How did you get started with the hobby? And have your interests changed over time?

[Obvio-0bvio]

At the tender age of 13, I had my first BJ with a girl from school that awakened a deep sexual addiction within me. As the years went by, this inclination towards sexual fantasies grew even stronger, consuming my thoughts and desires. It was during my late teens, around 18 to 19 years old, that I embarked on a journey of exploring both service providers and the thrill of picking up ladies from bars.

My life became a perpetual cycle of transitioning from committed relationships to being single, and then immersing myself in the enticing world of service providers and bar encounters simultaneously. This dual pursuit of pleasure became a defining feature of my existence, adding a complex and exhilarating dimension to my sexual journey.

For over two decades, this pattern has persisted, seemingly unaltered by the passage of time.The only time I deviated from this routine was during periods of singleness,my debased nature took over and I would frequently engage with various service providers, sometimes as often as five days a week. Additionally, I would occasionally indulge in encounters with ladies I met at bars, typically three or four per month, until a new relationship knocked at my door.

This tumultuous ride has been filled with its fair share of ups and downs, yet I find myself unable to deny the allure and excitement it brings. Despite any potential regrets, I cannot help but hope that this lifestyle will endure until the inevitable decline of my sexual abilities.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Somewhere in my mid 40s, out of laziness to go out on the hunt in bars. Someone in my contacts have mentioned this girl, very famous for her erotic private massage, so I finally got her number and made an appointment. The experience, up to this day, is still the best erotic, body to body with an endless edging hand job I ever had. That girl wrote the book for all the other.

After several sessions with her, she directed me to merb, and from there, she also told me about a massage parlor named Isis.

As I found out on my first visit , Isis was anything but a massage place!
I called them around 20:00 to make an appointment, I had no girl in mind, not even a name. The hostess on the phone, the very well known Mila, started by saying they were having some kind of private party that evening and therefore not booking clients. I said ok I’ll try some other time. I must have sounded very disappointed because she quickly responded « well you sound like a good guy, why don’t you come over and have a drink while I show you the place. »
20 minutes later I was ringing the doorbell, this pretty dark haired Russian woman opened the door, stares at me and says « I knew you were a gentleman, come in and meet my guest and girls! »

I walked in, take a look at the crowd, about 30-40 people, half of them are absolute gorgeous girls, dressed in different sexy lingerie outfits, the other half are men, different age. Everyone is chatting, drinking in a very casual manner. I felt like I just stepped into a high class brothel you see in movies. My hostess poured me a glass of whiskey and proceeded to show me every single rooms and pointing out at all the possibilities that different pieces of furniture could offer. I thought I was dreaming.

I naturally ended chatting with 2 girls and was amazed at how they were openly discussing their favorite fantasy and options. Of course I had to take one in a room and she was more than perfect, she kidnapped me for 2 hours. I don’t need to put any details here, her name says it all: Shakira! After that I paid Isis several visits and always was treated like a VIP, their roster and presentation were memorable. I think half of the girls there belong to the hall of fame of SWs.

From that day, I got hooked and started exploring this fantasy world. Indies, agencies and of course, some of these rare specialized MP parlors, which, up to now, still have my preference, I guess because of my very first experience, that night at Isis.

 

[Thane]

Somewhere in my mid 40s, out of laziness to go out on the hunt in bars. Someone in my contacts have mentioned this girl, very famous for her erotic private massage, so I finally got her number and made an appointment. The experience, up to this day, is still the best erotic, body to body with an endless edging hand job I ever had. That girl wrote the book for all the other.

After several sessions with her, she directed me to merb, and from there, she also told me about a massage parlor named Isis.

As I found out on my first visit , Isis was anything but a massage place!
I called them around 20:00 to make an appointment, I had no girl in mind, not even a name. The hostess on the phone, the very well known Mila, started by saying they were having some kind of private party that evening and therefore not booking clients. I said ok I’ll try some other time. I must have sounded very disappointed because she quickly responded « well you sound like a good guy, why don’t you come over and have a drink while I show you the place. »
20 minutes later I was ringing the doorbell, this pretty dark haired Russian woman opened the door, stares at me and says « I knew you were a gentleman, come in and meet my guest and girls! »

I walked in, take a look at the crowd, about 30-40 people, half of them are absolute gorgeous girls, dressed in different sexy lingerie outfits, the other half are men, different age. Everyone is chatting, drinking in a very casual manner. I felt like I just stepped into a high class brothel you see in movies. My hostess poured me a glass of whiskey and proceeded to show me every single rooms and pointing out at all the possibilities that different pieces of furniture could offer. I thought I was dreaming.

I naturally ended chatting with 2 girls and was amazed at how they were openly discussing their favorite fantasy and options. Of course I had to take one in a room and she was more than perfect, she kidnapped me for 2 hours. I don’t need to put any details here, her name says it all: Shakira! After that I paid Isis several visits and always was treated like a VIP, their roster and presentation were memorable. I think half of the girls there belong to the hall of fame of SWs.

