Continuos SP Cancellations and Your Time

[Mandouke]

maybe she sees some red flag on you ? maybe she really doesn't like you for whatever reason

I doubt it very much. Texting was constant over time, she was always sharing her shit with me and I have seen her several times over the years.

Frankly, she is not well, and the toll of the business has begun to take its toll on her.

It could be as well that she is just a nasty person deep down inside, who enfoys fucking around people, I guess I will never know and never will.

I wish her the best.

 

[Christian32]

Has this happened to other members? Details please? How did you deal with it?>

Yes, I experienced it many times, they all have those things in common:

1. They are in the business for a long time
2. This business is still their main job
3. They don't have a website or reviews or any other "reference"
4. They are pretty and don't charge too much

How long would you let this type of cancellation go on before you laid your foot down?

Most of them I ended up seeing them after 3+ attempts and it was fun but nothing out of this world. So just stop trying seeing them after that I finally get the see them.
Personally its always outcall, so my routine is to do my last preparation when she confirms that she is on her way.

Is it possible she is suffering from a mental or emotional illness?

I would say "emotional disconnect" those long time SP have much less feeling for men like us

On a positive note, this kind of behavior / attitude toward men only come from that kind of SP, from my experience, as I also see Sugar Babies (from https://www.secretbenefits.com/ & https://www.seeking.com/) I offer the same amount $ and get the complete opposite experience.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I doubt it very much. Texting was constant over time, she was always sharing her shit with me and I have seen her several times over the years.

Were you still paying her "old" rates or always paying her current rates, given she raised it over the years?

 

[Theodore]

Yes, I experienced it many times, they all have those things in common:

1. They are in the business for a long time
2. This business is still their main job
3. They don't have a website or reviews or any other "reference"
4. They are pretty and don't charge too much

Most of them I ended up seeing them after 3+ attempts and it was fun but nothing out of this world. So just stop trying seeing them after that I finally get the see them.
Personally its always outcall, so my routine is to do my last preparation when she confirms that she is on her way.


I would say "emotional disconnect" those long time SP have much less feeling for men like us

On a positive note, this kind of behavior / attitude toward men only come from that kind of SP, from my experience, as I also see Sugar Babies (from https://www.secretbenefits.com/ & https://www.seeking.com/) I offer the same amount $ and get the complete opposite experience.

wow, if it was the other way around, us guys canceling constantly, or not booking etc( maybe because we are assholes, or the sp is not nice, indifferent etc), we would be raked over the coals and be blacklisted,. in this case, its nothing but excuses and trying to find out if its you that is at fault and not her. Goes both ways and should be treated that way.

 

[Rebaynia]

I can't speak for her, but can say, yes for some men it takes reaching out a few times, changing up how you talk to an SP before she might be willing to book an appointment.
I've had some men reach out at least 5 or more times for a booking before they realized talk to me like I'm a human being, not a product on order before I am willing to see them.

It does get exhausting and a turnoff from wanting to meet when someone reaches out and treats the whole encounter like they are ordering takeout food.

Not saying you do, but often we are still women, with sensitive emotional situations. Logical business practices and emotions don't always correlate in intimate settings, and can cause internal turmoil sometimes. It is why I choose to take my womanly time of month off, so that I can refresh & recharge my emotional reserves.
Like anyone else, I have moments and days where the very idea of going out to see anyone feels impossible. I take that into account when I set up appointments, and try not to back out, but also have backed out of appointments for simple reasons as trying to get final confirmations before heading out that plans are still on, and they are ready for me to arrive. If I don't get a response back, then I don't head out, unless I have faith the person really is ready and prepared. Even that is displayed in how someone chats with you. If you stop answering and ghost messages 2 hours before the appointment, damn sure I think your just waisting my time, and are not serious about meeting.

