Ask us anything part 3

[Giselle Montreal]

Thank you for the don'ts, would appreciate to also hear of the do's too

Be yourself! Cliché, I know.

You talk about the same subject as on a first date. Maybe not "where do you live", but passions, restaurants, activities, projects, school, etc. Remember that you will not be the only one doing the conversation, so the other person will talk too, so no worries and let it flow!

Though, I am not sure what you mean when you say "suggestions of how a client should be out going and/or direct in his communication style?" ?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Thank you for the don'ts, would appreciate to also hear of the do's too

I think we appreciate if you talk about your interests, tell us a bit about yourself.. ask her about her taste in music, film, etc. just be yourself and act as if you were on a date but without asking questions that are too personal.. personally I like it when clients allow themselves to be outgoing, it shows they're in a good mood and have a positive attitude. But some people are shy and that's fine too

 

[Johnny test]

Would like to know from an SP point of view, on a first time meeting, what is the best etiquette or conversation topics to have, and suggestions of how a client should be out going and/or direct in his communication style?

Also, as an SP, do you feel encounters are better the first time or with a regular type of client meeting monthly, ie is there an advantage of being a regular client.

i know you didn't ask clients, so maybe out of line, but i'm a "repeat" kind of guy so 1st date are often not as good as the following ones. So for me there's clearly an advantage in being a "regular", for that and for several other reasons.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

i know you didn't ask clients, so maybe out of line, but i'm a "repeat" kind of guy so 1st date are often not as good as the following ones. So for me there's clearly an advantage in being a "regular", for that and for several other reasons.

Yeah I find that sessions tend to improve over time with many clients. I think most of us try to keep our clients.. but I often know at this point who will repeat and who won't.

 

[LC18]

Would like to know from an SP point of view, on a first time meeting, what is the best etiquette or conversation topics to have, and suggestions of how a client should be out going and/or direct in his communication style?

Also, as an SP, do you feel encounters are better the first time or with a regular type of client meeting monthly, ie is there an advantage of being a regular client.

I had some amazing first dates with clients, then the second was a disaster.

I’ve had some awkward first dates and then the next ones were completely amazing. It all depends

 

[LC18]

[Men] Have you seen a lot of erect penis in real life?

Now before you giggle and tell me “you’re so silly Lena”. I’m asking because a lot of you don’t know what a big dick is. I have told a lot of men that theirs was big and they didn’t believe me. I blame porn and the fact that they probably haven’t seen that many penises in real life

 

[LeDodo]

[Men] Have you seen a lot of erect penis in real life?

Now before you giggle and tell me “you’re so silly Lena”. I’m asking because a lot of you don’t know what a big dick is. I have told a lot of men that theirs was big and they didn’t believe me. I blame porn and the fact that they probably haven’t seen that many penises in real life

Penis yes. Erected no.

Yes porn is to blame for those insecurities.

However porn or not, these kind of comments has never and won't happen to most of us (at least for me).

 

[Julien6111]

[Men] Have you seen a lot of erect penis in real life?

Myself none in real life, saw smaller and larger in porn, therefore thinking I am average, with which I am comfortable with.

 

[LookAlike]

[Men] Have you seen a lot of erect penis in real life?

Now before you giggle and tell me “you’re so silly Lena”. I’m asking because a lot of you don’t know what a big dick is. I have told a lot of men that theirs was big and they didn’t believe me. I blame porn and the fact that they probably haven’t seen that many penises in real life

Yes. Some years ago I had sessions with trans.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

[Men] Have you seen a lot of erect penis in real life?

Now before you giggle and tell me “you’re so silly Lena”. I’m asking because a lot of you don’t know what a big dick is. I have told a lot of men that theirs was big and they didn’t believe me. I blame porn and the fact that they probably haven’t seen that many penises in real life

I've stopped telling men they have big dicks because they always react like this.. and ultimately I don't care how big someone's dick is. As long as I can work with it, I'm cool with any size. I also think mainstream porn creates a lot of cognitive distortions in people about sexuality and the human body

 

[Monsieur JJJ]

Dans la vraie vie, j'ai vu quelques pénis en érection sur des sites de fantasmes et il y en a de tout les formats. Ça m'a permis de juger du mien mais toutefois, j'apprécie les commentaires honnêtes des femmes rencontrées ici sur la taille et l'allure.

