Ask us anything part 3

[jeffmathers]

Do men really find that look attractive? Someone I know just posted her photos in story calling her lips “goals” and I had to check I was fully awake and not just having a nightmare. I am sorry to this woman but she probably needs one or several visits with a psy

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I believe a lot of civilians and SPs have body dysmorphia. Most are lucky enough to not end up like this but for those of you SPs who are reading my comment I hope you always remember that in civilian life and in the world of clients there are people who will not care if you had modifications or not and care about who you are on the inside. Most SPs get modifications. Usually subtle stuff.

A person with any level or lack of modifications can be beautiful on the inside.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I believe a lot of civilians and SPs have body dysmorphia. Most are lucky enough to not end up like this but for those of you SPs who are reading my comment I hope you always remember that in civilian life and in the world of clients there are people who will not care if you had modifications or not and care about who you are on the inside. Most SPs get modifications. Usually subtle stuff.

A person with any level or lack of modifications can be beautiful on the inside.

I don't want to shame women who get surgeries and cosmetic enhancements.. I also think there are people who are not trying to be attractive and are going for an exaggerated look on purpose. But I also agree with something Lena said, if someone has severe body dysmorphia and a doctor is making money off of them by encouraging outrageous procedures that's really unethical of them.

As for body dysmorphia, I think being a sex worker can either help or exacerbate it. I know it sometimes helps mine because I feel desired and appreciated, but at other times I compare myself to other women a lot, particularly very young women. I know that I'm not perfect and I'm always looking for the next thing to fix because I worry about someone saying something hurtful about my physical appearance. When I was just beginning, a client who booked me for 15 minutes told me ''don't worry, it's okay if you look average, most men aren't looking for super models''.. I was shocked because I had never heard in my entire life that I ''look average''. I never believed anyone who complimented my physical appearance after this. (which answers another question on this thread)

It's kinda hilarious tho because I've had several backhanded comments about my physical appearance, my tattoos, my hair, my style, my body shape etc. In 2023 I've had a guy I saw only once say I look like I had gained weight lolllllllll I had clients complain I don't look 20 years old or that ''my breasts are as flat as fried eggs'' BUT IRONICALLY nobody has ever mentioned the very obvious skin graft on my left arm.

 

[jeffmathers]

I don't want to shame women who get surgeries and cosmetic enhancements.. I also think there are people who are not trying to be attractive and are going for an exaggerated look on purpose. But I also agree with something Lena said, if someone has severe body dysmorphia and a doctor is making money off of them by encouraging outrageous procedures that's really unethical of them.

As for body dysmorphia, I think being a sex worker can either help or exacerbate it. I know it sometimes helps mine because I feel desired and appreciated, but at other times I compare myself to other women a lot, particularly very young women. I know that I'm not perfect and I'm always looking for the next thing to fix because I worry about someone saying something hurtful about my physical appearance. When I was just beginning, a client who booked me for 15 minutes told me ''don't worry, it's okay if you look average, most men aren't looking for super models''.. I was shocked. I never believed anyone who complimented my physical appearance after this. (which answers another question on this thread)

It's kinda hilarious tho because I've had several backhanded comments about my physical appearance, my tattoos, my hair, my style, my body shape etc. In 2023 I've had a guy say I look like I had gained weight lolllllllll I had clients complain I don't look 20 years old or that ''my breasts are as flat as fried eggs'' BUT IRONICALLY nobody has ever mentioned the very obvious skin graft on my left arm.

I agree with you and hope my original comment wasn't upsetting to anyone.

 

[jeffmathers]

I don't want to shame women who get surgeries and cosmetic enhancements.. I also think there are people who are not trying to be attractive and are going for an exaggerated look on purpose. But I also agree with something Lena said, if someone has severe body dysmorphia and a doctor is making money off of them by encouraging outrageous procedures that's really unethical of them.

As for body dysmorphia, I think being a sex worker can either help or exacerbate it. I know it sometimes helps mine because I feel desired and appreciated, but at other times I compare myself to other women a lot, particularly very young women. I know that I'm not perfect and I'm always looking for the next thing to fix because I worry about someone saying something hurtful about my physical appearance. When I was just beginning, a client who booked me for 15 minutes told me ''don't worry, it's okay if you look average, most men aren't looking for super models''.. I was shocked. I never believed anyone who complimented my physical appearance after this. (which answers another question on this thread)

It's kinda hilarious tho because I've had several backhanded comments about my physical appearance, my tattoos, my hair, my style, my body shape etc. In 2023 I've had a guy say I look like I had gained weight lolllllllll I had clients complain I don't look 20 years old or that ''my breasts are as flat as fried eggs'' BUT IRONICALLY nobody has ever mentioned the very obvious skin graft on my left arm.

