Ask us anything part 3

[Giselle Montreal]

Exactly or they don't get back to me at all. If the person isn't asking when I'm available or giving me specific dates I'm assuming they're not serious now. I just don't understand what is the point of doing this.

Indeed, I stop thinking about them and if they write to me again and I'm still available, good for them.

What I started doing a few years ago is offering to secure that window for them if they send me a deposit right away, that way they can take a few hours or days to confirm their plans. If they can't see me after all, I keep the deposit as it's possible I might have declined one or more invitations for the same window.

This offer was taken a few times, with some clients forfeiting their deposit as their plans changed. I don't mind since my time was compensated.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Indeed, I stop thinking about them and if they write to me again and I'm still available, good for them.

What I started doing a few years ago is offering to secure that window for them if they send me a deposit right away, that way they can take a few hours or days to confirm their plans. If they can't see me after all, I keep the deposit as it's possible I might have declined one or more invitations for the same window.

This offer was taken a few times, with some clients forfeiting their deposit as their plans changed. I don't mind since my time was compensated.

That makes sense but I get the impression they will refuse. This happens particularly with people who message me on this forum. So I set an automatic response to messages to avoid having my time wasted...

 

[Giselle Montreal]

That makes sense but I get the impression they will refuse.

It's just an supplemental offer, it's not an obligation to get a meeting. So I have nothing to lose to ask. If they refuse, they just have to hope I'm available when they get back to me again.

 

[LC18]

No, not like this.

What is your availability next Tuesday? Would you have time between 11:00 and 2PM or 6-9PM?

Yes

Great let me check my schedule and confirm the exact hours.

Go tell that to the men that text exactly like my exemple

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It's just an supplemental offer, it's not an obligation to get a meeting. So I have nothing to lose to ask. If they refuse, they just have to hope I'm available when they get back to me again.

Almost every time this happens these guys don't reach out again.

 

[LC18]

Quick but deep question:

If I were to message you to try to reconnect after our last date many months ago, what would be a good way to do so?

 

[icepirates]

If it’s ok, I’d like to share my opinion as a client.

If there’s enough people doing it that there’s a pattern, that’s obviously is a huge hindrance when trying to optimize your business. I guess, I wouldn’t want to be lumped in with generic time wasters. I don’t think a small application fee for contacting providers is an outrageous idea; especially, if it can be applied to a date.

Personally, I have to ask a lot of questions that aren’t on most providers personal websites or in ads. Since I always play as a couple, I need to know if the provider sees couples. I can’t assume they don’t just bc rates for couples aren’t listed. Then, if they entertain couples, are they really bisexual or just going to ignore my wife. My wife’s fascination with breasts is why we date women in the first place, and because of that fascination, it’s nice to know if providers are enhanced or not. All of that could take several emails if the provider ignores the question, which happens a lot, and just focuses on booking a date. What really sucks is getting yelled at for asking. We’re only able to see someone once or twice a year. Who we choose to spend our time with is really important. Sometimes I wish we could reverse the process and post our own ad.

Well, this took me way longer to type up than I thought it would, and it’ll probably be largely ignored or someone will reply in anger, but I won’t give up on finding the one woman who understands and wants to have some adventures with us.

Thanks for your time and all that y’all do

 

[Michelle Gunn]

If it’s ok, I’d like to share my opinion as a client.

If there’s enough people doing it that there’s a pattern, that’s obviously is a huge hindrance when trying to optimize your business. I guess, I wouldn’t want to be lumped in with generic time wasters. I don’t think a small application fee for contacting providers is an outrageous idea; especially, if it can be applied to a date.

Personally, I have to ask a lot of questions that aren’t on most providers personal websites or in ads. Since I always play as a couple, I need to know if the provider sees couples. I can’t assume they don’t just bc rates for couples aren’t listed. Then, if they entertain couples, are they really bisexual or just going to ignore my wife. My wife’s fascination with breasts is why we date women in the first place, and because of that fascination, it’s nice to know if providers are enhanced or not. All of that could take several emails if the provider ignores the question, which happens a lot, and just focuses on booking a date. What really sucks is getting yelled at for asking. We’re only able to see someone once or twice a year. Who we choose to spend our time with is really important. Sometimes I wish we could reverse the process and post our own ad.