From that day, I got hooked and started exploring this fantasy world. Indies, agencies and of course, some of these rare specialized MP parlors, which, up to now, still have my preference, I guess because of my very first experience, that night at Isis.

If it’s the Spa Isis that was at 1318 Boulevard de Maisonneuve E then that place was amazing! I never had a mediocre experience there.

 

[jonas1234]

Yes.

@bodick7 Does your GF know about your hobbying? If yes, how did you break the news, and how did she handle it?

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

If it’s the Spa Isis that was at 1318 Boulevard de Maisonneuve E then that place was amazing! I never had a mediocre experience there.

Of course it is! Never heard of another Isis.

 

[AlmostMidaged]

I got invested and heavy into paying for sex after I threw myself off a building and woke up in the hospital not dead. A few months later I wanted sex and intimacy, but had didn’t have the motivation, charm, or desire to do things the traditional way. And so began the spiral of my descent into never ending stimulus fulfillment without actual long lasting satisfaction. I don’t expect I’ll ever escape now, despite concrete and proactive efforts this year that netted a few ‘normal sexual relationships’.

 

[TheJames101]

I got invested and heavy into paying for sex after I threw myself off a building and woke up in the hospital not dead. A few months later I wanted sex and intimacy, but had didn’t have the motivation, charm, or desire to do things the traditional way. And so began the spiral of my descent into never ending stimulus fulfillment without actual long lasting satisfaction. I don’t expect I’ll ever escape now, despite concrete and proactive efforts this year that netted a few ‘normal sexual relationships’.

sorry to hear of your troubled life. I hope you've also looked into or tried therapy...

 

[AlmostMidaged]

sorry to hear of your troubled life. I hope you've also looked into or tried therapy...

Therapy can’t find you a compatible and loving partner to spend your life with. Therapy can’t reverse the damage covid 19 did to your parents. Therapy can’t bring back your lifelong friendships or create new ones. Therapy can’t make you wealthy enough you never have to work again. Therapy can’t bring back the joy you had doing certain hobbies because your meds make you feel numb. It’s all good though. I’m still better off than a few billion people. And I keep on trying no matter how fruitless and meaningless it all is. That’s life. No troubles. Only the present.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Therapy can’t find you a compatible and loving partner to spend your life with. Therapy can’t reverse the damage covid 19 did to your parents…….

Therapy won’t do any of these things, but it will certainly help YOU accomplish it. No one can do it for you, it takes a very strong drive but it’s doable.

 

[Ducon]

After moving to Montréal, I was intrigued by the massage parlors I was walking by.
Initially I assumed they were tourist traps and scams ( because that's what they are where I came from )
but eventually my horniness overpowered my fear and I walked in.
My 1st experience was mediocre because of stress, fear, and lack of experience.
But obviously it got better, and after a bit of research, I ended up meeting escorts regularly.
On the 1st year I was spending more than I could afford, but I'm lucky my finances improved.
There were times I was asking a bit too much from sex workers ( romance ) but as I got older I learnt to manage my expectations and appreciate what I have.
Over time, the type of sexual services that I need has evolved a bit, but luckily it's still within what they can offer.
Now I consider myself extremely lucky to have a symbiotic relationship with them.
Like some of you, I had severe issues, but they made my life worth living.

 

[bodick7]

@bodick7 Does your GF know about your hobbying? If yes, how did you break the news, and how did she handle it?

Yes, twice. I couldn’t stand the lying anymore.
She was not happy about it…but in the end, she knows why…
She pass over but I feel like a dog which has bite twice.
We have to live with it for the good and bad. It’s ok because it doesn’t affect much our everyday life.
I mean, that was not what I wanted for her.

Yes, I know some will say they don’t want to live that situation but from my POV, I still love her and we have still great time spent together.
Nothings beats holding her in my arms to get our big hug every day and all the rest.

 

[Daffy]

Yes, twice. I couldn’t stand the lying anymore.
She was not happy about it…but in the end, she knows why…
She pass over but I feel like a dog which has bite twice.
We have to live with it for the good and bad. It’s ok because it doesn’t affect much our everyday life.
I mean, that was not what I wanted for her.

Yes, I know some will say they don’t want to live that situation but from my POV, I still love her and we have still great time spent together.
Nothings beats holding her in my arms to get our big hug every day and all the rest.

Man, I understand you, I know what it feels.

I love her and I want to be with her, sharing the same moments we always have... The imbalance comes when she's happy and fulfilled living our lives together without sex, she's happy and I'm almost happy.

But, what if... There's always that question... What if the roles were inverted... What if it was me the one happy without sex... Would I have the same strength to accept it? Would I give her the freedom the same she does to me?

It wouldn't be fair if I say I'm not ok giving her the same freedom...

