Ask us anything part 3

[Fradi]

... Also do you seriously think it's ok to fuck an escort and then refuse to give the money or take it back by force?

No because all it proves is that you are a fucking idiot for not doing your home work and getting yourself into a situation of your own doing, this is about the money part, however other people may not think the same way as I do. I would be embarrassed to admit to it and would much prefer to take the loss.

As far as using force, that is way beyond everything I believe in. The only time force is warranted against a woman is if she is threatening your life or your loved ones with a weapon and there is no other option.
I actually had parents that taught me right from wrong and my mother, sister, daughter in law etc… are women I would like to think people would treat women the way they would like their closest loved one to be treated.

 

[CenterofNH]

“Do you know who I am? I’ve written multiple reviews on merb. I can write a bad one about you”

It’s giving “do you know who I am? I am [insert celebrity name]” except we don’t care

I don't think I've met somebody who used the "do you know who I am" line; too funny!

 

[Fradi]

It's true Fradi doesn't say things as awful as some users but there's no convincing possible here. Look who agrees with him.

Now you are insulting anyone who dares to disagree with you and agrees with someone else.
You are truly one of a kind lol.
Ever thought of joining a cult there everyone has the same opinion especially if you are the leader.

 

[massagecentre]

Didn’t know my post would cause an uproar

 

[themonk83]

Didn’t know my post would cause an uproar

It's the same old same old. Select few that go off road when the opportunity presents itself and you wonder what was the question about

 

[jeffmathers]

Now you are insulting anyone who dares to disagree with you and agrees with someone else.
You are truly one of a kind lol.
Ever thought of joining a cult there everyone has the same opinion especially if you are the leader.

Look at my original post "I wish there was a punishment for the merbites who physically hurt providers and cross boundaries. They just post and spread their opinions without a care in the world."

You made some big assumptions from that. I'm not trying to make you say anything specific but you're assuming a ton of things I didn't say. My original post should only be controversial if you make huge assumptions.

 

[2fast2slow]

man this thread is on fire. Getting back to my post (yesterday evening, 40 posts ago already lol), thank you @Lunaseraphim and @Rebaynia for your replies. I just want to clarify I would never have textually said "although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore" ...but by plainly saying i am not interested in seeing you anymore as you suggested, that is essentially saying the same thing. I think the best course forward is ignoring, because lying is worse.

 

[Fradi]

Have someone text her with your phone and say that you passed away and that they are a close relative.
Nobody can speak ill of the dead and they don’t usually care.
I am joking of course, you are on your own tough situation probably best not to answer.

 

[Fradi]

You made some big assumptions from that. I'm not trying to make you say anything specific but you're assuming a ton of things I didn't say. My original post should only be controversial if you make huge assumptions.

What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol.
I don’t assume things if I have something to say I say it. i am pretty straight forward in what I think and don’t beat around the bush and don’t much care if people have a problem with it.

 

[jeffmathers]

What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol.
I don’t assume things if I have something to say I say it. i am pretty straight forward in what I think and don’t beat around the bush and don’t much care if people have a problem with it.

"What exactly did I assume perhaps you can fill me in lol." a ton of stuff. Everything you were upset over is something I didn't say.

There is no explanation needed from me. If someone says they never assume things after assuming many things then it's a waste of time to explain.

My original post was "I wish there was a punishment for the merbites who physically hurt providers and cross boundaries. They just post and spread their opinions without a care in the world."

Everything you disagreed with was something not said by me.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

man this thread is on fire. Getting back to my post (yesterday evening, 40 posts ago already lol), thank you @Lunaseraphim and @Rebaynia for your replies. I just want to clarify I would never have textually said "although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore" ...but by plainly saying i am not interested in seeing you anymore as you suggested, that is essentially saying the same thing. I think the best course forward is ignoring, because lying is worse.

It's saying the same thing in a way, but not exactly.. You can politely decline without clarifying that you don't find the person attractive anymore. It's not like clients are in a relationship with us, a lot of clients are just there for variety or for a short period of time. I have regulars and repeat clients, but a really large part of clients will see you a few times or for a period of time and then move on to someone else. It's not personal, they just want to try something different.

 

[urquell]

man this thread is on fire. Getting back to my post (yesterday evening, 40 posts ago already lol), thank you @Lunaseraphim and @Rebaynia for your replies. I just want to clarify I would never have textually said "although i still really like you as a person, I just dont want to pay to have sex with you anymore" ...but by plainly saying i am not interested in seeing you anymore as you suggested, that is essentially saying the same thing. I think the best course forward is ignoring, because lying is worse.

I think this depends in whether you would like to leave the door open to seeing her in the future or not, and I also find that ghosting just invites more messages that need to be ignored later on. I think that a diplomatic and acceptable explanation is simply to say that you've entered into a romantic relationship with someone and that you're not comfortable seeing others while you're in the relationship. That way if you choose to remain in contact with her virtually (platonically) you can and if you wish to see her again at a later time then you can end the "relationship" whenever you like. It's also an acceptable and face-saving approach that won't hurt her feelings in the least.

