Tips, gratuities, etc.

[T-Dogg]

Hi all,

First post here. I haven't been able to find any previous threads on this topic, or maybe my search skills suck.

Anyway, is it common to offer a gratuity after service has been provided? If so, what's a common percentage?

I know some of you arrive with flowers in hand, etc. What about when SPs have a gift registry? Is it something that regular clients use to send gifts? Or are registries used in other cases?

Thanks!

 

[LeDodo]

Ok so you mentioned lot of different things here.

For the tips/gratuity, there are no common percentage. It's really up to you, your budget, how your session went, etc.

For the gifts or attention right before the meeting, similarly It's really up to you, your budget and how you want the session to go.

For the gift registry, I would say it's a good token of appreciation for say you asked lot of questions and she spent her time to answer it for example. But remember, it's more a kind act of gesture rather than something towards your envelope.
Or it's also a good way to show that you are serious and you exist (and you're not a timewaster or scammer) especially when it's the first time you meet.

If you are a regular the 3 above type of appreciation is something you might give because of the long "relationship".

 

[Hmmm…]

I asked the booker what is the correct etiquette because it changes depending on culture. In the US, all service industries expect some tip. In Europe, not so much. And in Japan, it's insulting to leave a tip. The booker said basically you don't have to and most do not, but you can if you want to. It seems like when I've given above the rate, they don't usually give back change. But also, it seems that even though I would expect that most people just want money as I do at my own job instead of a pizza party, it seems that SPs are a lot more touched/appreciative of thoughtful gifts.

I thought it would be weird if I brought something like a bouquet of flowers after I bought it because I guess they could want to hide it from the next client or just dump them to avoid walking home with them, but one SP kept them and took them home.

 

[Anong]

what's a common percentage?

Appy the restaurant tipping rule. lol
There are more than one thread in which tips were extensively discussed.

 

[Endurance2024]

Hi all,

First post here. I haven't been able to find any previous threads on this topic, or maybe my search skills suck.

Anyway, is it common to offer a gratuity after service has been provided? If so, what's a common percentage?

I know some of you arrive with flowers in hand, etc. What about when SPs have a gift registry? Is it something that regular clients use to send gifts? Or are registries used in other cases?

Thanks!

At 300 per hour I'm not tipping. I'm expecting the SP set her rates at the level she is happy with. Occasionally there will be extra at the start if the rate was 290 I'm rounding upto 300 cause I won't ask for change.

If the service was good and we clicked then I will repeat and often 1 or 2hr sessions. During the longer sessions I usually bring a treat for the breaks.

I don't see this as the same as a restruant where the waitress is making minimum wage and relying on tips.

I had one beautiful SP supposedly premium service to match her premium rate and it was a disappointment. Including a near starfish experience. She hopped in the shower as I was getting dressed at the 45min mark as I was chatting with her she says she loves tips.

And it's a big turn off for me when I see some of the SP socials telling the world she just got a gift. Princess please

 

[Lunaseraphim]

And it's a big turn off for me when I see some of the SP socials telling the world she just got a gift. Princess please

This is something I've been wondering for a while. Why is it a turn off if somebody got a gift? It's a way to show appreciation to the person who gave it, not showing off.. I don't understand this attitude at all.

And by the way this isn't me implying you guys gotta bring gifts, cause no one ever said it was a necessity. It's just really weird to be upset that a SP got a gift and posted a picture of it online.

Personally my work socials are meant to share different things that happened to me as a SP, some of them are really fun things and I am happy about them and want to share.. Why does this make me a princess? Maybe it's a matter of perspective here.

I don't share these things on my personal social media because most of my friends are poor and I don't want to make them feel bad...

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Most of us aren't expecting tips or gifts unless there's a rule around a certain kind of date, but remember that girls at agencies don't keep all the money you give them.

And yes, for a 2+ hour date, it's nice to bring something to share like a closed bottle of wine if the person drinks, and maybe a snack.

 

[Stockton]

This is something I've been wondering for a while. Why is it a turn off if somebody got a gift? It's a way to show appreciation to the person who gave it, not showing off.. I don't understand this attitude at all.

And by the way this isn't me implying you guys gotta bring gifts, cause no one ever said it was a necessity. It's just really weird to be upset that a SP got a gift and posted a picture of it online.

Personally my work socials are meant to share different things that happened to me as a SP, some of them are really fun things and I am happy about them and want to share.. Why does this make me a princess? Maybe it's a matter of perspective here.

I don't share these things on my personal social media because most of my friends are poor and I don't want to make them feel bad...

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Most of us aren't expecting tips or gifts unless there's a rule around a certain kind of date, but remember that girls at agencies don't keep all the money you give them.

And yes, for a 2+ hour date, it's nice to bring something to share like a closed bottle of wine if the person drinks, and maybe a snack.

Your 1st paragraph and your 4th paragraph is the same thing. If it's posted to the public it is showing off a little bit regardless of intentions, if it's purely to show appreciation to the person, that can be done directly and privately. Most people will not have that attitude, but you can't control the attitude of everyone who views a post.