What's the alternative? To split our lives? I don't want that and she doesn't want that.

Lucky me, I don't live near Montreal where most agencies are... Lucky me, my job brings me near or to Montreal a few times per year.

 

[bodick7]

What if the roles were inverted...

Impossible...it's a question of hormones. Before hitting the menopause wall, she was a passionate lover.
I was very comfortable and never wanted to have sex outside our couple.
When I jumped over fence I didn't want to do it with a non SP... it would have been no sense. Hope you'll understand a man in a catch-22 situation.
Nothing is perfect but it's ok.
End of discussion and I think you know enough now.

 

[redfried]

LOLL!! She was HOT!

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I did the same.

 

[redfried]

Unsatisfying sex with the love one brought me here.

 

[CuriousGent]

I started the hobby in early 2023 after separating from my wife in 2022. We met first year in college and had been together ever since, so roughly 20 years. She was my first and only up to when we separated (never cheated). I live in a rather small/medium area where a lot of people know each other. Started casually dating someone I was set up with by a friend and it was going well but when it came time to get intimate I was overwhelmed with performance anxiety so I did DATY and FIV until she orgasmed but could not get an erection. Never had trouble with the wife but after 20 years meeting someone new i guess the stress got the better of me. Because people know each other in my area decided to put the dating on old to avoid striking out with other ladies in my friend group.

Since I come to Montreal fairly often I convinced myself to try the hobby (hopefully get some confidence) since I wouldn't feel jugged on my performance by an SP. I met with 3 different indies (Margot Najda, Emily Beauchamp and Lena Cartier). While each experience was different I really enjoyed the company of each of these ladies for different reasons. Surprise surprise my erection was back lool. It's a good thing I don't live in Montreal because I could see this becoming a habit very easily.

To answer the second question of if my preferences have changed, well I am still new to this and the indies I have seen where a GFE since I was also looking for an intimate experience with DFK and physical affection... but I will admit that I am more and more curious about a PSE raunchy session so maybe I will check that box in 2024.

Hopefully I don't go to far down the rabbit hole and decided to waive off a relationship entirely because this hobby is really fucking fun!!!!

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

but I will admit that I am more and more curious about a PSE raunchy session so maybe I will check that box in 2024.

Some providers offer a blend of both GFE/PSE

 

[envelopes]

Let's just say one weekend changed my life

I was very straight edge. Never did drugs, didn't drink much, never strippers or eacorts. I was married at 19 until 24. Engaged again. Broke off.

Then one weekend, friends had a bachelor party around the same time. Some of the guys said they were gonna help me have a good time.

We were in Vegas for the bachelor party.

Man... I really let loose. Loved everything I tried. Pool party. Did molly. Partied hard at the cabana. Got with a girl who came to our table.

Got super drunk. Took a nap. Did some coke. Hit the strip clubs. Got wasted at the club, got like 20 dances.

Blue balls, looked up how to find escorts online. Researched all night. Found an Indy. $1200, I got ripped off so hard. She was a 10, but service was terrible.

Then I had a work trip for 3 months right after the bachelor party. I sampled Europes providers and had a lot of fun. Most fun was London and Budapest. German FKKs.

That was 9 years ago

That's how I got started.

 

[Mandouke]

I started to hobby in early 2020 during the COVID era. There were not many options available but there were a few places that I began to frequent and frequent them I did. It seemed rather odd at first because all of my life I had access to numerous women regularly, free of charge due to the lifestyle that I was immersed in. Here I was now in my 50s and beginning the hobby and paying for it.

One of the reasons I began to hobby was because I began to reminisce about a young, working lady I dated 30 years ago and almost married. She was a professional dominatrix and I was head over heels in love with her and dated her for two years. We were involved in a mutual, loving relationship, however, after two years the relationship became very sordid and I ended up leaving her. She was beginning to ask me to do things to please her that I was not comfortable doing and involved some of her clients.

Having said that, there's a lot of baggage involved in dating a woman of this nature. I used to recall hearing all the stories and drama from her daily about what was going on in her professional life.

In regards to the hobby, I more or less had arrived at a point in my life where I now had the finances and the time to devote to it, I was single and had no dependents and I had finally settled down in one place. I embraced the hobby head-on and can say that I am now firmly entrenched and look forward to every new encounter.

I am still looking for the ultimate dominatrix to tickle my fancy and rekindle some old unfulfilled fantasies. Any suggestions?

 

[CuriousGent]

Some providers offer a blend of both GFE/PSE

Thank you Cap'tain for the reply. There are many options to choose from which is great and a lot at the same time for a newbie still trying to figure out what I am looking for... But I feel there would be a difference between a SP that is a GFE that offers extra that are of the PSE variety and an SP that her niche is actually PSE specifically... Don't know maybe I am overthinking it... "trop de choix tue le choix" loool.