 

[S.S neo]

I gave up planning meetings many years ago. I’ve been cancelled too many times. Let’s say you book a 1hr session and another good customer books a 3hr for the same time slot ... what do you think will happen? Anyway, i stick with SP who let us know that they are available for same day meeting or a take a chance and waiit 30 minutes. Of no response, i go for the next on my TDL.

 

[hob12]

Unless I got this wrong, OP is talking about being cancelled on multiple times in a row. Not having trouble booking.

 

[What's My Name]

For me it depends whe she cancels. If the day before she cancels it's okay for me, if they cancel the day of, I hate it but at least I did not waste time getting there. A few times I was cancelled on my way, that I never contact again. As you see last minute cancelation does it for me, there will be no more trying to contact her.

 

[Halloween Mike]

If you stop answering and ghost messages 2 hours before the appointment, damn sure I think your just waisting my time, and are not serious about meeting.

Just want to chim in on that. I know my situation ain't everyone and vice versa but usually i will reconfirm the morning before heading to Montreal or when i had catch my ride. At this point even if she cancel its too late for me as my travels are already booked so its more of a "if she cancel i want to have time for plan B".

Once in Montreal i ain't looking at my phone every 10m. I may be playing arcades, watching a movie at theatre (in wich case cell is a no no) or may even be chillin with a friend.

I usually start heading slowly for the incall 1h before the booked time. In most cases i arrive 40m earlier but oh well i take a look at neighborough to spot places that look cool for next time or whatever (for instance i like to try new restaurants when in Montreal). Better earlier than later. I will usually text "im around but i know im too early, ill just chill up and if for any reasons you can be ready earlier just let me know. Otherwise see you at planned time".

My point was just to point out im not in constant "phone check all day" but then again im a reliable guy, and once in town the only thing that could make me not show up to a meeting is basically getting hit by a car or something .

 

[TheJames101]

There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again.

 

[Lexus3]

There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again.

"fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."

I would say "fool me once or twice, shame on you. Fool me more than twice, shame on me."

 

[kstanb]

I doubt it very much. Texting was constant over time, she was always sharing her shit with me and I have seen her several times over the years.

Frankly, she is not well, and the toll of the business has begun to take its toll on her.

It could be as well that she is just a nasty person deep down inside, who enfoys fucking around people, I guess I will never know and never will.

I wish her the best.

Constant texting is not standard client-SW behavior. Texting should be for coordinating the next meet, finalizing details and/ or maybe a "what's up" text every few months, she shouldn't be sharing her shit with you and/ or vice versa

Maybe some feelings were developing?
this could explain her hesitance of meeting again

in any case, it will be really be best for you and for her if you just move on someone else. Specially true if her "baggage" is container-sized

 

[Rebaynia]

Just want to chim in on that. I know my situation ain't everyone and vice versa but usually i will reconfirm the morning before heading to Montreal or when i had catch my ride. At this point even if she cancel its too late for me as my travels are already booked so its more of a "if she cancel i want to have time for plan B".

In your situation, I would require a room number sent when the room is had. To me that counts as a final confirmation, especially as I call the room to be sure you are in it before leaving my own home. There is still contact before the appointment. (Sounds like you do incall locations though) And if he is useing a text app so not getting the text message notifications, that's on him. I tend to count 2 hrs before an appointment, the last minute backout because life can throw us curveballs, and things come up, without consiquences, but i also require at least a confirmation from those I will see as well. It is stated when the appointment is initially made that I will require a confirmation when I message before heading over.
But I have also caught them, avoiding waisting my time, by finding out would be clients aren't prepared or were planning on paying etransfer when I don't accept it, trying to back me into a corner having made the trip already, hopeing I would accept something I refuse to make an appointment for. I am refering to first time appointments mind you. People I have seen before, have a different kind of treatment. I learn who I need not worry about. But first times with people, you never know who is trying to just play pranks, or entertain themselves at the expense of a provider being given a runaround. Often ghosting messages 2 hrs before the set appointment is a tell that they are just waisting time.