Some of your poorer friends would still be happy for you as well if you posted those things on your personal accounts, not all of them will feel bad, and you don't consider the ones who would feel bad bad friends would you? Why have higher expectations of clients and random people on the internet?

Ultimately, do what you want. You're never going to understand everyone, most people don't understand themselves and some would rather feel differently if they could, that's why we see therapists.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Your 1st paragraph and your 4th paragraph is the same thing. If it's posted to the public it is showing off a little bit regardless of intentions, if it's purely to show appreciation to the person, that can be done directly and privately. Most people will not have that attitude, but you can't control the attitude of everyone who views a post.

Some of your poorer friends would still be happy for you as well if you posted those things on your personal accounts, not all of them will feel bad, and you don't consider the ones who would feel bad bad friends would you? Why have higher expectations of clients and random people on the internet?

Ultimately, do what you want. You're never going to understand everyone, most people don't understand themselves and some would rather feel differently if they could, that's why we see therapists.

I don't have higher expectations of clients, but clients in general belong to a different social class. These are also my work socials. What you see on social media doesn't paint the full picture.

It should not upset a client that I got flowers or a box of popsicles as a gift, or that I went to a restaurant. If you can afford paying a sex worker, you can afford food. I've been in positions when I couldn't. I know people who struggle to make ends meet.

And, maybe intentions don't matter, but no, my intention is not to show off. Maybe I do want to signal that I enjoy these things, however. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

And I agree, I think people should seek therapy to deal with negative feelings.

There's a reason why 2 paragraphs are conveying the same idea : it's because that specific idea is important.

 

[Halloween Mike]

I have had clients text me asking why I didn't show off their gifts or posted photos of the date before, so I took habit of doing it. Also like I said use my work socials as a journal of my life as Luna. I don't think it's showing off, or at least that's not what my intentions are. Maybe I'm wrong.

With my very unproffessional analysist (lol) i came to the conclusion that a lot of guys who are into "findom" or such, who love giving $ and gifts often do it more to "flex" than anything. They like the attention that the SW will give to them because of it and they like to see their huge gifts on display the same way lets say i would love if i gave a big COF to an SP and she would post it on her OF saying "look at what Mister HM gave me". Its just a form of kink

Ill add more later as i need to go work a few hours right now and time is running short.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

With my very unproffessional analysist (lol) i came to the conclusion that a lot of guys who are into "findom" or such, who love giving $ and gifts often do it more to "flex" than anything. They like the attention that the SW will give to them because of it and they like to see their huge gifts on display the same way lets say i would love if i gave a big COF to an SP and she would post it on her OF saying "look at what Mister HM gave me". Its just a form of kink

Ill add more later as i need to go work a few hours right now and time is running short.

There's a difference between a guy who likes to give gifts and spoil women, and somebody who is into financial domination, which is a service in itself, and probably not what you think it is.. I don't think someone who gives a gift is necessarily doing it to flex, but I do think it makes them feel good to do it, otherwise they wouldn't.

I personally love giving gifts and taking my friends out to nice restaurants when I can. I don't feel like I have to do it. It just brings me joy. If you feel obligated to give a gift or a tip or donate you'll get resentful.

Hence why I keep repeating that nobody has to do it, and that it's not because a SP receives gifts that she expects them from every client.

Other than sharing food and drinks, the gifts I usually receive from clients are small things, like flowers or a chocolate bar or a little trinket. If I received a really large gift from a new client, I would probably feel concerned. I know there are American providers who post pictures of expensive jewelry and designer shoes they get, and I understand that this is an entirely different reality.

 

[Lans]

With my very unproffessional analysist (lol) i came to the conclusion that a lot of guys who are into "findom" or such, who love giving $ and gifts often do it more to "flex" than anything. They like the attention that the SW will give to them because of it and they like to see their huge gifts on display the same way lets say i would love if i gave a big COF to an SP and she would post it on her OF saying "look at what Mister HM gave me". Its just a form of kink

Ill add more later as i need to go work a few hours right now and time is running short.

so COF is a gift? Im glad we agree on that!

 

[Fradi]

This is something I've been wondering for a while. Why is it a turn off if somebody got a gift? It's a way to show appreciation to the person who gave it, not showing off.. I don't understand this attitude at all.

And by the way this isn't me implying you guys gotta bring gifts, cause no one ever said it was a necessity. It's just really weird to be upset that a SP got a gift and posted a picture of it online.

Personally my work socials are meant to share different things that happened to me as a SP, some of them are really fun things and I am happy about them and want to share.. Why does this make me a princess? Maybe it's a matter of perspective here.

I don't share these things on my personal social media because most of my friends are poor and I don't want to make them feel bad...

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Most of us aren't expecting tips or gifts unless there's a rule around a certain kind of date, but remember that girls at agencies don't keep all the money you give them.

And yes, for a 2+ hour date, it's nice to bring something to share like a closed bottle of wine if the person drinks, and maybe a snack.

It is a personal thing.
I don’t see a problem with tipping/ gifting at all.
Yes I usually include a tip.