Well, this took me way longer to type up than I thought it would, and it’ll probably be largely ignored or someone will reply in anger, but I won’t give up on finding the one woman who understands and wants to have some adventures with us.

Thanks for your time and all that y’all do

I speak only for myself, of course, but if your initial contact shows me that you've read my website and are willing to screen and/or give a deposit, then I'm happy to answer most questions. If your message reads like someone who is jerking off, or can't read or be fucked to finish words or sentences (avail?) then I may ignore questions or ignore you altogether.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Since I always play as a couple, I need to know if the provider sees couples. I can’t assume they don’t just bc rates for couples aren’t listed. Then, if they entertain couples, are they really bisexual or just going to ignore my wife. My wife’s fascination with breasts is why we date women in the first place, and because of that fascination, it’s nice to know if providers are enhanced or not. All of that could take several emails if the provider ignores the question, which happens a lot, and just focuses on booking a date. What really sucks is getting yelled at for asking.

You wrote this in only one small paragraph, I don't see why it would take many emails to get answers for your questions above. Wrote concisely your questions in your inital contact, mention both of you are ready to provide all the details for the screening (if possible send it right away), and add a small presentation of you both and you should get a positive answer in return

If someone doesn't want to answer your questions, it might just not be the provider you're looking for.

 

[slychrono]

Rate my most recent booking.

Me: Hey, can I pre-book a month in advance?
SP: Yes of course, it's actually better for me.
Me: Cool, I'll email you later this evening with all the info.
*sends email with all the info + screening*
SP: Yes I am available at that date and time, although I require a deposit to secure the rdv.
Me: No prob *sends deposit*
SP: Received, see you in a month!

All happened between 2pm to 10pm

 

[icepirates]

You wrote this in only one small paragraph, I don't see why it would take many emails to get answers for your questions above. Wrote concisely your questions in your inital contact, mention both of you are ready to provide all the details for the screening (if possible send it right away), and add a small presentation of you both and you should get a positive answer in return

If someone doesn't want to answer your questions, it might just not be the provider you're looking for.

Would you consider any of those questions rude?

 

[Rebaynia]

I have had experiences where some SP’s orgasm while some don’t. I always wonder what is the typical SP’s outglook on faking.

I have no idea. I can only speak for myself, and I see no point in faking. If he let's me help, I will get there, if he doesn't, it's on him I'm not enjoying. Deal with the silence then.

Also, assuming an orgasm is real, how does an SP handle later clients. I mean there must be a logical limit.

As mentioned before as an indy. I don't often have more than 1 visit in a day, if that. When I do, it isn't an issue. We all get into this for different reasons. For me, the more I have the more I want.

If SP’s could orgasm with each client, I would assume by the end of the day, they would have less energy than a flea. Just asking.

I have more energy I get a high from the endorphins released in the brain.

 

[Rebaynia]

If it’s ok, I’d like to share my opinion as a client.

If there’s enough people doing it that there’s a pattern, that’s obviously is a huge hindrance when trying to optimize your business. I guess, I wouldn’t want to be lumped in with generic time wasters. I don’t think a small application fee for contacting providers is an outrageous idea; especially, if it can be applied to a date.

Personally, I have to ask a lot of questions that aren’t on most providers personal websites or in ads. Since I always play as a couple, I need to know if the provider sees couples. I can’t assume they don’t just bc rates for couples aren’t listed. Then, if they entertain couples, are they really bisexual or just going to ignore my wife. My wife’s fascination with breasts is why we date women in the first place, and because of that fascination, it’s nice to know if providers are enhanced or not. All of that could take several emails if the provider ignores the question, which happens a lot, and just focuses on booking a date. What really sucks is getting yelled at for asking. We’re only able to see someone once or twice a year. Who we choose to spend our time with is really important. Sometimes I wish we could reverse the process and post our own ad.

Well, this took me way longer to type up than I thought it would, and it’ll probably be largely ignored or someone will reply in anger, but I won’t give up on finding the one woman who understands and wants to have some adventures with us.

Thanks for your time and all that y’all do

When searching, I would suggest you search as woman for woman, and see who caters to both women and men for a bisexual+ provider.

Some providers specially advertise to couples because they understand the emotional connection they are fostering between the couple. Often a provider might wish to be contacted by your wife directly if these questions are being asked on her behalf.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

If it’s ok, I’d like to share my opinion as a client.

