Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

If it’s ok, I’d like to share my opinion as a client.

If there’s enough people doing it that there’s a pattern, that’s obviously is a huge hindrance when trying to optimize your business. I guess, I wouldn’t want to be lumped in with generic time wasters. I don’t think a small application fee for contacting providers is an outrageous idea; especially, if it can be applied to a date.

Personally, I have to ask a lot of questions that aren’t on most providers personal websites or in ads. Since I always play as a couple, I need to know if the provider sees couples. I can’t assume they don’t just bc rates for couples aren’t listed. Then, if they entertain couples, are they really bisexual or just going to ignore my wife. My wife’s fascination with breasts is why we date women in the first place, and because of that fascination, it’s nice to know if providers are enhanced or not. All of that could take several emails if the provider ignores the question, which happens a lot, and just focuses on booking a date. What really sucks is getting yelled at for asking. We’re only able to see someone once or twice a year. Who we choose to spend our time with is really important. Sometimes I wish we could reverse the process and post our own ad.

Well, this took me way longer to type up than I thought it would, and it’ll probably be largely ignored or someone will reply in anger, but I won’t give up on finding the one woman who understands and wants to have some adventures with us.

Thanks for your time and all that y’all do

When searching, I would suggest you search as woman for woman, and see who caters to both women and men for a bisexual+ provider.

Some providers specially advertise to couples because they understand the emotional connection they are fostering between the couple. Often a provider might wish to be contacted by your wife directly if these questions are being asked on her behalf.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

If it’s ok, I’d like to share my opinion as a client.

If there’s enough people doing it that there’s a pattern, that’s obviously is a huge hindrance when trying to optimize your business. I guess, I wouldn’t want to be lumped in with generic time wasters. I don’t think a small application fee for contacting providers is an outrageous idea; especially, if it can be applied to a date.

Personally, I have to ask a lot of questions that aren’t on most providers personal websites or in ads. Since I always play as a couple, I need to know if the provider sees couples. I can’t assume they don’t just bc rates for couples aren’t listed. Then, if they entertain couples, are they really bisexual or just going to ignore my wife. My wife’s fascination with breasts is why we date women in the first place, and because of that fascination, it’s nice to know if providers are enhanced or not. All of that could take several emails if the provider ignores the question, which happens a lot, and just focuses on booking a date. What really sucks is getting yelled at for asking. We’re only able to see someone once or twice a year. Who we choose to spend our time with is really important. Sometimes I wish we could reverse the process and post our own ad.

Well, this took me way longer to type up than I thought it would, and it’ll probably be largely ignored or someone will reply in anger, but I won’t give up on finding the one woman who understands and wants to have some adventures with us.

Thanks for your time and all that y’all do

Asking questions if you can't find the answers on the ad or website is fine in my opinion.

I definitely think some providers would not like being asked if their breasts are enhanced or if they're truly bisexual tho...

Also asking clients for a donation when they inquire would make me lose so much business. This is one of the reasons why I don't ask for deposits in the first place.

The choices we make as providers impact how much business we have. Sure it would be ideal to have high rates, ask for deposits, have impeccable screening methods, only provide safe services, have a 90 minute minimum etc but it's not realistic for most of us.

Still, I think some of these things should be normalized in the industry because they're about safety. In my opinion it's unacceptable that many clients refuse to screen or offer deposits.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I have no idea. I can only speak for myself, and I see no point in faking. If he let's me help, I will get there, if he doesn't, it's on him I'm not enjoying. Deal with the silence then.



As mentioned before as an indy. I don't often have more than 1 visit in a day, if that. When I do, it isn't an issue. We all get into this for different reasons. For me, the more I have the more I want.



I have more energy I get a high from the endorphins released in the brain.

I don't like it personally when there's a focus on me having an orgasm or not... I'm not going to elaborate on this. I think many other providers feel the same. it makes me feel pressured. I'm the same way in my personal life

 

[Rebaynia]

I don't like it personally when there's a focus on me having an orgasm or not... I'm not going to elaborate on this. I think many other providers feel the same. it makes me feel pressured. I'm the same way in my personal life

It is why I make it clear I speak for myself only, and we are all different, with different motives. It isn't my primary goal, but it certainly helps. I very much screen for people looking for this type of visit.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It is why I make it clear I speak for myself only, and we are all different, with different motives. It isn't my primary goal, but it certainly helps. I very much screen for people looking for this type of visit.

I quoted your comment because I was too lazy to look for the initial question lol. I think it definitely makes sense for it to make bookings more enjoyable.

 

[Enjoying life]

When searching, I would suggest you search as woman for woman, and see who caters to both women and men for a bisexual+ provider.

Some providers specially advertise to couples because they understand the emotional connection they are fostering between the couple. Often a provider might wish to be contacted by your wife directly if these questions are being asked on her behalf.

I like your new photo

Rebaynia!​

 

[Rebaynia]

I like your new photo

Rebaynia!​

Thank you. It was taken with an SP friend just this past Thursday.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Just to clarify my earlier comment, I think it's normal for clients to be concerned with the pleasure of the provider they are spending time with.

What I don't like personally is feeling pressured. Sometimes clients look shocked that I'm not instantly having an orgasm and I've even noticed reactions of anger or resentment, they take it very personally. But whether or not I or other women you're with have an orgasm sometimes has nothing to do with your skills as a lover or your attractiveness.

