Ask us anything part 3

[Fradi]

I think you're giving him too much credit here! First overnight or not, any decent human being knows that people need to eat. There's no world in which it's gentlemanly, or even ok and normal, to spend 8-16 hours with someone without so much as offering to eat at some point. This isn't escort etiquette it's just decency and common sense... Im sorry you experienced this

I totally agree. I bring snacks even to a 90 minute session lol.
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach holds true for a woman also.
There are SP who love having someone bring some of their favourite food or snacks to a session it improves everyone’s appetite and you both get to eat what you like best

 

[massagecentre]

I am returning to this after 20 years, but what is DATO? Been trying to find a search on this acronym and others, but it just frustrates me. Thanks

 

[LC18]

I am returning to this after 20 years, but what is DATO? Been trying to find a search on this acronym and others, but it just frustrates me. Thanks

Manger le derrière

https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/d%C3%A9codage-en-fran%C3%A7ais-des-termes-utilis%C3%A9s-dans-lindustrie-du-sexe.232855/

 

[massagecentre]

Manger le derrière

https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/d%C3%A9codage-en-fran%C3%A7ais-des-termes-utilis%C3%A9s-dans-lindustrie-du-sexe.232855/

Thanks, didn’t know this

 

[jeffmathers]

Thanks, didn’t know this

Is it just in France that people say feuille de rose or do Quebecois people say it too? I've heard French people say this.

feuille de rose - Wiktionary, the free dictionary

en.wiktionary.org

 

[jeffmathers]

Personally not for a dinner date, more of a 1hr session or so.
Prefer to build some kind of rapport with one SP over time. Even if not frequent, I feel that trust and history build for better together time when it happens. Even if it's only from my perspective/perception - as I wouldn't expect an SP to remember all of us.
A bit of role play, in the attitude and discussions, if it's to help getting the guy up.
The rest depends on the connection and available services.
Based on this, how similar or different can it be between agency and indy?
I think I kinda know/guess, but would like to get other's perspective on the subject.

An Indy is usually more comfortable and there can be better communication at times. I had an experience last year with an agency where they called to verify the address, I kept saying the address and they kept repeating a slightly different address. I then text the address also and this was the same address they had sent 2 other people to so there has been no change in address on my part. Then after doing everything I could they still send the person to my neighbor's place. I feel bad for the provider. Plenty of providers don't love the job but getting sent to a neighbor's address and like 4 women coming to the door must be irritating on multiple levels for the provider. Every provider whether it be agency or Indy is different. I hope the SP I saw is feeling better now.

Remember that ideally you follow all protocol for booking for that specific provider with Indies as there is more variation in booking with Indies but that's not a bad thing. I highly recommend seeing an Independent provider at some point. I hope for the sake of providers that I didn't misspeak about any of this. I'm not a provider so I find I sometimes make errors on this topic without realizing it.

 

[philonius]

I am returning to this after 20 years, but what is DATO? Been trying to find a search on this acronym and others, but it just frustrates me. Thanks

Dining-at-the-Y/O is one of the funniest acronyms in the English language and who ever came up with it is an absolute legend. The ones I get confused on are Russian/Italian/Roman (everytime I see one I have to look it up again).

 

[jeffmathers]

Dining-at-the-Y/O is one of the funniest acronyms in the English language and who ever came up with it is an absolute legend. The ones I get confused on are Russian/Italian/Roman (everytime I see one I have to look it up again).

What are Italian and Roman? I know Russian is COB.

 

[philonius]

What are Italian and Roman? I know Russian is COB.

Russian is titty-fucking, Italian is the same but with the asscheeks (not penetration), Roman is an orgy. Or so I'm told, there's a lot of bs on urban dictionary and others. I just pulled this one up:
https://www.jamirodman.com/sex-industry-dictionary-acronyms-glossary-lingo-codes-terminology

 

[LeDodo]

When the incall is your personal place, isn't it bothersome that you can't have too much personal things? I would assume that you wouldn't want to have too much information regarding your personal life shared.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

When the incall is your personal place, isn't it bothersome that you can't have too much personal things? I would assume that you wouldn't want to have too much information regarding your personal life shared.

