Ask us anything part 3

[Vardhan945]

I find it sad that you would talk about your people this way….

It's a culture clash. When living in a foreign country it's incumbent upon the person who moved there to educate themselves about the social norms of that country. A lot of "my people" haven't done that.

I've spent time in East Asia and the Middle East; if I went about my day to day life the exact same way I did here (in the States) I would expect some awkward or negative reactions.

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

Since this is a highly controversial topic, here is what Google's Gemini AI has to say about it:

Some escorts and sex workers may have policies excluding specific racial groups, such as Black or Indian men, due to a combination of personal safety concerns based on past experiences, entrenched racial stereotypes, and, in some cases, personal preferences that intersect with broader systemic prejudices. These policies often arise from a desire to control the clientele in a high-risk, often unregulated industry, though they are frequently criticized as discriminatory.
Here are the primary reasons cited for these, and similar, restrictions:

• Safety and Previous Bad Experiences: Many sex workers report using racial exclusion as a form of client screening to avoid situations they have found to be higher risk. Some cite personal or peer experiences with specific demographics, such as reports of increased verbal aggression, physical violence, or robbery during encounters with certain clients.
• Safety "Stereotyping": Some sex workers may generalize negative experiences with specific individuals to an entire group, a practice often criticized as racial prejudice that ignores individual behavior.
• Negotiation and Behavior Issues: In some contexts, particularly in certain regions, escorts have reported that clients from certain cultures are more likely to haggle over prices, show disrespect, or break established rules during meetings.
• Racialized Sexual Stereotypes: Research suggests that some choices are influenced by stereotypes that deem certain races more desirable or less desirable, or which associate specific groups with aggressive behavior.
• Cultural Differences and Miscommunication: Some exclusions are rationalized by potential clients' perceived cultural differences in communication, which some sex workers feel can lead to boundary-setting issues regarding consent.
• Preferences and "Body Autonomy": While many observers and researchers consider these policies to be racist, some sex workers argue they have the right to choose who they interact with, treating it as an exercise of body autonomy and personal preference.

These practices are sometimes linked to a broader, well-documented, and systemic racial hierarchy of desirability in dating and sex work, where white men are often sought after, and people of color may face higher rates of exclusion

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

Because they don’t like 9 inches dick!

 

[kstanb]

Question to the ladies:
reading lately about the Epstein files, I saw there was a lot going on in terms of behind the door "social parties"
Has anyone been invited/ involved in that kind of stuff? I am talking big bucks or famous people organizing orgies

by the way I am NOT asking about pedo party stuff; if you had that kind of story you should be talking to the police

 

[LC18]

Question to the ladies:
reading lately about the Epstein files, I saw there was a lot going on in terms of behind the door "social parties"
Has anyone been invited/ involved in that kind of stuff? I am talking big bucks or famous people organizing orgies

by the way I am NOT asking about pedo party stuff; if you had that kind of story you should be talking to the police

I have met some famous Canadians, some wealthy Canadians/Americans but I’ve never been invited to any kind of party with many high profile people. At least not as Lena

 

[Rebaynia]

Question to the ladies:
reading lately about the Epstein files, I saw there was a lot going on in terms of behind the door "social parties"
Has anyone been invited/ involved in that kind of stuff? I am talking big bucks or famous people organizing orgies

by the way I am NOT asking about pedo party stuff; if you had that kind of story you should be talking to the police

I think it is not the wisest idea to namedrop when in this field. Their secrecy is as important as your own as a client.
No I have not seen privatized parties by famous people. Only orgy parties I have heard about personally were either hosted by providers, or by the kinky club, and some other option that was being called out for bad practices.

 

[minutemenX]

I think it is not the wisest idea to namedrop when in this field. Their secrecy is as important as your own as a client.
No I have not seen privatized parties by famous people. Only orgy parties I have heard about personally were either hosted by providers, or by the kinky club, and some other option that was being called out for bad practices.

Talking about famous people and hobbies. I have known 2 SPs now long retired that collected encounters with famous people. One slept with practically all famous hockey players from Montreal and visiting while the other with boxers, also both local and visiting as an SP and in here private life.

 

[Vardhan945]

Talking about famous people and hobbies. I have known 2 SPs now long retired that collected encounters with famous people. One slept with practically all famous hockey players from Montreal and visiting while the other with boxers, also both local and visiting as an SP and in here private life.

These famous athletes - who are in the top 0.1% of men as far as their options - see SPs?

 

[Julia Sky]

These famous athletes - who are in the top 0.1% of men as far as their options - see SPs?

Yes they do, for various reasons

 

[LeDodo]

These famous athletes - who are in the top 0.1% of men as far as their options - see SPs?

Same reasons for the rest of the 99.9% of the men seeing SPs.

 

[LC18]

These famous athletes - who are in the top 0.1% of men as far as their options - see SPs?

