Yes some people are mean online but some people are also mean in the real world they tend to say anything that goes through there minds, a women at my job lost 50 pounds she is putting the work and i encourage her, but a guy at my job who is far from being a looker told her she was still fat. This is how stupid some people are.Dating apps are designed to make money and when you think about it if people actually find a partner through it, they won't be using the apps anymore. Hook up culture is definitely made worse by apps and people treating each other as disposable.. Most women I know have similar experiences on apps, with people of both genders. I don't think everyone is like that but I do think people who use apps are either having difficulty meeting someone for various reasons, or they just want short term relationships and hook ups, and they are not necessarily honest. It's so weird I matched with so many people on apps during the pandemic but almost met none of them.
While I agree that women do get more matches, really often they end up being played by people who aren't serious about dating and don't know what they want. It's advantageous if you just want to hook up with a bunch of people, but if you want to have a serious connection it isn't great.. One thing I've also noticed is that a lot of people don't put any effort into creating their profiles on apps or they straight up lie about what they want... The way these apps are designed, particularly now that you have to pay for a lot of advantages, does create a superficial and in my opinion kinda toxic dating culture..
A lot of my clients treat me a lot better than many people I've dated in the past few years and met on apps (aside from someone I was in a serious relationship with) ...
But lets face it online even if you write a good profile and do everything right, if you are not attractive you won't receive any messages and replies to the ones you send. Sadly as you get older most of the time you do not have a social circle like you did younger. So meeting someone is a lot harder, Facebook friends and other people won't help you to get matched either, I had lots of Facebook friends with single friends and they never offered to match me. Not wanting to be mean but on POF the time i was there i received my weekly matches and i was not attracted to any of those women. The gym forget it i got at around 1-2am since i am a shift worker. So at a certain age if you want to meet your only option is online dating.
This is why i notice a lot of single people at work men and women stay single, some of them lost houses, have alimony to pay etc, and they had enough. I guess it all depends and the type of person you are, I feel bad for the 30y old women at work she goes online on dates and always come back deceived, she seems to be emotionally dependent. While other people I know are not and able to stay single.
It doesn't help that everything we are expose to is fake, Instagram, surgeries, all those reality tv shows that everyone cheats on everyone, people on tv and movies are prefect, male and female model that have looks you will never achieve without surgery or drugs, etc.
Social media destroyed a lot of things, i had met a couple once who detailed there love life on Facebook everything was so prefect and yet they kept cheating on each other. Its not because people are on social media laughing and having fun (they want to project this to other people) that they are happy in life.
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