Like you. I am checking in to see if the appointment is legit, and happening, before I write them off as a time waister and make myself available for plan B, someone who actually intends to have a legit appointment. It is something time has taught me to check before relying on an appointment made just to make me unavailable for no reason than for someone to get a good laugh from afar. We all have our ways to weed out people who aren't planning on following threw. Not everyone requires deposits, but by not, I have to be creative about how I test an appointment with an unknown person is real.

It has served me well, and most appointments have been successfully achieved. It also helps both sides to be hyped up for the appointment about to happen.

 

[TheJames101]

"fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."

I would say "fool me once or twice, shame on you. Fool me more than twice, shame on me."

ps. I was referencing the (in)famous GW Bush quote

 

[Mandouke]

Were you still paying her "old" rates or always paying her current rates, given she raised it over the years?

Thank you, Giselle. You have just solved the riddle and puzzle for me.

I was paying her old rates, or "grandfathered rates". I now see the light, she was doing this to get rid of me because she was not making top dollar.

Frankly, she could have just said the rate is now this much, but she told me that I had grandfathered rates because I had seen her before 2022.

A big kiss and hug for you, Giselle!

 

[Mandouke]

Unless I got this wrong, OP is talking about being cancelled on multiple times in a row. Not having trouble booking.

That is correct. I never had a problem booking, it was in seeing her on the booking date.

For example, I would book on a Saturday with her for, let's say, 7 pm the following Friday. She would then cancel on the Friday. We would reschedule and then the same thing again, etc. etc.

I would note that I had seen her before, she was not someone I was seeing for the first time, she did this all the time with me.

 

[Halloween Mike]

In your situation, I would require a room number sent when the room is had. To me that counts as a final confirmation, especially as I call the room to be sure you are in it before leaving my own home. There is still contact before the appointment. (Sounds like you do incall locations though)

When i was mostly doing outcalls at hotels i would sent it as soon as i checked in. Then for a few years i had a friend downtown who let me used his place. I would give the adress. Now he moved at a place i can still use as "sleeping place" but i can't see escorts at his new home so i mostly do incalls. I mean prices of hotels have skyrocketed since covid so unless i really have to, i prefer avoiding that cost lol. Some agencies also prefer incalls for logistic/cram more clients. In case of some more popular girls outcall ain't even possible.

Your post actually reminded me of one time i actually was trying to see someone and despite texting during morning to book, she replied right as i entered a movie early PM. Missed her text by like 15m. Because i didn't replied "fast enough" she had left Montreal so we couldn't meet. In this case no booking was agreed yet, it was still in planning phase so its not a huge deal (and i saw her another time after) but this was just to illustrate 2h ain't a lot of time. I often go see movies when in MTL cause i have nothing much to do (friend work, his house not on the island so not easy to go back just to waste time) so the cineplex in the latin quarter is great. Movie then some arcades, makes time fly by. Close to subway too so easy to go to my meeting once time arrive.

 

[CLOUD 500]

That is correct. I never had a problem booking, it was in seeing her on the booking date.

For example, I would book on a Saturday with her for, let's say, 7 pm the following Friday. She would then cancel on the Friday. We would reschedule and then the same thing again, etc. etc.

I would note that I had seen her before, she was not someone I was seeing for the first time, she did this all the time with me.

It seems she has better things to go that are more important to her. You are clearly not a priority to her. The whys are irrelevant. Just move onto the next one.

 

[stony]

Questions

Has this happened to other members? Details please? How did you deal with it?

No not that many. I just stopped it after 3rd times. I think OP is very patient, or the girl must be very hot. About 10 years ago, I tried to connect a girl but she kept changing the meeting. After the third time, she sent me her real pictures for an excuse, but I thought she was playing, so said bye.

 

[sg8181]

I have never had any situation as bad as the first post, but I will say that despite the fact that SPs are always saying to book in advance, book in advance, every time I have done that it has involved 1-3 re-schedules on their part before we finally meet. Every time I book an SP same-day, I have no issues.