Do SPs call you handsome?

[Lunaseraphim]

In our job, we meet every type of clients (personality and physical appearance). I met really really handsome mens and yes I tell them. Also, I dont have a type; Ive dated short, tall, muscular, skinny, overweight, dark hair, light hair, differents ethnicity etc. Ive noticed that some mens are surprise that I found them attractive (maybe a self-esteem thing or there are bias because of our job?)

Ive seen a lot of comments on differents treads about : SP are liars, manipulative, greedy and hypocrite etc. So my question is...If we are such bad and mean people, why do you book us and want to meet us?

We are good people, Im the same person as I am when I work or in my everyday life. The only fake thing is my name

Honestly, I feel the same way as you.. But I'm trying to avoid reading most threads. This one gave me the impression it was worth commenting on..

 

[Halloween Mike]

Handsome? Lol no.

But i had SPs call me "gentil" (gentle) many times and honestly thats all i ask. I know im not a stud lol. But i try to be as nice as i can be when i meet.

* Didn't read the 4 pages, just OG post and replied

 

[Julia Sky]

I got very excited and then suggested we go engagement ring shopping. Then these SPs took back the compliment. I guess they were just being nice thinking they found a sucker who would come back for longer date repeats. Oh well. Words mean nothing. Action means everything.

That's a bit much haha you don't marry someone just because they're attractive

 

[LeDodo]

That's a bit much haha you don't marry someone just because they're attractive

At least should have waited to see if sex is good then pop the question lol

 

[OverIce]

That's a bit much haha you don't marry someone just because they're attractive

Agreed! Definitely find out how much $ they have first!! Ha!!
I JOKE!!!

 

[Mistertwice]

I don’t understand why compliments would be seen as lies but insults seem to hit the target (dead center) each time.

 

[LeDodo]

I don’t understand why compliments would be seen as lies but insults seem to hit the target (dead center) each time.

Because it doesn't seem logic to insult someone as a lie or maybe it's a kink lol
Whereas for people not used to compliments, being complimented sounds unusual and raise suspicions.

 

[Rebaynia]

I noticed that when I see an SP, I usually get the compliment that I am very handsome or good looking. To be honest, I don’t think I am more than 7/10 (25 year old, full head of hair, muscle with a little belly fat and good hygiene), so sometimes it confuses me that if the SP is really saying those compliments honestly or are they saying that so that I like them and return back for another session.
Can someone relate to this?

I think we can all relate in some way.
I commented earlier on this, but to add a similar but different perspective that I woke up with when re-reading the thread today.

I feel the same questioning, when I am told by someone I see, you are special, or different from other providers. Thankfully I have met pretty amazing providers, so even harder to believe there is anything special. Compliments are hard to accept when you struggle to believe you are deserving of them.

 

[jmioffe]

Not everything SP do is fake, and if someone tells all her clients they are handsome it might be because she thinks it's the polite and kind thing to do. When you're a SP you see a lot of different types of men and it's important to try to find something appealing about everyone. I've noticed that really often clients are self conscious about their physical appearance and they act like I will be disgusted by them, but it's not the case. I'm capable of feeling neutral at least about any body type. I've never had a client walk in and think ''oh no, he's so unattractive'' lol

This rings true to me. I was wondering recently about how sex work must change SP's mindsets (or they were different originally). Most people can't bear to think of certain classes of people having any sexuality. Old people, handicapped people, that mild-mannered librarian, to envision them having sex is a bizarre and disturbing vision. But SPs, by nature of their jobs, see these people show their desire in their most intimate moments, and must recognize their sexuality and probably see them in a different way.

But to the original question: I do occasionally get called handsome, by SPs and civilians. I've also gotten, "hm, not bad" by a very hot SP when I was at my training peak. Clearly, these remarks make an impression on me because I remember them. But I try not to let it affect me too much. I also know that my online dating profiles get very little uptake, so that keeps me humble, and is probably a better measure of how appealing I am to a general audience.

 

[Flyingby]

Oh Alex…
So much to learn about the hobby…

If you really want to know. Ask her out on a non paying date.
Then. Report back

 

[Julia Sky]

Oh Alex…
So much to learn about the hobby…

If you really want to know. Ask her out on a non paying date.
Then. Report back

I feel like youre joking but heres my reply for people who actually think like that :

Some escorts would go on social unpaid dates with regulars they arent exactly attracted to but get along with and have known for a long time.

Some escorts would never go on an unpaid social date even if the client was incredibly attractive.

So I dont think that's a good measure either to be fair haha. Lots of escorts have a very strict line between work and real life and no amount of physical attraction would change that. There's also the fact that the majority of women (including escorts) dont exactly want to date someone who hires people for sex - not because it's shameful, but because cheating is a risk and why would one date a person for free knowing they pay others for intimacy?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I would date someone who's paid for sex before because what I realized is that a lot of people have at some point in their lives, and they often are not cheaters.. But some people's clientele is a lot of married men, so I can see how this would give them this bias.. Also if there's the possibility of the client having a girlfriend or a wife, going on an unpaid date with him makes the situation even stickier..

I'm getting kinda tired of this subject of paid dates vs unpaid dates. I talked about it with some people, both clients and providers, and we came to a few conclusions.. Some providers do it because they are afraid of losing their clients, some may feel like the client is not like the others and is a breath of fresh air, some just don't know their boundaries yet. I won't go on an unpaid date with a client, no matter how attractive he is. If I do that he won't be a client anymore, and it would have to be someone I can absolutely trust will never share any personal info about me, so not someone who gossips online about escorts. That's just me tho.