Je trouve cela flatteur, un plus et je les en remercie. Toutes me disent que si elles le disent c'est qu'elles le pensent.

 

[LC18]

Dans la vraie vie, j'ai vu quelques pénis en érection sur des sites de fantasmes et il y en a de tout les formats. Ça m'a permis de juger du mien mais toutefois, j'apprécie les commentaires honnêtes des femmes rencontrées ici sur la taille et l'allure.

Je trouve cela flatteur, un plus et je les en remercie. Toutes me disent que si elles le disent c'est qu'elles le pensent.

Oui parce que franchement ça ne me donne pas à grand chose de mentir là dessus

 

[cru_33]

I've seen a lot, been to swingers clubs and parties etc...

Here's my two cents. For what it's worth, I'm 6.5" (7" on a great day ) so I am slightly above "average" however, although I've never had any complaints, most of the erect penises I've seen were way bigger than me.

However, I think that's more because I was exposed to "unaverage people"... Being ENM is not commonplace, and so the people who are in that space are not part of the majority... My theory is those anywhere near or below average never show anyone but those they are personally intimate with, and inversely, those that are 1.5" or more from the average flaunt it more.

 

[LC18]

I've seen a lot, been to swingers clubs and parties etc...

Here's my two cents. For what it's worth, I'm 6.5" (7" on a great day ) so I am slightly above "average" however, although I've never had any complaints, most of the erect penises I've seen were way bigger than me.

However, I think that's more because I was exposed to "unaverage people"... Being ENM is not commonplace, and so the people who are in that space are not part of the majority... My theory is those anywhere near or below average never show anyone but those they are personally intimate with, and inversely, those that are 1.5" or more from the average flaunt it more.

That makes sense, if I had DDs I would not wear a top ever. Ok I’m slightly exaggerating but I would find ways to walk around topless

 

[LeDodo]

Oui parce que franchement ça ne me donne pas à grand chose de mentir là dessus

Flater l'ego ou comme on dit, mousser les gens pour qu'ils soient satisfaient et/ou reviennent.

Mais quand tu sais que c'est ce genre de situation et que c'est poussé à l'extrême c'est un tue-l'amour.

Exemples concret: J'ai déjà eu des compliments sur mon intelligence, comment j'étais parfait pour finir sur un "je veux t'épouser!".

 

[LeDodo]

Yes. Some years ago I had sessions with trans.

Non related, but I always wondered why most of the trans in porn/sex work have such huge dick.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Non related, but I always wondered why most of the trans in porn/sex work have such huge dick.

They are probably being cast exactly for it.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I've stopped telling men they have big dicks because they always react like this.. and ultimately I don't care how big someone's dick is.

Well, I never say that to clients to compliment them. It's because I am made petite and I need to adapt when they are on the bigger side. I don't want them to start thrusting, I need to control until I am comfortable, so I have to warn them to avoid being hurt.

But I say sometimes when I think their penis is beautiful, but most of the time I don't say it because my mouth is full.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Well, I never say that to clients to compliment them. It's because I am made petite and I need to adapt when they are on the bigger side. I don't want them to start thrusting, I need to control until I am comfortable, so I have to warn them to avoid being hurt.

But I say sometimes when I think their penis is beautiful, but most of the time I don't say it because my mouth is full.

That's also been my experience.. thankfully most men I've seen recently who are in that predicament are aware and they know to take it easy

 

[Lunaseraphim]

They are probably being cast exactly for it.

They are.. I have friends who are trans women and did sex work and clients focused on that part of their body a lot. When they get the full gender reassignment surgery a lot of them don't get as many clients or so I've been told