I received from home for a long time. It was an impulsive decision that I made under constraints. I didn't have access to an incall space at first.. I only started renting an incall in 2024, by the hour. I still had to receive from home until last April.. I decided to take a leap of faith and share an incall with other escorts that I pay monthly. It's expensive, but it has paid off. I have a lot more energy to work, I feel more well prepared when I see clients and a lot less anxious. When I decided to host from home I didn't think to myself ''oh I need to completely change the place'' because I was in a tough situation financially. It's a privilege to receive from an incall space if you're independent.. The way my place is decorated is wayyyy too personal and too connected to who I am ''in the real life''. My new incall space reflects ''Luna's personality'' a lot better.

A lot of providers host at their own home and there are different types of risks associated with it for sure but some spaces are more suitable than others. For example, a lot of girls live in condos that are decorated in a classic way and in a discreet area. One girl I did a duo with lives in a small apartment, but it's in a building and there's a lot of people coming and going so the neighbors could never really know what's going on. I live in a triplex, it's not as anonymous. Some people I know have an extra room or space that is separate from the rest of their room where they receive clients. One of my friends has a space that is accessible from another entrance and her clients don't see her living room and bedroom at all.

 

[LeDodo]

I received from home for a long time. It was an impulsive decision that I made under constraints. I didn't have access to an incall space at first.. I only started renting an incall in 2024, by the hour. I still had to receive from home until last April.. I decided to take a leap of faith and share an incall with other escorts that I pay monthly. It's expensive, but it has paid off. I have a lot more energy to work, I feel more well prepared when I see clients and a lot less anxious. When I decided to host from home I didn't think to myself ''oh I need to completely change the place'' because I was in a tough situation financially. It's a privilege to receive from an incall space if you're independent.. The way my place is decorated is wayyyy too personal and too connected to who I am ''in the real life''. My new incall space reflects ''Luna's personality'' a lot better.

A lot of providers host at their own home and there are different types of risks associated with it for sure but some spaces are more suitable than others. For example, a lot of girls live in condos that are decorated in a classic way and in a discreet area. One girl I did a duo with lives in a small apartment, but it's in a building and there's a lot of people coming and going so the neighbors could never really know what's going on. I live in a triplex, it's not as anonymous. Some people I know have an extra room or space that is separate from the rest of their room where they receive clients. One of my friends has a space that is accessible from another entrance and her clients don't see her living room and bedroom at all.

I can't imagine the preparation before receiving to make sure that no very common personal things are visible such as a card, a letter, etc. also the stress if you realize that during a session

 

[Darcy]

What’s your favourite show on Apple TV+ ?

If you're looking for a really good series on Apple TV, check out "The Crowded Room". The main characters are Tom Holland and Amanda Seyfried. The story just draws you in.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I can't imagine the preparation before receiving to make sure that no very common personal things are visible such as a card, a letter, etc. also the stress if you realize that during a session

Honestly, it did add to the stress particularly since my place has a lot of objects.. It's clean but it's hard to tidy up because all of my art materials are here and I don't have enough storage for everything I own, so I always ended up forgetting something.. and even then, I felt judged pretty often. At some point I started making jewelry which was a really healing activity for me after a depressive phase, and a regular client I used to see made fun of me and said ''are you opening a kindergarten?''. I've also had people ask me if I had children because I have a lot of stuffed animals and I tend to like cute and pastel colored things. It's quite embarrassing. lol

I had a particularly strange experience once, there was a rumor about me being a heroin addict because I used to take THC oil to sleep and it required a syringe without a needle, and it was by my bed. Someone saw it and I started having a lot of questions from clients who were trying to score H... It was pretty scary. My biggest fear honestly wasn't that a client would snoop.. It's more that he would disrespect the space or spread more rumors like this, or that the neighbors would find out. I had a client I had only seen once leave something in my mailbox several months later, too.

