Tinder and other dating apps

CoolAmadeus · Jul 13, 2021

Hello everyone,

wondering…. I recently registered on Tinder, and met someone for dinner twice. No mention of $$ so far, but I’m afraid she looks for something more serious than what I can offer her…

Anybody here having experiences or insight to share?

CA

Anna Bijou · Jul 14, 2021

Online dating suuuuucks lol

Had fun with it for a couple of months, then I couldn't stand it. I did end up remaining friends with a couple of guys I met on tinder.

Never again though.

Anna Bijou · Jul 14, 2021

CoolAmadeus said:
Hello everyone,

wondering…. I recently registered on Tinder, and met someone for dinner twice. No mention of $$ so far, but I’m afraid she looks for something more serious than what I can offer her…

Anybody here having experiences or insight to share?

CA

Well you have to be clear on your profile what you are looking for.

Also, drinks is better than dinner. At least for the first date.

PSEfreak · Jul 17, 2021

Mlle Bijou said:
Well you have to be clear on your profile what you are looking for.

Also, drinks is better than dinner. At least for the first date.

^^^ this is exactly right^^^
Too many weird people out there, Drinks allows you to bail relatively cheaply

Christian32 · Jul 17, 2021

Mlle Bijou said:
Well you have to be clear on your profile what you are looking for.

I don't agree... If you want to get dates on Tinder, as a guy, you have to lie and say all what girls what to hear.

Anna Bijou · Jul 17, 2021

Christian32 said:
I don't agree... If you want to get dates on Tinder, as a guy, you have to lie and say all what girls what to hear.

Lol

Why be a douche when you can find plenty of women looking for the same? From what I hear about my tinder dates turned friends' tinder adventures (well mostly before covid but I guess they've been starting up again), they don't have any problems with that aspect.i mean especially Tinder. People aren't supposed to be expecting to find something serious.

I mean, you don't have to say just looking for sex, you say looking for something casual blah blah. And if you're not interested anything too serious, you definitely don't do dinner on the first date. Maybe maybe on the second, but casual not all out.

If you're wondering, most men (well the ones that I met) go 50/50 on the bill. Some pay all of it but I'd say most don't. Can't really say anything. Fair's fair. Of course, it's nicer to have him pick up the tab but I understand why most don't.

In the end, it gets so annoying. One of my friends is saying that he remembers why he didn't want to do Tinder anymore after going back to it. People are assholes in general. Lots of flakes and just really really crap after a while. Was fun for a while though haha

Anna Bijou · Jul 17, 2021

CoolAmadeus said:
No mention of $$ so far

What does that mean?

Christian32 · Jul 17, 2021

Mlle Bijou said:
What does that mean?

I am guessing he used the strategy and made her thing he was open to something long term, maybe kids...

Anna Bijou · Jul 17, 2021

Christian32 said:
I am guessing he used the strategy and made her thing he was open to something long term, maybe kids...

But what does that have to do with mention of money? As in, ask him how much he makes?

And if he chose that 'strategy', why would he be surprised if she was responding to it not knowing it was a 'strategy' - more like a dickish manipulation but let's just go with strategy

Numerati · Jul 17, 2021

Uggghhh..... trying to meet someone online your chances of succeeding are TERRIBLE. Why go through that kind of low horrendous probability? You want to meet high quality people take a class. Acting.... Improv (My fav! I met and dated five girls/women from taking them), dance (tango, salsa, etc) and my two personal favorites are workout classes like HIIT and yoga. LOL. I met my wife taking yoga classes. Or do volunteer work like animal rescue. You won't stay single for long for that one. Ha!

Anna Bijou · Jul 17, 2021

Numerati said:
Uggghhh..... trying to meet someone online your chances of succeeding are TERRIBLE. Why go through that kind of low horrendous probability? You want to meet high quality people take a class. Acting.... Improv (My fav! I met and dated five girls/women from taking them), dance (tango, salsa, etc) and my two personal favorites are workout classes like HIIT and yoga. LOL. I met my wife taking yoga classes. Or do volunteer work like animal rescue. You won't stay single for long for that one. Ha!

Smart man

sweetspot · Jul 17, 2021

Mlle Bijou said:
What does that mean?

It means the girl has not mentioned $$payment, meaning she's probably a civilian and not a sugar baby or service provider, so far.

CoolAmadeus · Jul 18, 2021

sweetspot said:
It means the girl has not mentioned $$payment, meaning she's probably a civilian and not a sugar baby or service provider, so far.

That’s exactly what I meant.

And to answer other comments in this thread, no I’m not looking for a long term relationship in the sense of living together and and kids and all. I’m looking for having an affair, and I make it clear in the first 2-3 messages I exchange with the women on Tinder, way before meeting. Being respectful, classy and honest goes a long way.