 

[Fradi]

I don't want to be a white knight but he said that you misunderstood his sentence which is : ''there are clients here who harm providers in real life and then spread negative sentiments on the forum''.. which is the truth. There has been users of this forum, whose names I see frequently, who did non consensual and painful things to me or were very aggressive in person. Sometimes clients write positive reviews to avoid trouble from providers they harmed, and sometimes they are just overall negative and angry people. What don't you understand about this? If someone spends their time writing heinous shit about providers here and about how displeased they are with most of us, chances are they will not be the nicest people in real life either. It's the same thing with providers who constantly talk about how much they hate their clients on reddit etc as you were mentioning a couple weeks ago, would you want to see someone like this? Probably not.

Absolutely not an acceptable statement to make especially not as a generalized statement.
How the fuck does he know this is true and if it is then don’t be a pussy and name the person who is doing it and get him banned and allow SP to know and be safe.
Same goes with providers if someone has physically hurt you or been an absolute douche bag name him so that we all know, the people who care about women will support you and the ones that don’t you shouldn’t be seeing anyway.

I am sick and tired of these generalized White Knight statements meant for nothing else but to get an SP admiration and approval absolutely fucking pathetic.
I bet it doesn’t get anyone a free fuck lol.

 

[LeDodo]

Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

 

[philonius]

Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

I'm interested to see what providers will say about this but the only overnight I had, I asked if she wanted me to take some pics/video with her phone and I kept myself out of them but they were so hot she ended up using them on her website and posted one of the videos on OF. Now I can view either and I'm transported back to that hotel room.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

Most of us don't want photos being taken.. I've only allowed it once, by an older gentleman who lives in the US and sees me once in a while. We know that clients have secret chats where they exchange private info and leak photos.. Of course it's all about trust and there are some SP who would be okay with it. After all, many of us have OF accounts, etc. I've made custom content for clients and there is little difference between that and allowing the person to film me or take pictures, but this isn't something I'm interested in doing anymore.

For me a part of it is about not feeling sure that the picture will be good and feeling self conscious, I've had clients take photos of me during dates with my own phone number and they were terrible lol.. Most people aren't great photographers.

 

[LeDodo]

I'm interested to see what providers will say about this but the only overnight I had, I asked if she wanted me to take some pics/video with her phone and I kept myself out of them but they were so hot she ended up using them on her website and posted one of the videos on OF. Now I can view either and I'm transported back to that hotel room.

You should ask for some royalties lol

 

[LeDodo]

Most of us don't want photos being taken.. I've only allowed it once, by an older gentleman who lives in the US and sees me once in a while. We know that clients have secret chats where they exchange private info and leak photos.. Of course it's all about trust and there are some SP who would be okay with it. After all, many of us have OF accounts, etc. I've made custom content for clients and there is little difference between that and allowing the person to film me or take pictures, but this isn't something I'm interested in doing anymore.

Yes I think trust plays a lot in the request. I assume that a 1st time client might have his request declined whereas there is a slight chance with a regular...
Regarding materials circulating without consent this is bad and of course out of control.

I was wondering that privacy wise like if the pictures/videos avoid the face that would be more acceptable?

For me a part of it is about not feeling sure that the picture will be good and feeling self conscious, I've had clients take photos of me during dates with my own phone number and they were terrible lol.. Most people aren't great photographers.

That's an interesting point here!
It might be a bit awkward to ask but I would have asked the picture taken until it satisfies you lol
I guess I don't have this problem because (stereotypically) Asians are more "skilled" or maybe self conscious about their outlook that they take better pictures lol
Plus for myself I used to take pictures as a hobby so you can hand me your phone for a photo hopefully without complain hahah

 

[Rebaynia]

Got "inspired" by the overnight post

How does it work if a client needs or want to take pictures or videos? Fee wise? Privacy wise?

With one SP it would have to be a special night to capture the moment. I was more like thinking less ordinary encounter like duo, trio, quattro, etc. where it would be worth to capture.

Everyone is different. It would need to be a private conversation not a public one. I would think.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Yes I think trust plays a lot in the request. I assume that a 1st time client might have his request declined whereas there is a slight chance with a regular...
Regarding materials circulating without consent this is bad and of course out of control.

I was wondering that privacy wise like if the pictures/videos avoid the face that would be more acceptable?


That's an interesting point here!
It might be a bit awkward to ask but I would have asked the picture taken until it satisfies you lol
I guess I don't have this problem because (stereotypically) Asians are more "skilled" or maybe self conscious about their outlook that they take better pictures lol
Plus for myself I used to take pictures as a hobby so you can hand me your phone for a photo hopefully without complain hahah

Obviously we are more likely to offer perks like photos to a client who is a regular. However trust has to be earned, and someone being a regular or repeat client hasn't necessarily done something that deserves my full trust. I have pretty good intuition and I also understand that no one is 100 percent good or evil. Someone could breach trust without meaning to. Unfortunately I am less likely to trust a client who spends a lot of time on this forum with something like this or with more personal information... I've made the mistake of doing that and I regret it now.

Everyone is different. It would need to be a private conversation not a public one. I would think.

This. Honestly we are very few providers here to answer questions or offer information about our experiences in the industry.. None of us represent the majority. When I answer questions or bring up subjects here I try to think about a lot of providers I know, but it's still not enough.