I still take a lot of time preparing myself before an incall date, making sure everything is clean and smells good, creating an atmosphere etc. but the stress is much lower. I like that there's a clear separation between my personal life and my life as Luna now.

 

[LC18]

If you're looking for a really good series on Apple TV, check out "The Crowded Room". The main characters are Tom Holland and Amanda Seyfried. The story just draws you in.

I love Amanda. Will add to the list, thank you

 

[Johnny test]

Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages ), but i'll ask anyway: from your experience, ladies, what's the ratio between MERB members and not in your clients?
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers )

 

[massagecentre]

Ask anything? Been trying to find threads with key words, but I am looking for something specific. I want anyone who can suggest an independent that offers massage with he acronyms without being a SP from a massage salon. I am searching for higher end SP who provides this as « junior » has trouble in other positions. Any suggestions for Indy SPs?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages ), but i'll ask anyway: from your experience, ladies, what's the ratio between MERB members and not in your clients?
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers )

I've only been an active member of the forum for a year but I've noticed a couple of things. I think a lot of clients have a merb account but they don't use it. There are more lurkers than active users here.. and I don't think members are trying to ''hide'' someone by not reviewing her lol. I think a lot of guys don't have the time or the energy to write a review. A lot of men have told me they really don't like writing reviews also, because it's something intimate they don't really want to share, even if they did check the reviews to begin with. This is something that's hard to accept for die hard fans of this forum but the truth is that most clients don't write reviews or participate in this ''community''. American clients often don't read reviews at all.

For me it fluctuates. Lately I'd say only 20% of my clients find me on Merb, but at other times of the year it's more like 35% or even 50%. These people don't necessarily have an active account, either.. Sometimes they just have 10 posts. One advantage of Merb for me is that I can interact with clients and a lot of people actually do like my comments and replies, but I've noticed that the lounge section of the forum seems to be less active than it used to be, and the members who are present the most often fluctuate a lot. Last summer and last fall the atmosphere was a lot lighter but recently things have been feeling really negative which is not really something I thrive on.

 

[philonius]

I think a lot of clients have a merb account but they don't use it. There are more lurkers than active users here.. and I don't think members are trying to ''hide'' someone by not reviewing her lol.

I was this way up until recently. Had an account just to see if someone was legit or if anyone had a major (not preferential) issue with a provider.
I also never used to write reviews bc I was too busy with work, I used my experiences to write erotica in my free time, and honestly I just didn't want to put a great provider on blast thinking it would somehow restrict my ability to see them (stupid, I know, but the dick is a jealous bitch).
One time I told a provider I had an amazing time and they asked if I could write a review (on terb I think) and I posted it and people seemed to really like it and she said it helped her a lot so now I'm amenable to the idea (if I feel we both enjoyed ourselves). Then some drama about a month ago brought me into The Lounge and now I regret all my previous life decisions

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I was this way up until recently. Had an account just to see if someone was legit or if anyone had a major (not preferential) issue with a provider.
I also never used to write reviews bc I was too busy with work, I used my experiences to write erotica in my free time, and honestly I just didn't want to put a great provider on blast thinking it would somehow restrict my ability to see them (stupid, I know, but the dick is a jealous bitch).
One time I told a provider I had an amazing time and they asked if I could write a review (on terb I think) and I posted it and people seemed to really like it and she said it helped her a lot so now I'm amenable to the idea (if I feel we both enjoyed ourselves). Then some drama about a month ago brought me into The Lounge and now I regret all my previous life decisions

I think clients who had a good experience and who know a provider allows reviews are making a mistake by withholding. You are just encouraging the person's business when doing this. I've had a lot of positive reviews and I don't have issues finding clients, but I am by no means living like a princess lol. No matter what, a SP will never be everyone's cup of tea. There are also providers I know who have been indies for years and barely have any review or have a NRP, and they are booked and busy. On one hand I think the importance of reviews is exaggerated, but on the other hand I think they can have a major impact on the SP's business and cause a lot of drama, so it definitely helps to have as many good reviews as possible..