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BUT IRONICALLY nobody has ever mentioned the very obvious skin graft on my left arm.
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I never mentioned it because I didn't want to seem like an asshole. Some providers have other marks and I never mention their grafts or scars because I doubt it's a good thing to mention.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

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BUT IRONICALLY nobody has ever mentioned the very obvious skin graft on my left arm.
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I never mentioned it because I didn't want to seem like an asshole. Some providers have other marks and I never mention their grafts or scars because I doubt it's a good thing to mention.

Yes but you also don't say things like ''your breasts are as flat as fried eggs''... or make subtle complaints about me having short hair and stuff like that

 

[jeffmathers]

Yes but you also don't say things like ''your breasts are as flat as fried eggs''... or make subtle complaints about me having short hair and stuff like that

Yeah I hope you know I think those people are awful and I hope they're on a black list

 

[LC18]

if someone has severe body dysmorphia and a doctor is making money off of them by encouraging outrageous procedures that's really unethical of them.

I think a psychological evaluation should be needed in some cases. Wanting to get your nose done because you’ve always hated it is normal but wanting your lips to be so big you can barely speak doesn’t sound healthy in any ways.

I worry about people getting breast implants that are too big and I’m not talking about F-G cups. Those things can rupture and leak in your body, the bigger the breast, the bigger the risk. It must also be incredibly difficult on your skin to stretch that much

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think a psychological evaluation should be needed in some cases. Wanting to get your nose done because you’ve always hated it is normal but wanting your lips to be so big you can barely speak doesn’t sound healthy in any ways.

I worry about people getting breast implants that are too big and I’m not talking about F-G cups. Those things can rupture and leak in your body, the bigger the breast, the bigger the risk. It must also be incredibly difficult on your skin to stretch that much

Yeah, it's dangerous in those cases. I have mixed feelings about it because I think people should have bodily autonomy.. but I definitely think it's unethical for doctors to offer procedures that could harm the patient's body. Some people also don't see themselves clearly.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I think it's easier nowadays to have body dismorphia when you look at yourself all day on your phone, when you take 100 selfies per day and try as many filters to "look prettier". They compare their real selves to all their modified photos on their socials all day, every day, so in the end they want to look like their pictures.

 

[jeffmathers]

One provider told me this helped them with their body dysmorphia and to remind them that almost all photos online are edited

https://www.reddit.com/r/Instagramreality/

https://www.reddit.com/r/Instagramreality/top/?t=all

 

[Giselle Montreal]

One provider told me this helped them with their body dysmorphia and to remind them that almost all photos online are edited

https://www.reddit.com/r/Instagramreality/

https://www.reddit.com/r/Instagramreality/top/?t=all

Indeed, everyone is normal. No on on earth has a no-pore-face IRL.

Not being on social medias (only Twitter, professional purposes) and not taking and posting selfies is what help me the most.

 

[Ttk1878]

This might be a silly question but does currency size matter at all? I have seen someone complain about 20s in the envelope in the past and I wanted to double check.

 

[LeDodo]

This might be a silly question but does currency size matter at all? I have seen someone complain about 20s in the envelope in the past and I wanted to double check.

I read size matter at all but then I read 20s so I had to re-read the question

 

[Alucard87]

This might be a silly question but does currency size matter at all? I have seen someone complain about 20s in the envelope in the past and I wanted to double check.

I've paid in 50's and 100s, as well as in BTC. Would I do the latter with some new chick off LL, hell no. Only with the one girl I've repeat with so far. If I was seeing a girl and the cost is about $500 or less I wouldn't care to give a bunch of 20s. But for 900 or 1400 yeah bigger bills are just easier. I might get annoyed if a girl complains about how I'm paying if it ever happened.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

This might be a silly question but does currency size matter at all? I have seen someone complain about 20s in the envelope in the past and I wanted to double check.

I always try to have bigger bills but I wouldnt be ashame if I only have 20s. If she’s not happy, she can wipe her butt with them!

 

[CenterofNH]

Do men really find that look attractive? Someone I know just posted her photos in story calling her lips “goals” and I had to check I was fully awake and not just having a nightmare. I am sorry to this woman but she probably needs one or several visits with a psy

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So sad, she must be mentally ill and the surgeon should face prosecution for taking advantage of that illness.

 

[jeffmathers]

I read size matter at all but then I read 20s so I had to re-read the question

I had the same reaction

 

[Alucard87]

I always try to have bigger bills but I wouldnt be ashame if I only have 20s. If she’s not happy, she can wipe her butt with them!

I might pay extra if I can wipe her ass with the bills...

 

[Enjoying life]

Do men really find that look attractive? Someone I know just posted her photos in story calling her lips “goals” and I had to check I was fully awake and not just having a nightmare. I am sorry to this woman but she probably needs one or several visits with a psy

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Cra cra

 

[S.S neo]

I think it's easier nowadays to have body dismorphia when you look at yourself all day on your phone, when you take 100 selfies per day and try as many filters to "look prettier". They compare their real selves to all their modified photos on their socials all day, every day, so in the end they want to look like their pictures.

Amen