Ask us anything part 3
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Escuse me for bring ignorant, but what the hell does BUMP mean? People here are asking questions, and others that answer « bump ». What is up with that?
Escuse me for bring ignorant, but what the hell does BUMP mean? People here are asking questions, and others that answer « bump ». What is up with that?
They just want to "bump" the thread to the top, to catch the attention of those who might have an answer but probably never saw the thread before. They say bump" because it's too long to form a full sentence, or because they just don't want to repeat the exact same question from the OP (original poster).
My longest streak is 3-4 years
There's also the fabulousely poetic "anyone tried her?", my favourite
Since were on the subject of merbposting, can someone explain how a thread or Ad becomes a "sticky thread" ?
Is it just one that people view frequently ?
In which case on independent Ads page only Shantie & April Dyson (& kat when it was up) met the threshold...
Is it just one that people view frequently ?
In which case on independent Ads page only Shantie & April Dyson (& kat when it was up) met the threshold...
Because they paid for this top placement.
Everyone in my life knows what I do, so no one can hold this over my head.
Everyone I know, knows what I do. I'm to open and honest to try hiding it from people. Even my boss and co-workers at my civi job know. Who's left to tell.
I would be too stressed out if I were trying to hide it.
It problably be. I decided when I started this that my people should know, and most people I meet when I feel the situation allows it. I couldn't do any different!
But I still have to hide it from time to time, I am not open to my bank, for instance. That is heavy enough so lying to everyone, all the time? I just can't imagine.
My family and friends know what I do. What makes me more nervous is clients recognizing me elsewhere. When I first started I would receive intimidating emails by guys who said they saw me in certain places. It was really creepy. Also someone who tried to match with me on a dating app years ago had tried to book me around that time. It's really uncomfortable. I think the scariest thing that happened in that regard was when a friend's abusive ex boyfriend tried to book me, hiding his identity. For some reason, that type of thing hasn't happened in a long time.
People at your job don't know what you're doing for a living?
If I tried to have a civilian job in many fields, I would not pass the background check or I would get fired very fast. I made a decision to be face out a long time ago, I regret it sometimes, but I won't go back. Your face isn't somewhere on the internet as a client, and I've never heard of someone getting fired for hiring sex workers in Montreal. Some clients told me they gossiped about who they saw with their coworkers, or ''I was recommended by a colleague''.
Sure I'm lucky that I wasn't disowned by my family and friends for what I do, but it did affect how they perceive me, and it does affect how new people I meet look at me. They think I am not the same person as before, even if I am.. and new people only see this about me. A lot of people judge, and say hurtful things at times or sexualize me without my consent. I assume that choice but it can be disheartening sometimes.
The advantage is that I am not living a lie, and I can advocate for myself.
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Yeah people often notice slackers and wonder what they do when they are supposed to be working lol.
Funnily enough, I don't have face pics but I really don't care about being outed. My family and friends know what I do, I share lingerie photos (face out) on my real Instagram etc. The only reason I don't show my face is because I'm self conscious (about my looks not my job, lol) and because I don't want yet another thing to have to think about during photoshoots. I can take a photo with a funny/blurry etc face and still use it to advertise if the body looks good.
I'm more worried about someone outing my real identity on merb than I am about someone outing my escort persona to the people who know me in real life. I know my people and I have no shame, but I don't know most merb members or their intentions.
But that is not likely to happen since I don't use my actual legal name anywhere online
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