I think it's sweet when clients have a pleasing attitude and really want to do the right thing, it's definitely how people should act in intimate situations. But as a provider, I get more satisfaction making the other person feel good in all types of ways. Even with other women I tend to prefer being the one who's giving pleasure to the other. It's just how I am, and I think it's fine. I don't think faking orgasms is part of my job as a SP, but some would disagree.

 

[Enjoying life]

Thank you. It was taken with an SP friend just this past Thursday.

Amazing!

 

[Enjoying life]

Just to clarify my earlier comment, I think it's normal for clients to be concerned with the pleasure of the provider they are spending time with.

What I don't like personally is feeling pressured. Sometimes clients look shocked that I'm not instantly having an orgasm and I've even noticed reactions of anger or resentment, they take it very personally. But whether or not I or other women you're with have an orgasm sometimes has nothing to do with your skills as a lover or your attractiveness.

I think it's sweet when clients have a pleasing attitude and really want to do the right thing, it's definitely how people should act in intimate situations. But as a provider, I get more satisfaction making the other person feel good in all types of ways. Even with other women I tend to prefer being the one who's giving pleasure to the other. It's just how I am, and I think it's fine. I don't think faking orgasms is part of my job as a SP, but some would disagree.

Luna is so kind!

 

[Enjoying life]

Luna is so kind!

Luna you look sensational with the colour black on you

 

[LC18]

Serious question for SPs and Hobbyist

I haven’t seen a new SP for about 3 months now despite there being a few that match my interest a lot.
However I keep going back to the same SP, who at this point is my only (?!) repeat for the past 15 years. I guess I do have an ATF.
But where do I go from here when she retires which will happen rather sooner than later. Do I try to establish something similar with another SP even knowing the trial and error it takes not to mention the time and financial investment or is it a good moment to go on a hiatus and date civilians? Or perhaps it’s time to call it quits and depart from the hobby?

Whatever you do, don’t use tinder

 

[Rebaynia]

But where do I go from here when she retires which will happen rather sooner than later. Do I try to establish something similar with another SP even knowing the trial and error it takes not to mention the time and financial investment or is it a good moment to go on a hiatus and date civilians? Or perhaps it’s time to call it quits and depart from the hobby?

That is up to you. What do you want from the next steps of your life?
If you want a relationship, then aim for one, sounds like you have less addiction to the selection of SPs that others here seem to suffer from.
Or if you have been happy with life at the status quo, it's up to you if you want to find a new favorite.

What you should do, is up to you, and what you see as your goal in the next 5 years, since apparently you stick with things that work for a long time .

 

[CuriousGent]

Quick but deep question:

If I were to message you to try to reconnect after our last date many months ago, what would be a good way to do so?

I usually reach out by email to an sp, so it would not bother me if you message me by email as well.

 

[Merbcc12345]

It goes without saying that we are all different, and as an indy it's pretty rare that I see more than one client in a day. It's also rare for me to not have at least one orgasm, usually I have quite a few, but I don't feel drained afterwards, just relaxed.

Thanks for a candid answer. I find it, in some cases, hard to tell real from fake. Some just blow me away totally… others leave me flat (no pun intended).

 

[Nachoy]

SPs.
When you get new client and call his previous references
Besides the obvious red flags you ask, what are your addition yellow flags you want to know about the new client before you accept the booking?

 

[LC18]

SPs.
When you get new client and call his previous references
Besides the obvious red flags you ask, what are your addition yellow flags you want to know about the new client before you accept the booking?

I don’t think that question is appropriate. SPs are not gonna come here and give you ammunition to go around their screening or lie your way to them

 

[mtremblay]

Besides the obvious red flags you ask, what are your addition yellow flags you want to know about the new client before you accept the booking?

Not an SP, but here's my take on read flags in general.

The thing about red flags is that they are built from experience as a protection layer against unwanted encounter. You look for behaviors that are potential signs of danger. Exposing them is like having a mine field with every mine clearly marked. Or using the best security system but with the blueprint on the front door. Giving the red flags away, is giving an opportunity to a predator to avoid scrutiny.

PS: damn, LC wrote an excellent answer while I was writing mine.

 

[Rebaynia]

SPs.
When you get new client and call his previous references
Besides the obvious red flags you ask, what are your addition yellow flags you want to know about the new client before you accept the booking?

Some pointers I look for quickly, since I don't mind sharing, minor pointers, and comes even before other verifications.

-People who talk in complete sentences. I want to see people I can communicate comfortably with, if it feels like a chore to get them to share I have no interest, it will be just as hard to communicate in person.

People who are looking for an expierience beyond just the cold basics.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Some people are dyslexic and have a hard time typing or expressing themselves through text, but this is a different issue. In person they could be completely fine. If someone is speaking in short sentences.. ''hey babe'' ''available'' etc it shows they are putting 0 effort into communicating, it's disrespectful.

I don't want to give away red flags or whatever ''yellow flags'' are.

But here are my green flags: the gentleman is polite and introduces himself fully, he accepts screening, he tells me exactly when he wants to see me or offers different options, he gives me his expectations, he doesn't ask for anything that isn't offered, he doesn't ask for questions he can answer himself by looking at my ads and website...