I would say that it’s a very good idea

If I was a basketball player or a rapper, I would hire a woman instead of being caught in a 5 baby mamas scandal

Warning, this is a wild generalization:
Some women main goal in life is to baby trap athletes, actors or rappers. Escorts don’t usually do that as funny as it may sound to some, we have ethics

 

[minutemenX]

I would say that it’s a very good idea

If I was a basketball player or a rapper, I would hire a woman instead of being caught in a 5 baby mamas scandal

Warning, this is a wild generalization:
Some women main goal in life is to baby trap athletes, actors or rappers. Escorts don’t usually do that as funny as it may sound to some, we have ethics

As I understood it is not the athletes themselves that arrange these encounters. Their managers and promoters do it to manage their sexual life and to shield them from undesired encounters with willing fans that may cause troubles. One girl told me that she had a very good relationship with one of the US team managers and was called regularly when the team was in town.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Here's a question for clients. Aside from the obvious stuff like physical and verbal abuse, what would be a good reason for a provider not to want to see a client or for her to stop seeing him? What is a valid criticism you listened to, that made you change your behavior?

Question for providers : what are some problematic client behavior that aren't usually talked about or often not taken seriously? I have my own answers but I'm curious about yours

The reason why I'm asking is because sometimes I feel like clients are a bit clueless about how their own actions can be harmful, and it's good for them to be educated so they won't repeat the same mistakes

 

[EagerBeaver]

One girl told me that she had a very good relationship with one of the US team managers and was called regularly when the team was in town.

I think it's generally true with athletes, entertainers and other celebrities that there are intermediaries who arrange the dalliances, for the reasons you mentioned and also for plausible deniability on their behalf in case something goes sideways.

A notable exception was former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, who used no intermediaries, deviously shook his security detail, and directly booked and paid for his assorted affairs, using his own money. He ultimately got caught because of suspicious cash transfers in excess of $10,000, showing that he really had not thought out how to leave himself with significant, readily accessible cash liquidity so as to continue to fund what he was doing. However, he would have gotten away with that part of it as well, if his banking activity wasn't already being monitored for suspicious activity due to a completely unrelated investigation which ultimately turned up no evidence of wrongdoing. Otherwise he would not have been caught.

 

[LC18]

what are some problematic client behavior that aren't usually talked about or often not taken seriously?

I don’t really talk about my limits online. Mostly because I don’t want people to try and push them and also because they differ based on the person I’m with

 

[minutemenX]

Here's a question for clients. Aside from the obvious stuff like physical and verbal abuse, what would be a good reason for a provider not to want to see a client or for her to stop seeing him? What is a valid criticism you listened to, that made you change your behavior?

Question for providers : what are some problematic client behavior that aren't usually talked about or often not taken seriously? I have my own answers but I'm curious about yours

The reason why I'm asking is because sometimes I feel like clients are a bit clueless about how their own actions can be harmful, and it's good for them to be educated so they won't repeat the same mistakes

Log time ago one girl told me that my looks and behavior remind her so much of her dad that she feels uncomfortable with me.

 

[LeDodo]

Warning, this is a wild generalization:
Some women main goal in life is to baby trap athletes, actors or rappers. Escorts don’t usually do that as funny as it may sound to some, we have ethics

In Asia, where inheritance by the gender (male in this case) is still strong, some women chase tycoons and the ultra rich to have a son. So many non public stories that everyone knows of non official spouse

 

[kstanb]

Here's a question for clients. Aside from the obvious stuff like physical and verbal abuse, what would be a good reason for a provider not to want to see a client or for her to stop seeing him? What is a valid criticism you listened to, that made you change your behavior?

Question for providers : what are some problematic client behavior that aren't usually talked about or often not taken seriously? I have my own answers but I'm curious about yours

The reason why I'm asking is because sometimes I feel like clients are a bit clueless about how their own actions can be harmful, and it's good for them to be educated so they won't repeat the same mistakes

any reason is a valid reason, if she doesn't consent to see you
that said, in my experience I haven't have many cases, and on those few, I barely received any kind of feedback at all.
some examples:

1) a well know indy provider, I had to postpone our session, the 1st time she accepted, the 2nd time she "fired me"... and no amount of apologies, begging, sending gift card, offer to pay a penalty, nada helped... nothing worked

2) couple of times I was respectfully declined ("I don't think we'll be a good match." -- during the 1st email introduction) because I put some details on kink, and they were vanilla. Lesson learnt, It is probably a good idea to go very vanilla on the first meet and only then ask if they are into that. unless her X posts are kinky wild.

3) I remember one that never replied back, she never said why, but I think she didn't enjoy our sexy time, it took me a lot of time to come, maybe I was too much work. I booked 2 hours and she asked to reduce it to 90min.

4) last one, there was this Toronto woman that I only met once, I think we both followed us in twitter and she didn't like something I posted, so she blocked me. She was with an agency, so I guess I could had asked the owner for feedback, but I didn't. If the reason was valid (abuse, violence) I would had been banned from that agency, and I still saw many other ladies from there and attended many of their orgy parties. Actually I didn't know she didn't want to see me until we met at an orgy around a year later, but that is story for another day

 

[LC18]

2) couple of times I was respectfully declined ("I don't think we'll be a good match." -- during the 1st email introduction) because I put some details on kink, and they were vanilla. Lesson learnt, It is probably a good idea to go very vanilla on the first meet and only then ask if they are into that. unless her X posts are kinky wild.

Not everyone is comfortable/uncomfortable with details, I personally like to know ahead of time what the person wants because I don’t like wasting people’s time

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I don’t really talk about my limits online. Mostly because I don’t want people to try and push them and also because they differ based on the person I’m with

But that's not what I'm talking about, not physical limits like restrictions, more like things that generally SP's don't appreciate that a lot of clients do. I find that when I started being really clear about my boundaries, people stopped trying to push them.. however there are certain things that are less obvious