Danger of bbfs

[Giselle Montreal]

Doesn’t matter where he posts, it will be locked as discussing this is against the rules

It will be deleted since some guys will write to the guy to ask who it is...

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It will be deleted since some guys will write to the guy to ask who it is...

Exactly. We all know people are already gossiping in DM's

 

[Universe knows]

I suspect some of the people who post about this and comment on these threads are trying to find out which SPs offer it even if they act outraged over it lol ..

Maybe this will sound off topic but it's more common than you think for clients to bully or manipulate girls who are new and vulnerable into bbfs, or to remove the condom when they see these girls.

Last summer I think I had one person or people (who knows) message me from a fake phone number to ask for bbfs almost almost every day for months. Some of the messages were bragging about doing it with agency girls "on purpose"... Around the same time a friend told me her friend who worked for an agency was pressured by a popular Merb user who then forced her and removed the condom. I don't remember who it was but I had a similar experience of a big reviewer asking me for bbfs as soon as he got to my place in 2022. Obviously I didn't do it but he got aggressive afterwards and it was a very traumatic booking.

That's also why you have to get tested more often if it's that common.. obviously the risk of someone having STI is way higher if she does bareback with a lot of random dudes, and you may not know that she does, or that one of the clients who saw her also saw a SP you just saw.

I think it says a lot if it is true that a lot of SP are offering this.. it shows there's a demand for it and there are economic pressures pushing them to do these things. I don't think anyone should be offering these and I think potentially if a girl is doing that chances are she's really not well mentally and in a bad situation, so maybe if that happens at an agency someone could intervene, I don't know.. I've heard of high end girls who are very low volume offering them for a higher rate, but that's not the context we're talking about here

I have heard a Lo stories where clients try to remove protection like said , or push boundaries on new girls and then come to review board to say it’s the girl that is offering it while in reality they were the ones who pushed it. Tried to remove condoms, or try to force kissing , certain positions when the girl doesn’t want it .
They sometimes use it as an excuse to write down fake reviews of the girls and try to destroy their reputation when they refuse. Unless they go to the board and defend themselves.
I also agree with the statement that some are bringing the topic to find the girls and harass them.
It’s very nasty and not good .

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I have heard a Lo stories where clients try to remove protection like said , or push boundaries on new girls and then come to review board to say it’s the girl that is offering it while in reality they were the ones who pushed it. Tried to remove condoms, or try to force kissing , certain positions when the girl doesn’t want it .
They sometimes use it as an excuse to write down fake reviews of the girls and try to destroy their reputation when they refuse. Unless they go to the board and defend themselves.
I also agree with the statement that some are bringing the topic to find the girls and harass them.
It’s very nasty and not good .

Yep. That's not surprising to me at all. I've heard similar stories. That's why last year when the topic came up, I told people to be careful who you're listening to because sometimes it's gossip and hearsay.. Some people will say a girl offers it just to hurt her reputation. I also agree that some guys write fake reviews when they don't get what they want, I've had multiple colleagues tell me that kind of story...

Yeah I don't doubt that some girls offer it, but if a SP is going straight for bareback without asking the client in my opinion she's probably not in the right mental state to see clients... If you see what I mean.

 

[Salbandini]

I have heard a Lo stories where clients try to remove protection like said , or push boundaries on new girls and then come to review board to say it’s the girl that is offering it while in reality they were the ones who pushed it. Tried to remove condoms, or try to force kissing , certain positions when the girl doesn’t want it .
They sometimes use it as an excuse to write down fake reviews of the girls and try to destroy their reputation when they refuse. Unless they go to the board and defend themselves.
I also agree with the statement that some are bringing the topic to find the girls and harass them.
It’s very nasty and not good .

Some may be fake but some are true. When its brought up this is what happens . You dont take its never taken as credible. I never made a fake review Ive been saying this since last year. In some pop agencies and some pop indies and even mps its been happening and happens regularly. At the end of the day wether you think its credible or not thats your business.

And yes till this day theres clients always trying to remove the condom always. Thats sick and disgusting same as an sp doing offering bbfs or client accepting it or asking for it . Force kissing other positions same shit. But in an industry like its to be expected where not everyone will be normal

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Force kissing other positions same shit. But in an industry like its to be expected where not everyone will be normal

Not a good way of thinking. "I'm a woman, I should expect to be raped a few times in my lifetime, hey, what can I do, such is life, boys will be boys."

Please, no. It's never OK, and it shouldn't be expected.

 

[kirankumar]

Yep. That's not surprising to me at all. I've heard similar stories. That's why last year when the topic came up, I told people to be careful who you're listening to because sometimes it's gossip and hearsay.. Some people will say a girl offers it just to hurt her reputation. I also agree that some guys write fake reviews when they don't get what they want, I've had multiple colleagues tell me that kind of story...