Now why do I inquire about Tinder and such? Simply because I’m tired of being a cash machine! . I’m looking for a woman who wants fun dates and good sex, just like me, for nothing else than what it is, fun dates and good sex.

I’m in communication with a few young women so far, I’ll see…

Skym · Jul 18, 2021

Anyone tried Facebook Dating feature? Similar to Tinder design, imo

dothebartman · Jul 18, 2021

Numerati said:
Uggghhh..... trying to meet someone online your chances of succeeding are TERRIBLE. Why go through that kind of low horrendous probability? You want to meet high quality people take a class. Acting.... Improv (My fav! I met and dated five girls/women from taking them), dance (tango, salsa, etc) and my two personal favorites are workout classes like HIIT and yoga. LOL. I met my wife taking yoga classes. Or do volunteer work like animal rescue. You won't stay single for long for that one. Ha!

You're smarter than the average bear. I'll have to check out a class. Online dating definitely blows.

Fradi · Jul 18, 2021

CoolAmadeus said:
Now why do I inquire about Tinder and such? Simply because I’m tired of being a cash machine! . I’m looking for a woman who wants fun dates and good sex, just like me, for nothing else than what it is, fun dates and good sex.

Here is the problem with fun dates and good sex.
Most women don’t consider it fun or good sex when their date is twice their age.
Most men when they have been with 22- 35 year old gorgeous young women don’t consider it fun and good sex with someone in their own age bracket anymore.
This is why escorts and sugar babies( who make believe they are not escorts) can make a good living and always be in demand
Having cash is not to be sneered at lol.

CoolAmadeus · Jul 18, 2021

Fradi said:
Here is the problem with fun dates and good sex.
Most women don’t consider it fun or good sex when their date is twice their age.
Most men when they have been with 22- 35 year old gorgeous young women don’t consider it fun and good sex with someone in their own age bracket anymore.
This is why escorts and sugar babies( who make believe they are not escorts) can make a good living and always be in demand
Having cash is not to be sneered at lol.

I tend to agree with you to some extent: when you have been with younger women, it’s difficult to enjoy it as much with older ones…. But…. Many women in their 40-48 range are starving sex at home for the exact same reason you exposed. Their husband neglecting them. And they are perfect candidates, being starving sex and attention makes them be very Very VERY enjoyable to be with! I met a few so far, and they were grrreat, but they were in a $$ oriented context…. That’s what I want to avoid. And if I happen to find younger ones, I won’t say no either! Who knows! LOL

Numerati · Jul 18, 2021

CoolAmadeus said:
I tend to agree with you to some extent: when you have been with younger women, it’s difficult to enjoy it as much with older ones…. But…. Many women in their 40-48 range are starving sex at home for the exact same reason you exposed. Their husband neglecting them. And they are perfect candidates, being starving sex and attention makes them be very Very VERY enjoyable to be with! I met a few so far, and they were grrreat, but they were in a $$ oriented context…. That’s what I want to avoid. And if I happen to find younger ones, I won’t say no either! Who knows! LOL

Ahhhhh in your case it would be finding women who are missing something from the "safe," comfortable, and "stable" life they don't want to lose over as the passion and intensity have gone out the door loooong ago. Tinder for these women is a vehicle to search and try to reclaim what was lost for their obtaining stability. Stability is a real passion killer. Passion involves lots of uncertainty and changes in human waves and spectrums.

If you can project a masculine sexy mentor vibe you maybe able to get away with it without $$$ involved. Are you in shape? That will up your chances.

Fradi · Jul 18, 2021

Honestly I don’t have the patience and am not really that interested in dating.
I have found that ones in my age group or even the 40-48 year olds are not really sex starved and looking for that, they are looking for a financial benefactor to give them a better life than the one they have already screwed up.
Most of these women come with so much baggage and lunatic kids that I want no part of sifting through them.
Give me the gorgeous SP that provides a fabulous hour or two and then you go home and visit your kids and grandkids and next day you go play golf with your friends and go on a vacation to a location of your choice.
I have had a fabulous life with the woman of my dreams none of these tinder women would ever come close anyway so why waist my time and theirs
Anyway we are all different but this is my view on it for now, who knows maybe I will change my mind somewhere down the road. Right now I am having way too much fun and….. seeing my ATF.

CaptRenault · Feb 6, 2022

"The Tinder Swindler," a new Netflix documentary, is worth watching. The swindler is an Israeli guy who stole millions of dollars from naive women that he met on Tinder. He served only 5 months in jail in Israel and is a free man. Though supposedly he has been banned from Tinder. The story makes you feel sorry for the women who got swindled but it also leaves you wondering-how could they be so stupid?