I always bring wine and pastries, if it is at my place then other kind of snacks also or I might cook or bake something they cannot buy anywhere, with one lady in particular flowers are always on the menu as she loves them.
I often buy something for their pets which they really appreciate.
With ladies I see often, Birthdays, Christmas are always special occasions when they will receive something special as they are special to me and I appreciate having had their companionship and friendship for a long time.
It really depends on you and the relationship you have with the ladies you are seeing.

It is a good feeling being able to give them something they can appreciate when they have given me so many enjoyable hours and their friendship for so many years.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think another angle to look at the gifting should be with the satisfaction to make someone happy.

Exactly... And it works, usually.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It is a personal thing.
I don’t see a problem with tipping/ gifting at all.
Yes I usually include a tip.

I always bring wine and pastries, if it is at my place then other kind of snacks also or I might cook or bake something they cannot buy anywhere, with one lady in particular flowers are always on the menu as she loves them.
I often buy something for their pets which they really appreciate.
With ladies I see often, Birthdays, Christmas are always special occasions when they will receive something special as they are special to me and I appreciate having had their companionship and friendship for a long time.
It really depends on you and the relationship you have with the ladies you are seeing.

It is a good feeling being able to give them something they can appreciate when they have given me so many enjoyable hours and their friendship for so many years.

All of these things are really thoughtful and believe it or not, I have given gifts to clients before as well. I've also brought wine to certain bookings and shared something I already had to eat. At my incall I always have different refreshments and chocolates. I just can't always do it, and as you say, it depends on the relationship you have with the person. Some of the things I've given as gifts were not physical objects, too.

 

[LeDodo]

With my very unproffessional analysist (lol) i came to the conclusion that a lot of guys who are into "findom" or such, who love giving $ and gifts often do it more to "flex" than anything. They like the attention that the SW will give to them because of it and they like to see their huge gifts on display the same way lets say i would love if i gave a big COF to an SP and she would post it on her OF saying "look at what Mister HM gave me". Its just a form of kink

Ill add more later as i need to go work a few hours right now and time is running short.

I think another angle to look at the gifting should be with the satisfaction to make someone happy.

I think it might also be tied to the desire to make the receiving party enjoying it or having pleasure (sexually speaking).

And I see the online sharing, sharing in private as part of the acknowledgement and display of happiness/pleasure. Even it might have been shared in person/privately. The joy to see it still has (ever)lasting effect amplifies the sentiment.

The only caveat to that is that if no recognition, acknowledgement or visible happiness is seen then the gifters might have negative feelings towards his own gesture.

 

[Fradi]

All of these things are really thoughtful and believe it or not, I have given gifts to clients before as well. I've also brought wine to certain bookings and shared something I already had to eat. At my incall I always have different refreshments and chocolates. I just can't always do it, and as you say, it depends on the relationship you have with the person. Some of the things I've given as gifts were not physical objects, too.

This is not unusual at all and a thoughtful thing to do.
With my ATF she always gives me a thoughtful gift on my birthday and Christmas she has never forgotten and it doesn’t have to be anything extravagant just the thought and appreciation of our friendship is more than enough. She is an amazing lady and I am lucky to have her in my life.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think another angle to look at the gifting should be with the satisfaction to make someone happy.

I think it might also be tied to the desire to make the receiving enjoying it or having pleasure (sexually speaking).

And I see the online sharing, sharing in private as part of the acknowledgement and display of happiness/pleasure. Even it might have been shared in person/privately. The joy to see it still has (ever)lasting effect amplifies the sentiment.

The only caveat to that is that if no recognition, acknowledgement or visible happiness is seen then the gifters might have negative feelings towards his own gesture.

The problem with platforms like Throne is that sometimes it doesn't show you who the gifter was, and I feel uncomfortable personally sharing that I received something on my wishlist rather than in person... I don't know if that makes sense. I don't receive gifts online that often, but usually the person messages me to tell me they sent something, and I appreciate it in those cases.

Sometimes I also don't receive what was sent, too.. and I end up finding out months later that somebody tried to send something that wasn't available anymore. It's really weird and not super user friendly.

I'm always super grateful when I get even get a little something, or even just a thoughtful gesture. Someone earlier gave me the donation in a fabric envelope that smelled very good. That in itself made me happy, I noticed it later.

But I think, and that has been mentioned many times, that sometimes people offer things because they have ulterior motives. It's not because somebody gives gifts and tips that they are good clients... Obviously that's not your case, but that type of experience could lead to feeling wary.

Even when it comes to long dates, dinners and outings.. sometimes it's not because somebody books those that they are better clients or that we enjoy their presence more.

 

[Sean007]

I generally do not leave a tip other than rounding. That being said I always arrive at dates with something. I’m into longer bookings (2h+). So I will bring a good bottle of wine, snacks (sushis, pastries, platter of cheese and crackers, fresh fruit…). I also often do dîner dates so just the cost of diner kind of shows appreciation. So to me all these kind count as a tip. I will also purchase some gifts from their suggestions or even from something the lady tells me when we meet. I find this much more personal than adding an extra 50$ or whatever in the enveloppe. Especially on repeat encounters where you start to know what pleases your lady friend.