If there’s enough people doing it that there’s a pattern, that’s obviously is a huge hindrance when trying to optimize your business. I guess, I wouldn’t want to be lumped in with generic time wasters. I don’t think a small application fee for contacting providers is an outrageous idea; especially, if it can be applied to a date.

Personally, I have to ask a lot of questions that aren’t on most providers personal websites or in ads. Since I always play as a couple, I need to know if the provider sees couples. I can’t assume they don’t just bc rates for couples aren’t listed. Then, if they entertain couples, are they really bisexual or just going to ignore my wife. My wife’s fascination with breasts is why we date women in the first place, and because of that fascination, it’s nice to know if providers are enhanced or not. All of that could take several emails if the provider ignores the question, which happens a lot, and just focuses on booking a date. What really sucks is getting yelled at for asking. We’re only able to see someone once or twice a year. Who we choose to spend our time with is really important. Sometimes I wish we could reverse the process and post our own ad.

Well, this took me way longer to type up than I thought it would, and it’ll probably be largely ignored or someone will reply in anger, but I won’t give up on finding the one woman who understands and wants to have some adventures with us.

Thanks for your time and all that y’all do

Asking questions if you can't find the answers on the ad or website is fine in my opinion.

I definitely think some providers would not like being asked if their breasts are enhanced or if they're truly bisexual tho...

Also asking clients for a donation when they inquire would make me lose so much business. This is one of the reasons why I don't ask for deposits in the first place.

The choices we make as providers impact how much business we have. Sure it would be ideal to have high rates, ask for deposits, have impeccable screening methods, only provide safe services, have a 90 minute minimum etc but it's not realistic for most of us.

Still, I think some of these things should be normalized in the industry because they're about safety. In my opinion it's unacceptable that many clients refuse to screen or offer deposits.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I have no idea. I can only speak for myself, and I see no point in faking. If he let's me help, I will get there, if he doesn't, it's on him I'm not enjoying. Deal with the silence then.



As mentioned before as an indy. I don't often have more than 1 visit in a day, if that. When I do, it isn't an issue. We all get into this for different reasons. For me, the more I have the more I want.



I have more energy I get a high from the endorphins released in the brain.

I don't like it personally when there's a focus on me having an orgasm or not... I'm not going to elaborate on this. I think many other providers feel the same. it makes me feel pressured. I'm the same way in my personal life

 

[Rebaynia]

I don't like it personally when there's a focus on me having an orgasm or not... I'm not going to elaborate on this. I think many other providers feel the same. it makes me feel pressured. I'm the same way in my personal life

It is why I make it clear I speak for myself only, and we are all different, with different motives. It isn't my primary goal, but it certainly helps. I very much screen for people looking for this type of visit.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It is why I make it clear I speak for myself only, and we are all different, with different motives. It isn't my primary goal, but it certainly helps. I very much screen for people looking for this type of visit.

I quoted your comment because I was too lazy to look for the initial question lol. I think it definitely makes sense for it to make bookings more enjoyable.

 

[Enjoying life]

When searching, I would suggest you search as woman for woman, and see who caters to both women and men for a bisexual+ provider.

Some providers specially advertise to couples because they understand the emotional connection they are fostering between the couple. Often a provider might wish to be contacted by your wife directly if these questions are being asked on her behalf.

I like your new photo

Rebaynia!​

 

[Rebaynia]

I like your new photo

Rebaynia!​

Thank you. It was taken with an SP friend just this past Thursday.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Just to clarify my earlier comment, I think it's normal for clients to be concerned with the pleasure of the provider they are spending time with.

What I don't like personally is feeling pressured. Sometimes clients look shocked that I'm not instantly having an orgasm and I've even noticed reactions of anger or resentment, they take it very personally. But whether or not I or other women you're with have an orgasm sometimes has nothing to do with your skills as a lover or your attractiveness.

I think it's sweet when clients have a pleasing attitude and really want to do the right thing, it's definitely how people should act in intimate situations. But as a provider, I get more satisfaction making the other person feel good in all types of ways. Even with other women I tend to prefer being the one who's giving pleasure to the other. It's just how I am, and I think it's fine. I don't think faking orgasms is part of my job as a SP, but some would disagree.