Ask us anything part 3

[LC18]

[GENERAL]

Why do people feel the need to micro manage their peers? “You shouldn’t be doing this, you shouldn’t say that, you shouldn’t ask that”

If you focus on yourself, you’ll find that you advance more than when you stop to put others down. People will recognize your good work and efforts, you absolutely don’t need to involve others to bring you up

 

[Michelle Gunn]

SPs. What are the typical gifts you receive?
And how often do you receive it?

10 bucks is the most typical tip I get when it's all in 20$ bills.
Second would be scotch, or whatever is left of the scotch.

 

[Rebaynia]

[GENERAL]

Why do people feel the need to micro manage their peers? “You shouldn’t be doing this, you shouldn’t say that, you shouldn’t ask that”

If you focus on yourself, you’ll find that you advance more than when you stop to put others down. People will recognize your good work and efforts, you absolutely don’t need to involve others to bring you up

There's a lot I know I shouldn't do. That I continue to do anyways. Namely down to the basics of how I advertise myself. But I attract who I want to attract, and get the visits I strive to have, even if it is less than it could be if I advertised differently. It's less about numbers and more about quality for me.

If I set myself up next to the escort meter stick, there are many things I do wrong, but those wrongs, are what make it right for me.

 

[S.S neo]

I bring gifts when I visit an SP. Flowers, chocolate, wine, etc...
But what if you were to visit a male SP? What should you bring/what would you want to receive if you were the SP?

Dick in a box

 

[LC18]

If I set myself up next to the escort meter stick, there are many things I do wrong, but those wrongs, are what make it right for me.

And I like that you do what’s good and what works for you. Other people shouldn’t be in your business

 

[Rebaynia]

And I like that you do what’s good and what works for you. Other people shouldn’t be in your business

LoL
Actually for me it is entirely part of the dynamic I am in. In our corner of the spectrum, it is wrong to include others into your kink without consent.

By advertising my dynamic, when someone books with me, in my space of this, they are consenting to be an extension of my dynamic. It isn't concent if they are being lied to. Saying I am single would be a lie to the very heart of how i am available to begin with. Being available as an escort is part of my dynamic. It is part of the fantasy come reality. They become my toys to play with, I find out what they desire most to try to include it, but the part that makes it esorting is the being paid, otherwise I am just being authentically me. And I am clear that just because I am his slave, doesn't mean I am submissive with others. Normally I'm the more dominant one with others. I lead, like I like to be lead.

I've been told in the past it deters clients because. Relationship, idea of being pimped, the removal of their fantasy, but to spend time with me, becomes part of my real life fantasy, not a make believe a fake one. They are getting to be with my Master's slave, and I like the ones who embrace that role.

 

[LeDodo]

[GENERAL]

Why do people feel the need to micro manage their peers? “You shouldn’t be doing this, you shouldn’t say that, you shouldn’t ask that”

If you focus on yourself, you’ll find that you advance more than when you stop to put others down. People will recognize your good work and efforts, you absolutely don’t need to involve others to bring you up

Very interesting question and applicable everywhere either for work, parenting, friendship, etc.
I would not say they are micro managing.

Not sure there is one easy answer to that question. But here some ways to interpret that:
- Those people are just living in the past and thinking how things could have been better. Whereas living in the present will give you a mindset to be in solution mode where you want to help moving forward or making the situation better. This not focusing of the past.
- It's some sort of negativism or projecting their own insecurity.
- Linked the insecurity or lack of confidence, you will always talk about the others because you can't do it yourself or doesn't have the strength to do it yourself or focus on your self.

I almost fell into the trap and asked "you shouldn't be asking like this question like that"

 

[Valentina Amante]

[GENERAL]

Why do people feel the need to micro manage their peers? “You shouldn’t be doing this, you shouldn’t say that, you shouldn’t ask that”

If you focus on yourself, you’ll find that you advance more than when you stop to put others down. People will recognize your good work and efforts, you absolutely don’t need to involve others to bring you up

Some people just can’t handle a difference of opinion. They immediately jump to assuming others are filled with hatred or anger lmao. Makes no sense. Especially when you ask for public input, but then try to control what people are allowed to say. What’s the point of asking if you're going to decide for them?

 

[Julia Sky]

Yawn it's only 8am

 

[LC18]

Some people just can’t handle a difference of opinion. They immediately jump to assuming others are filled with hatred or anger lmao. Makes no sense. Especially when you ask for public input, but then try to control what people are allowed to say. What’s the point of asking if you're going to decide for them?

You did not disagree Valentina, your first reaction was to immediately put down other people you know nothing about and say they’re not working hard even though you have no idea what they do or don’t behind closed doors.

I believe the SPs on this forum would have welcomed your opinion if it had been worded differently and without feeling the need to shame others.

Debating can be done respectfully and without sinking into judgement that’s not based on anything solid.

If those women, that I am not really sure exist, are able to be booked doing what they do. It means there’s a need for them and people are looking for those services. Keep doing what you’re doing, it works for you and you seem to be thriving. Don’t worry about other people and what you think they don’t do. Enjoy your weekend!

 

[Valentina Amante]

Lmao. Always wanna be right.
There is such a thing as disagreeing and not being offended like a lot are. I didn’t shame anyone I gave my opinion. You’re the one who shamed the industry into accepting its “new era” like as if men don’t have a choice.

 

[Valentina Amante]

Yawn it's only 8am

Then go back to sleep

 

[Julia Sky]

Then go back to sleep

No, I'm awake. Just saying it's too early to be arguing about a locked thread on another thread.

 

[LC18]

To be very honest, I would love to truly know what you don’t like and makes you so upset about those women. My DMs are wide open if you want to have a genuine and respectful conversation. I am very curious as I don’t understand your point Valentina.

If you want to converse and not debate, I am available

 

[Valentina Amante]

Oh but it’s not too early to restart the conversation. about the locked thread. Extremely hypocritical.

 

[LC18]

Let’s leave it at that, no need to get a second thread locked. My invitation to elaborate by DMs still stand. I will read with an open mind

 

[Valentina Amante]

Right. LC decides as always Lmaooooo. It’s okay I’ll start my own thread. I’m almost done my first draft ❤️

 

[Rebaynia]

Yawn it's only 8am

Yup. For me i have been up for a couple of hours now.

 

[LC18]

Right. LC decides as always Lmaooooo. It’s okay I’ll start my own thread. I’m almost done my first draft ❤️

I respected your point and thought you were right, there’s no need to talk about a dead thread so I said we could just leave it. I think your issue with me is personal and I’m not sure what I ever did to you, I barely interact with you but like I said: feel free to share your opinion and discuss through DMs

 

[Julia Sky]

Oh but it’s not too early to restart the conversation. about the locked thread. Extremely hypocritical.

Yes it is too early. This is what I just said. Lena and I are different people...