Would you still see your favorite SPs as they get older?

[Lunaseraphim]

I would agree with pretty much everything you said.
I do have a question though.
What do you consider makes a sex worker successful? Income, being around for many years, being attractive. Having a good regular clientele.

It depends on her goals, it means different things to different people. Having the amount of bookings she wants when possible, income, gaining freedom in the industry.. in the sense that after a while you can enforce certain boundaries and make more decisions. It's not the other way around.

Some sex workers only want 2 or 3 bookings a week or even a few a month and they adjust their rates for that purpose and prioritize longer bookings. They have been around for a while and they know what they prefer.

It takes a while to be able to choose your clients and curate an energy that you like best during bookings. The more you invest into this endeavor the more likely you are to succeed but it takes a lot of energy.. For sure that involves taking care of your physical appearance and your health but it doesn't mean you have to look like a super model or a 20 year old.

But I also think what some do to succeed isn't cute.. to me it's not sustainable if you have to talk shit about other women or back stab them to get clients to choose you over them or to sabotage who you view as competition. I don't see that behavior in 35+ year old providers.

 

[interferon]

I saw a great and charming SP a few times when she was in her late 20's, in fact I think it was my first experience f that kind. I think she retired for a while then went back to it in her early 40's and I was eager to see her again, she was a really cool person. She looked more mature and even more beautiful but experience was disappointing. I think her heart wasn't in it any more or maybe it was just a bad day for her but I got the feeling she'd become jaded, fair enough. Don't think she worked much longer and hope she went on to really good things she likes because she's a smart and good woman.

 

[twenty4seven]

Would you still see your favorite SPs as they get older?

Yes, ofc. They're favourites because of the connection we've built over time. So age isn't a bad thing, it's a reflection of our shared experiences.

 

[LeDodo]

Yes, ofc. They're favourites because of the connection we've built over time. So age isn't a bad thing, it's a reflection of our shared experiences.

On the same boat here.

Also if the SP gets old, we are getting old too.
Our mindset and/or what we are looking for might shift with the age as well.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I saw a great and charming SP a few times when she was in her late 20's, in fact I think it was my first experience f that kind. I think she retired for a while then went back to it in her early 40's and I was eager to see her again, she was a really cool person. She looked more mature and even more beautiful but experience was disappointing. I think her heart wasn't in it any more or maybe it was just a bad day for her but I got the feeling she'd become jaded, fair enough. Don't think she worked much longer and hope she went on to really good things she likes because she's a smart and good woman.

Rather than jaded, I think personally I would use the term "burned out". It's temporary and I think we all go through it from time to time, no matter how old we are and how long we've been in the industry.. Some women have told me they experienced a honeymoon phase when they started sex work, and then they kinda "came down to earth" so to speak. I experience burn out once in a while, I was really burned out last fall. Thankfully I was privileged enough to go on vacation twice and it refreshed my spirits. We all have bad days and difficult phases sometimes. I know personally what my limits will eventually be like, and I think in the next few years things may change a lot in how I am present in the industry, but for now I'm having a blast!

 

[LeafsSuck]

ALL my favorite SP's are older!!

 

[Enjoying life]

I think it's weird that men assume women get uglier and more worthless as they age. In my thirties I'm a lot prettier, more experienced and more confident than I ever have been.

Luna is way above better looking than the average woman I find

 

[interferon]

Rather than jaded, I think personally I would use the term "burned out". It's temporary and I think we all go through it from time to time, no matter how old we are and how long we've been in the industry.. Some women have told me they experienced a honeymoon phase when they started sex work, and then they kinda "came down to earth" so to speak. I experience burn out once in a while, I was really burned out last fall. Thankfully I was privileged enough to go on vacation twice and it refreshed my spirits. We all have bad days and difficult phases sometimes. I know personally what my limits will eventually be like, and I think in the next few years things may change a lot in how I am present in the industry, but for now I'm having a blast!

Always appreciate you sharing your insights.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Always appreciate you sharing your insights.

I realized that you said she actually took a break and came back, so maybe you're right. I heard the industry changed a lot, and many providers are retiring.. I still wouldn't say it's about being jaded, it's more that this industry is tough. Personally, I try to see the positive in every situation and I am appreciative when I meet clients and colleagues I get along with, and when I get good surprises

 

[Hy5]

I’ve seen one trough a span of 17 years (she took a 4 years break throughout). She was 26 when I first met her, which brings her in her 40s in our last meetings. Needless to say, things kept getting better and better as the years went by. So many great memories with her, I still find myself, at times, dreaming of those moments.

Not 17, but I have been seeing one for 12 years, another about 7 and a few others 4 to 6, mostly Asians and all in Vancouver. They are the best.
Looking to establish same kinds of relationships in Montreal

 

[curly]

I want to add that a lot of people fetishize youth in a way that is creepy. I saw a comment in another thread that really threw me off, but I didn't want to intervene. A SP told her client ''think of someone's teen daughter you'd like to fuck'' and that really turned him on, meaning he does fantasize about his friend's teenage daughters? What the fuck? I don't think it's hot to fuck children. To me, even a lot of people in their early 20's still look like kids. I was recently told as a compliment that ''I look like a teen'' online, and a part of me felt happy about it because it meant I look younger than my age, but it also didn't feel right. When I used to cater to that fantasy, I didn't attract behavior that was respectful, and I was talked to like I was a child as well.

Luna, we are hardwired to look for young and healthy woman whom we could reproduce with and would bear our child. We can't do anything about it.

That being said, there is a difference between a young woman and a kid, I'm with you on this.

And personally I can't stand the teenage attitude that even young 20something still have at times. So I'll take a mature woman any time over that. I value the beauty of my partner if I'm going to pay, but beauty is really not only physical. And needless to say that they are much better lovers!

 

[LeafsSuck]

Luna, I am glad you said that it is creepy to fantasize about teenagers. I thought I was alone! There are way too many admirers of these school girl uniforms. Every year when I go on vacation they have themed partys every night. For example, Bal en Blanc, Lingerie night, Super Hero etc... and just about every year they have the school girl night !!! I don't get it!! But more than half the resort dresses up and play along. To each their own I guess...