100%. I didn't even know about this place until someone I'd seen had asked about a review and I had to look it up.
Ask us anything part 3
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Same. I haven't had any cautionary tales and write reviews for myself mainly and only if I had a great time. I'm also fortunate to not have to worry about money so much so I can see who I want at my discretion, as opposed to having to take a chance on someone specifically bc they're at a lower price point.
Well said—I applaud your stance and appreciate your response. You’re absolutely right that SPs often encounter clients claiming the status of “valuable members,” and you’re also correct about why that happens. However, they sometimes hear that status reinforced by certain bookers (e.g., “big MERB client is up next—be your best” or “sorry he did that to you, but we can’t block him because he’s a prolific reviewer”). I think we can all agree that this puffing up of message board clients—tipping the power dynamic in their favor and using subtle forms of coercion, pressure, or manipulation to grant them special treatment or excuse misconduct—should not be enabled from the agency side. And if it is, I hope steps are being taken to put a stop to it. (This is a general comment to all agencies, not singling anyone out.)
As you note in a later post, the link between reviews and an SP’s success isn’t exactly one-to-one, as evidenced by unreviewed SPs who are still consistently fully booked. And so, granting undue privileges or impunity for misconduct to a message board client is not only an unethical disservice to the SPs working for an agency—it may well be business-neutral at best and may even be more of a liability, as it risks higher turnover, increases STI spread risk (thinking of the repeat boundary-pushers here who are never blocked), and can damage future recruiting through reputational harm.
Thanks to all agency representatives and indies who have shared their perspectives on this matter. It’s encouraging to see broad agreement on practices that serve the best interests of the industry.
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I find that reviews are meant to reassure other members that a girl is genuine, likes what she is doing, offers typical GFE experience (that is what I’m looking for so that is what I share). Was she pleasant for me, is her hygiene good. The rest is between her and I. I know some reviewers are much more graphic, that is on them and it is fine. I like to keep what happened between me and a lady between her and I. I would never barter a review for free services or a bargain price.
I honestly really hope that the owners of this board take this matter seriously, for everyone's sake, and keep the users accountable. It's not just about BBFs. In my opinion, anyone who does things that could be considered violent & boundary pushing to SP should be banned from the board. It makes things difficult for both clients and providers.
Jerks searching for BBFS needs a serious reality Check and should be blacklisted by this forum and by the girls (i guess it is already the case that you ladies share the name(s)? of any jerk(s) trying to get BBFS.
Obviously they should. One issue is that some clients ask in person and not through text and now they know that some idiots use other member's handles to ask us so they can just give us their handles by text and not prove it. Verbal abuse, humiliation, other types of boundary pushing (non consensual acts, physical aggressiveness & violence) are also things multiple providers have had to deal with, including with certain merb users. It would be great if we could just report abusive members to the mods but I'm not sure if it's realistic..
The problem with that is what you may consider abusive behavior and boundary pushing may not be for another SP.
No confusion when the SP stated in her information what is acceptable or not.
Obviously. That's why everyone has different boundaries, which are often stated in our ads and discussed during the booking process. That's why I always ask for people's expectations when they are booking me, because if they are looking for an experience I cannot provide I don't want anyone to be disappointed. (or on the contrary, they will be pleasantly surprised if I say that I can accommodate an experience!)
One example of this is a client, no idea if he is a merb user or not, who asked for a PSE service from someone and gave me her name as a reference. I explained several times that I'm GFE and what my limits are. When I was with him, he yanked my hair, choked me and spat all over my face. Some people enjoy this type of experience if it's been discussed beforehand, but it was not. To me that is abusive. I don't see how you can look at this any other way.
Not all SP have the same boundaries, and crossing that boundary is unacceptable. It's not really that hard to respect consent.
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Consent.
When you're paying for sexual services that doesn't mean that you're in a porn movie and can do whatever you want. There's always going to be a SP who will accept to do what you want if it's within reasonable limits anyways, there are even SP who are subs. It's not hard to clearly discuss services and restrictions and to decipher what kind of experience you'll be able to get with someone. If someone has time to read and write multiple reviews all the time they can take the time to talk to the SP directly and read her ads carefully..
Everyone is hyper fixated on BBFs too. If the provider is offering it out of her own free will and not being coerced into it.. Obviously it's dangerous, but if the client books that provider for it I don't care, as long as he leaves me alone and as long as he doesn't try to make it sound like this is the norm to others. Having someone slap me or fuck me in the ass without asking would be just as traumatic as a client removing the condom, but that wouldn't get someone banned here... It's weird.
Everyone is hyper fixated on BBFs too. If the provider is offering it out of her own free will and not being coerced into it.. Obviously it's dangerous, but if the client books that provider for it I don't care, as long as he leaves me alone and as long as he doesn't try to make it sound like this is the norm to others. Having someone slap me or fuck me in the ass without asking would be just as traumatic as a client removing the condom, but that wouldn't get someone banned here... It's weird.
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C’est pas compliqué, ça s’appelle le consentement! Il suffit de demander si la femme a est partante ou non pour telle ou telle activité.
Question for everyone: has anyone ordered a duo where the outcall girl goes to the incall place where another SP from the incall agency and I are waiting for a duo session? Is this bad protocol?
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it's funny you asked this question, because this morning I was thinking who choose what incall to use in a duo situation where both women are indies and have different incalls but have not meet each other before
That's happened to me multiple times! It all depends on who's incall is available at the moment, and which location is more convenient for everyone. I always offer to host because I don't mind cleaning and preparing the area.
Most of the time, the providers will figure it out between them. It’s most of the time the incall that’s available or cheaper to rent
ok I have a question please 
there is a provider i saw many times in like 2021-2022. Then she went away, then she came back and when I saw her in late 2023 early 2024 I asked for her number. I saw her very sporadically in 2024 until once early in 2025.
Well she is back for a month and she let me know via text. Truth is, although I like her as a person a lot, sexually (the kind you pay for) I've lost complete interest.
i am not one to 'ghost people", but I just cant think of a way to tell her i am not interested in seeing her anymore, and within the nature of the biz I wonder if it is just not better to not respond? that seems to be the way a lot of people handle things these days.
Or as a provider, would you rather hear the truth, that, although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore?
there is a provider i saw many times in like 2021-2022. Then she went away, then she came back and when I saw her in late 2023 early 2024 I asked for her number. I saw her very sporadically in 2024 until once early in 2025.
Well she is back for a month and she let me know via text. Truth is, although I like her as a person a lot, sexually (the kind you pay for) I've lost complete interest.
i am not one to 'ghost people", but I just cant think of a way to tell her i am not interested in seeing her anymore, and within the nature of the biz I wonder if it is just not better to not respond? that seems to be the way a lot of people handle things these days.
Or as a provider, would you rather hear the truth, that, although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore?
Take her on a social date and then tell her you have a nasty STD ?