This rings true to me. I was wondering recently about how sex work must change SP's mindsets (or they were different originally). Most people can't bear to think of certain classes of people having any sexuality. Old people, handicapped people, that mild-mannered librarian, to envision them having sex is a bizarre and disturbing vision. But SPs, by nature of their jobs, see these people show their desire in their most intimate moments, and must recognize their sexuality and probably see them in a different way.

But to the original question: I do occasionally get called handsome, by SPs and civilians. I've also gotten, "hm, not bad" by a very hot SP when I was at my training peak. Clearly, these remarks make an impression on me because I remember them. But I try not to let it affect me too much. I also know that my online dating profiles get very little uptake, so that keeps me humble, and is probably a better measure of how appealing I am to a general audience.

I think for me, the fact that I have a lot of empathy and that I'm curious about other people's lives and realities are really helpful when it comes to my escorting job. I have clients who are over 70 years old, disabled clients, clients who are very sick etc. I don't see it as disturbing that they want intimacy, I find it important to adapt to their needs within my own boundaries. So your comment is true. Even when I worked at a MP, girls never said ''oh no this guy is ugly'' or ''this guy is old ew'' they cared more about hygiene and how well they were treated.

 

[LeDodo]

So I dont think that's a good measure either to be fair haha. Lots of escorts have a very strict line between work and real life and no amount of physical attraction would change that. There's also the fact that the majority of women (including escorts) dont exactly want to date someone who hires people for sex - not because it's shameful, but because cheating is a risk and why would one date a person for free knowing they pay others for intimacy?

Even if the client is faithful to only one SP?

But that an interesting point you brought. If I understand it, it means that by being a client it kind of automatically put one in the risky zone of cheating. However does it mean trust can't be brought back? Someone not hiring someone for intimacy now doesn't mean he won't in the future?

 

[LeDodo]

I'm getting kinda tired of this subject of paid dates vs unpaid dates. I talked about it with some people, both clients and providers, and we came to a few conclusions.. Some providers do it because they are afraid of losing their clients, some may feel like the client is not like the others and is a breath of fresh air, some just don't know their boundaries yet. I won't go on an unpaid date with a client, no matter how attractive he is. If I do that he won't be a client anymore, and it would have to be someone I can absolutely trust will never share any personal info about me, so not someone who gossips online about escorts. That's just me tho.

I see another discussion point here: unpaid dates vs unpaid social time

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I see another discussion point here: unpaid dates vs unpaid social time

Seriously. Why is this being brought up here?

Even if the client is faithful to only one SP?

But that an interesting point you brought. If I understand it, it means that by being a client it kind of automatically put one in the risky zone of cheating. However does it mean trust can't be brought back? Someone not hiring someone for intimacy now doesn't mean he won't in the future?

If I listen to what my clients say, when they are single they hire one SP for a while or a few but they stop once they get into a relationship. I know if someone has money it makes it accessible for him to pay for sex when he wants, but the truth is that anyone could cheat whether or not they hire SP. I understand Julia's point tho because many providers have a lot of married clients who fall in love with them..

 

[Alphabeta666]

Never been called handsome. But they say I’m « cute ». And I prefer that. I know for sure they would be lying if they were calling me handsome lol

They also say I have beautiful eyes and I know they are not lying about it because I’ve been told that all my life.

The other thing I often hear is that I’m a good kisser. I guess it’s an easy compliment to give and I tend to think that they that to every clients. On the other hand, if I was a bad kisser, they wouldn’t want to encourage me to keep kissing by telling me I’m a good kisser…? So who knows?

 

[Halloween Mike]

I feel the same questioning, when I am told by someone I see, you are special, or different from other providers. Thankfully I have met pretty amazing providers, so even harder to believe there is anything special. Compliments are hard to accept when you struggle to believe you are deserving of them.

I have met around a 100 different providers (maybe not exactly but close to)

And there is maybe 10 of them i would say were "special".

That does not mean others were not good. They could had been very good providers "providing" all i was looking for. But these 10ish, what made them special was above the services i "look for" when i book. Its not sexual or such (or not how we may think about it). Its just there was that "something" about them in their attitude, personnality or the WAY they brough those services that were "expected".

There some providers on that "special list" i saw multiple times but others i saw only once.

But hey if i saw them just once yet they left an impression on me then its major win.

 

[Julia Sky]

Even if the client is faithful to only one SP?

But that an interesting point you brought. If I understand it, it means that by being a client it kind of automatically put one in the risky zone of cheating. However does it mean trust can't be brought back? Someone not hiring someone for intimacy now doesn't mean he won't in the future?

I just have far too many clients in relationships with partners who don't know. So my view is : not every person who pays for sex is a cheater, but there's no way to know for sure which ones wouldn't cheat if you dated them. It's like the ticks analogy : some ticks won't make you sick but you don't know which ones so it's best not to get too close to ticks. (Not comparing clients to ticks I promise haha)

 

[jeffmathers]

That's a bit much haha you don't marry someone just because they're attractive

Also I feel if they really were awful people they'd marry EastWind and then divorce to take his stuff. I want to get married one day but I wouldn't judge whether someone is a good person or not by whether or not they want to marry me.

 

[Anong]

yep, honey and baby total turn off.

I hate these words.