comment can be the start to improve. The provider who give the best BJ were not always that good. They learn somewhere.
I learn more how to cunnilingus from girl who told me how bad I was then from girl who faked an orgasm and then ghosted me.
Be thankful when you see negative comment. Of course there is a way to say it without being a jerk.
It’s a fantasy of the unobtainable. There are racetracks where you can rent out a Ferrari for a few laps and there are rentals in Miami you can rent out a Lambo for an hour to show off in front of the club. You are right that no one is expecting a Victoria Secret model with hair and makeup done unless you are like a $1k+/hr.
I think at least for me, we all know in high school or university the popular pretty girl would never even look at you or roll their eyes when you try to talk to them. Now with all the egirls and girls doing lewd cosplays that started with Belle Delphine and all the AI digital creators, I don’t think anyone can help not being influenced by that. Of course stuff like that would require 30min - 1h just for makeup and hair. So it’s not necessarily pro model but cute and pretty. Also, it’s clear that people do not like substance abuse or trafficking or any signs of coercion. It seems even cigarettes are a big turn off now.
*walking around with binoculars*
Sorry to interrupt. I didn't mean to. Don't mind me and carry on with what you're doing. I'm just here to observe the wild tangents in their native habitat! They're so diverse and so colourful here! Wow!
*wanders off again*
Sorry to interrupt. I didn't mean to. Don't mind me and carry on with what you're doing. I'm just here to observe the wild tangents in their native habitat! They're so diverse and so colourful here! Wow!
*wanders off again*
Don't worry, if you want a good laugh, search for "Mar-a-Lago plastic surgery". Yes, it's a real thing. I personally find it as attractive as the south end of a northbound cow. I personally like the uniqueness of every lady's complete appearance - how she dresses, her choices in accessories, how she smiles, and most importantly, how she laughs. If I wanted an experience with a Plastic Fantastic Lover (dating myself here, extra points if you know which band recorded that), I'd be violating store mannequins. Not likely do happen soon.
Definitely! A clear sign of affection earned in a moment of heated passion!
Oh, also? Significantly increases the chance of getting divorced. Except maybe for turtlenecks aficionados…
That is with fillers and filler blindness and filler migration. Fillers don’t dissolve and just migrate apparently. Recently all the rage was Lindsey Lohan and Denise Richard’s who openly showed their transformation using the new cosmetic techniques. They are crazy natural.
If I had a bad experience (never been a concern so far, knock on wood) that I don't feel I was responsible for I'd write something tactful and to-the-point here, no problem. The issue is that bc there's no guardrails for what people write (despite the many pinned posts), many of these negative reviews are unnecessarily rude and based off mismatched client expectations instead of an objectively 'bad' experience provided. And so so many of them turn out to be client-side problems (hygiene, often, but also timing, too much/little communication, boundary-pushing, etc) once we dig a little deeper. Those reviews are effectively worthless BUT they're on the provider thread now and since they force everyone to post under 1 provider thread at at time here, they're there pretty much forever. If the provider doesn't frequent this site, it's even worse bc then there's no other side.
For what it's worth, I think the OP would be in the right to say whatever they want as long as they explained why they felt that way. Saying someone is rude is useless to me. Saying "this provider was very curt in texts and I hoped she would've warmed up in person but despite my best efforts it still felt like she wasn't having it" is closer to being helpful. The hickey thing is more cut-and-dry, especially if you discussed boundaries to start, and is something many partnered dudes would like to know (even if it's to make it clear they don't want them).
For what it's worth, I think the OP would be in the right to say whatever they want as long as they explained why they felt that way. Saying someone is rude is useless to me. Saying "this provider was very curt in texts and I hoped she would've warmed up in person but despite my best efforts it still felt like she wasn't having it" is closer to being helpful. The hickey thing is more cut-and-dry, especially if you discussed boundaries to start, and is something many partnered dudes would like to know (even if it's to make it clear they don't want them).
a couple of things
when a provider is genuinely ok or better, the positive reviews tend to outweigh the negative ones (although I admit, people are generally more positive and polite on "mainstream" reviews than here).
And, sorry, I'm stuck on that hickey thing lol. you cannot give a hickey unbeknownst to the receiver, it takes at least a minute of sucking in the same spot to create a hickey. I have never heard of a 'stealth' hickey. That statement is a red flag.
I did not have that many bad experiences but when I did I commented on these experiences. Always in a respectful manner, essentially going with facts and never making it personal but describing my experience factually, these encounters are a two way street so there can be a million reasons a session did not go well.
See, even the hickey thing isn't so black-and-white. I agree with you, you probably know you're getting one after a few seconds, but maybe that's all that it took. Again, we're doubting the intent of the feedback bc there might be some client responsibility.a couple of things
when a provider is genuinely ok or better, the positive reviews tend to outweigh the negative ones (although I admit, people are generally more positive and polite on "mainstream" reviews than here).
And, sorry, I'm stuck on that hickey thing lol. you cannot give a hickey unbeknownst to the receiver, it takes at least a minute of sucking in the same spot to create a hickey. I have never heard of a 'stealth' hickey. That statement is a red flag.
Doesn't diminish his ability to report about the experience but now we're getting into why a client probably wouldn't want to post about it, because they'd just get told it was their fault all along.
Only 'bad' review that's of any help are the scams but they don't even really apply to me bc I don't dredge the sea floor for deals like some intrepid souls around here.
Well he's saying she was rude and gave a hickey. It doesn't seem to match.
It's like she was rude to him at the beginning and then she became passionate. Or she did it on purpose to be mean?
Rude and gave a hickey.
Well look on the bright side. At least she was not angry and bit it off.
Well look on the bright side. At least she was not angry and bit it off.
Excellent thread. I believe it’s important to report a negative experience with a service provider, but it should be done in a clear, respectful, and professional manner. The goal isn’t to hurt anyone’s feelings or undermine their confidence in themselves or their work. Instead, feedback should focus on offering constructive observations that can help them improve, so future customers don’t encounter the same issues.