Yeah I don't doubt that some girls offer it, but if a SP is going straight for bareback without asking the client in my opinion she's probably not in the right mental state to see clients... If you see what I mean.

Yes I heard from a provider that someone else tried to lure her by stating he knows that I have had bbfs with that provider. I do not understand why people do that and even even they do they take random names like in this case mine

I think there should be a moderator governed list of providers and clients who request/ provide bbfs and ban them from Merb to avoid risk to others in this forum. Just my view to avoid some risk from this already risky pleasure meetings

 

[Salbandini]

Not a good way of thinking. "I'm a woman, I should expect to be raped a few times in my lifetime, hey, what can I do, such is life, boys will be boys."

Please, no. It's never OK, and it shouldn't be expected.

You didnt get what i said clearly. You know the risks of this job that there will always be clients who will try to take advantage. You can root it out yourself by your screening or whatever methods but thats the reality, the expectation is that there always be some bad apples.

I never said its ok to be raped or boys will be boys. Wtf are you talking about?

 

[LeafsSuck]

I have heard a Lo stories where clients try to remove protection like said , or push boundaries on new girls and then come to review board to say it’s the girl that is offering it while in reality they were the ones who pushed it. Tried to remove condoms, or try to force kissing , certain positions when the girl doesn’t want it .
They sometimes use it as an excuse to write down fake reviews of the girls and try to destroy their reputation when they refuse. Unless they go to the board and defend themselves.
I also agree with the statement that some are bringing the topic to find the girls and harass them.
It’s very nasty and not good .

Yes, and the opposite also true. There has been several SP's that have slid my cock inside them or tried to slide my cock inside them. I had to ask for a condom.

 

[Salbandini]

Yes I heard from a provider that someone else tried to lure her by stating he knows that I have had bbfs with that provider. I do not understand why people do that and even even they do they take random names like in this case mine

I think there should be a moderator governed list of providers and clients who request/ provide bbfs and ban them from Merb to avoid risk to others in this forum. Just my view to avoid some risk from this already risky pleasure meetings

100 percent

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I think there should be a moderator governed list of providers and clients who request/ provide bbfs and ban them from Merb to avoid risk to others in this forum. Just my view to avoid some risk from this already risky pleasure meetings

Don't worry, they know who the girls are (maybe not all, but still). It wouldn't do any good to expose them. As for the clients, you can look at the suspension list (https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/merb-suspensions-check-here-for-why.12682/page-55#post-1800568), many were banned for asking for BBFS.

 

[LeDodo]

Yes I heard from a provider that someone else tried to lure her by stating he knows that I have had bbfs with that provider. I do not understand why people do that and even even they do they take random names like in this case mine

Well it's gaslighting and coercion.

As for the name it's deception. They will assume that any name or vocal user on the forum is safe to be mentioned.

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

Yes, and the opposite also true. There has been several SP's that have slid my cock inside them or tried to slide my cock inside them. I had to ask for a condom.

I don't know which establishments you are patronizing and which providers you are seeing, but in ten years in two different cities, nothing like this has ever happened to me.

 

[LeafsSuck]

I don't know which establishments you are patronizing and which providers you are seeing, but in ten years in two different cities, nothing like this has ever happened to me.

I have been around to salons and indy's. Some other friends in the hobby have had many more experiences than myself with this so I guess it is just a matter of time before you come across this.

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

I have been around to salons and indy's. Some other friends in the hobby have had many more experiences than myself with this so I guess it is just a matter of time before you come across this.

I don't visit salons (MP).

 

[Like_It_Hot]

I don't visit salons (MP).

Since, it could happen anywhere. Sex is sex... and money is money.
Don't assume it will never happen to you to be in a situation where you will have a choice to do.

 

[Like_It_Hot]

Doesn’t matter where he posts, it will be locked as discussing this is against the rules

Maybe you did not notice but the thread has been moved to the LOUNGE.
The rules are not that BBFS can not be discussed. It is that there is a ban for promoting or looking to get BBFS.
In my opinion, it is healthy to discuss those things so it is easier to make the right choice.

 

[LC18]

Maybe you did not notice but the thread has been moved to the LOUNGE.
The rules are not that BBFS can not be discussed. It is that there is a ban for promoting or looking to get BBFS.
In my opinion, it is healthy to discuss those things so it is easier to make the right choice.

It will remain open until someone crosses the line and someone will because it’s happened the 50 other times before

 

[Julia Sky]

The rules are not that BBFS can not be discussed. It is that there is a ban for promoting or looking to get BBFS.

I'm almost 100% sure this is a recent change though, as I vividly remember the rules or a moderator saying that no mentions of BBFS and no discussion surrounding it would be tolerated.

 

[Salbandini]

I don't visit salons (MP).

it Aint just salons my friend, your favorite establishments are culpable as well