Should I stop seeing this person?

[Lucky 64]

Hi, a person whom I respect a great deal had to cancel once on me. Because our interactions have always been really pleasant I took it at face value. Nothing subsequently suggested I see it otherwise. The bottom line is that I have a really nice relationship with someone and no reason to assume that the one bout of illness was disingenuous. If you sense an issue, such as coldness or distance, then reconsider. Best of all, ask honestly if you aren’t certain. 99 per cent of miscommunication is from drawing unsubstantiated, unproven conclusions.

Cancellation is a normal thing in life anything could happend but if someone cancelled 3 Times it is different

 

[DenisZim]

Hello,
My opinion (not about the cancelantion, but how you accept this).
Make a hard stop, because you started to put feelings in this.
Never allow someone to control you through sex. Have your principes.
Compared to most of the women, most of the time we act like childrens.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

How am I supposed to reliably book a meeting when they can cancel at the last minute to make space for someone else?

Last minute? 2 days in advance sounds more than reasonable to me!

 

[UncleBuck]

It’s possible she received a booking request from a traveller who not only was in town just for that day, but was also looking to book her for much longer with social time and a dinner included. You can’t blame her for prioritizing a longer/more lucrative booking unless it hurt your ego.

It could’ve also just been a new client with limited availability, which to her is a prospective new regular. Since you’re already a regular, it would make sense she’d ask you to reschedule. Remember, SHE is a business, and client acquisition is very important.

Perhaps she fell on her period and went for dinner with friends, or had a personal life date, and simply posted photos for marketing. Regardless what she was doing, she may not appreciate (nor tolerate) getting the 9th degree from you about what she was doing with her time.

You can’t let your mind wander into what an SP is doing in their time when they’re not with you, even what they were up to at the time of your previously scheduled booking.

Nonetheless, if you’re that incensed about this and feel like it’s ruined your fantasy-ship with this SP, you’re equally as entitled to end this one in favour of developing a new one with a different provider you won’t feel wronged by.

 

[TheBlackBass]

I have been meeting an sp occasionally over the past year. I had set up a date with her earlier this week but two days before the date she informed me that she wasn't feeling well and requested to reschedule. I agreed to postpone our date. But it seems like she was working on that day after all (posted pictures of a restuarant dinner and her in lingerie on twitter).. now she is contacting me to setup a date next week.

Though I have had pleasant experiences with her in our previous meetings, I am unsure if I want to meet her anymore. What do you guys think?

Man,
With all respect, I would tell you to refrain from being that sensitive. Like it was said before, in this thread, she is not your girlfriend. If she had cancelled last minute (a real last minute, like an hour before the date) saying she feels sick, and then you find out the "X" pictures, that would be different.

But she told you 2 days in advance. You may like to prebook, ok... but it doesn't really matter.
Move on from this situation and see her again without questioning.
If this happens again and you see it's a pattern, see elsewhere.

 

[wtvmark]

If you feel like it was such a violation, then don't book her again.
I had an SP cancel on me a few time for kind for BS reason before, stopped booking them cause they were unreliable. If you liked her enough to look past it there shouldnt be an issue.
10 years ago I've also has an SP cancel 30 mins before and she said it was cause a reg wanted a short notice appointment. Now that aspect was not forgivable to me. Time is valuable and she wasted mine. If you did that to an SP you're likely to get banned.
but if she gave 2 days notice... i mean if you feel she "betrayed" you by seeing someone else... you need to realize that SPs see multiple people and you're not all that special unless you have an exclusive arrangement

 

[Enjoying life]

As far as I know, she doesn’t do same-day bookings. I suppose I shouldn’t have said 'last minute,' since it wasn’t literally last minute. However, she does charge a late cancellation or rescheduling fee for any changes made less than 48 hours before the meeting. So there's that.

My sp is not greedy at all no cancellation fees especially if I took her many times! She does not roll that way!

 

[Fradi]

sorry but "not ethical" seems like the wrong wording lol

Why, if you cancel and see someone else for more money or a longer time how is that ethical.
You have given your word, accepted an appointment and then cancelled for more money, and have waisted someone’s time.
Time is money for everyone and an appointment is not a maybe and your word should stand for something.

Yes it is understandable and I am sure happens all the time but would you tolerate it from any other professional, a hairdresser ?
Again if your ego can’t accept it then move on to someone else, but if you had a great time last time then chances are you will again so it is up to you if you still want to see someone who may cancel on you and not hold up her end of the bargain.

 

[Fradi]

I don't know if we can say whether it's unethical or not.. I don't know how I feel about it. I understand both perspectives if that's the case personally..

How is cancelling and accepting a longer more lucrative date not unethical.
Is it only a client that has to live up to his word and commitment to an appointment?
I live by my word it means more than money.
SP that condone this kind of behaviour deserve every cancellation they get and should never complain about it.
It works both ways everyone’s time is valuable and respect is not a one way street.

 

[LC18]

I have seen a lot of people say that the SP probably received a more lucrative offer and accepted it

I think it’s not a smart decision if that’s the case because in the long run, your regular/repeat clients will give you a lot more than a one time dinner date

If that’s what happened, she might lose a regular because she preferred the dinner date at that moment

But those are all speculations, we don’t know what truly happened

 

[Lunaseraphim]

you got me curious who this provider is....

Sounds like a case of the "Delicate Genius Policy"

That's why this post was made isn't it?

I agree that it's not good to cancel on regular and repeat clients, that's not something I would personally do. It's also not the best move to cancel and then post images of the dinner date on the day of the booking.. I think my point is that we don't know what happened, and we don't know the context. I can imagine several scenarios for this situation.

How is cancelling and accepting a longer more lucrative date not unethical.
Is it only a client that has to live up to his word and commitment to an appointment?
I live by my word it means more than money.
SP that condone this kind of behaviour deserve every cancellation they get and should never complain about it.
It works both ways everyone’s time is valuable and respect is not a one way street.

I never said I condone this behavior, if that's what really happened. Obviously everyone's time is valuable.

I just think when posts like this are made, there is a ton of information missing, and it's all speculation.

Now would I cancel a date with a regular and repeat client who is respectful in order to make space for a longer booking? No, I wouldn't.