I had my worst day in my 16+ years in this business. Had to happen one day.

[minutemenX]

Had time to think on that and i must not let one bad encounter ruin the fun. As you say i will likely end up going back sooner than i expected.

It is a risky hobby. Sometimes you not only lose the money and get emotional damage by an inconsiderate girl and your under performance but also might end up getting something worse like STD. It happens more often than is admitted on this forum. So, consider yourself lucky in a way. In general, grow thicker skin to better hold life punches and get a bit more cynical. Whatever does not kill, makes us stronger.

 

[Enjoying life]

Hey man

I’ve known you for years. Read you for ages.

Clearly it’s bad luck.

But

I have one suggestion for you. You started to hobby before me but i wasn’t too far behind. For my personal experience, I don’t connect anymore with the new generation of sp. it is me. I realize that I prefer women in their 30’s now; otherwise the gap is too large, the dynamic is too mechanical.

It’s a suggestion but your a veteran, you know what to do

Mature women works best I find!

 

[EastWind]

might end up getting something worse like STD. It happens more often than is admitted on this forum.

I am going to admit it. Caught it twice when the HDH market collapsed and ventured to the LDL side. Luckily it was not life threatening. After that I was like fuck this and walked away.

 

[CLOUD 500]

https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/the-mileage-variation.250248/

^^^^ This thread is in relation to this thread about mileage variation. The new generation of girls got wild restrictions. Why this is happening? Is because the clients changed. They are accepting below average service and are protecting the girls for reasons I do not understand. The SP in question gave HM a bad service she even went as far as to say she did not like his dick so refused a BBBJ, refused to do DFK. But she still wanted the money. Even with all of this HM refuses to disclose the name of the SP, even though the agency banned him. Why on Earth would he do that?? This line of bad service coming from SPs will continue till the clients stand their ground and stop accepting it and expose the girls for giving bad service. I remember one time when a Merbite posted a review of a girl who claimed that he short changed her by $20 but gave the correct amount, in that thread also the guy decided to not disclose the name of the SP so is protecting her. Here HM is still trying to find the good in this SP. This is my analysis of the situation. To me this thread is useless without having a name of which SP it was. My two cents.

 

[Halloween Mike]

https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/the-mileage-variation.250248/

SP in question gave HM a bad service she even went as far as to say she did not like his dick so refused a BBBJ, refused to do DFK. But she still wanted the money. Even with all of this HM refuses to disclose the name of the SP, even though the agency banned him. Why on Earth would he do that??

I accepted a deal (of financial compensation) with the agency. Think an NDA but its not tie to law but my honor/my word. My word is priceless. I will respect it. Im transparent about it. And i ASSUME they banned me. Im not 100% sure but its more likely than not. It was a terrible situation.

But yes over that on a human side i was affected as well by her reaction. Heck unless you are a deviant you don't want an SP to feel bad/have a bad night.

But i know this world is cruel and peoples can exploit you/your kindness (wich unrelated to the hobby happened to me) so i DID built a shell. I am not easily hurt on my feelings. Fine she didn't liked me physically whatever. But ill admit when i heard her sobbing once she left my room and waited for her lift (my room was close to front door) this did hurt cause at this point there was no point of faking/lying and i do think she genuinly was affected by it. I didn't wanted this. I always tried my best for any SP i met to have a good experience with me.

But yes at same time i didn't wanted to be exploited.

It was a terrible situation. You saw the post ...saturday night, it hurted me. But today is a new day. I will move on. Im just humane... I hope this woman did too.

But if i can be blunt... I don't think this job is for her. She's not suited for it. If its a quick money thing i hope she can move on and achieve her dream career or anything she pursue.

Despite what happen i wish her the best still !

 

[Julia Sky]

Oh Yes I can relate to that story. It can even happen in a normal relationship where there is some underlying hidden irreconcilable issue that suddenly surfaces, and yea usually after a few "Signs". I have had a few of these very "Negative Energy" experiences and it take a few days or weeks to recover from. Yea... then you "Push On" like an addict calling girls to re-create some positive encounter to cancel out the negative encounter and the cycle continues always searching that positive energy rush. Definitely I have been traumatized enough to clearly read these "Signs" and when I feel they happen I "Stay Home" and have an emergency Xanax on standby to not be tempted to "Push On". That anxiety energy to "Push On" is very strong. I remember when I was younger days where I absolutely had to have some kind of sexual experience to feel normal and it led me to some dark places. These days I carefully moderate and calculate what my game plan is and when to "Abort Mission", and sometimes need that emergency Xanax to chill out and stay at home and not spend money. That story above really set off a bunch of flashbacks years back and posting it is highly appreciated for self reflection.

I'll be entirely honest here. This sounds like you have a problem. You shouldn't need to take benzos to be able to resist the urge to book escorts, this is sad and so unhealthy. You need to find the root cause of your addiction (both to sex and benzos apparently) and work on that, maybe through therapy or something. I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

[2fast2slow]

Hum if you are fine losing money its ok ... But in my case these type of things don't happen. I mean i only book so often, i am eager to go to Montreal, and im into "any girls" if they have a good warm attitude. This is basically a case of doing the minimum and expecting easy almost free money. Did you read the part i said she only kissed on the lips like a mom would kiss a toddler? Did you saw she only brough 2 condoms? (what a smart way to cut services...), did you read she didn't liked my dick and was just not willing to give a proper BBBJ? Like the service was bad man... hyper bad. Im not the kinda guy to be like "nah im just not into her". I had times when i openned the door and was slightly disapointed by the look of an SP (vs pics), but heck these often turned out to be great meetings cause they were amazing providers. I seen over 100 women, i booked for 16 years, i never had a "nah im not feeling it tonight, lets cut it short". Not all my meetings were perfect but usually there was always something to salvage it. I remember a provider that was kinda cold and i can't say it was a great meeting per say, but she gave me a good BJ with CIM (after some sex) and that was fine. Im not expecting every encounters to be my "greatest ever" either.

I hate 'wasting' money, trust me.

My point was when the encounter goes south (wether because of me, or her, or a combination of both) it is me who ends up crying not the girl lol.

Most of the girls I have seen prefer things to go well and for the client to leave happy, but when it clearly does not go well, I have never seen an sp 'crushed' by an encounter being ended short by me. Maybe this provider is new the business, and your disappointment and the whole situation was too much for her. A combination of your high expectations (not that you are not allowed to have high expectations) and her inexperience did not mix.

I also dont think you should reveal who it was.

 

[Fradi]

So you had a bad encounter, one after 16 years WTF that is pretty good in my book.
Yeah it sucks to spend money on anything and not get what you payed for, but think of all the lunatics and weird clients these girls must come across in 16 years, it is a wonder how they can manage to do this work without going insane.

There are many reasons a girl may not click with you and you shouldn’t take that to heart, pretty much all of them wouldn’t give you a second look if you weren’t paying them so no need for someone’s ego to take a beating. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

This is why I see the same Indy’s that I have known for years, I know for sure that I will have an amazing time.

 

[hob12]

Session was ruined when she told you that she didn't like your dick. I mean comon. I don't know if you have some kind of obvious health issue down there but personally there is no way I'd be able to go on with a session after hearing that. Thankfully I never did.

From what I understood she gave meh service and was still fully compensated. You were honest to her when you told her that you were disappointed. I don't see why you should feel bad for her reaction. I don’t enjoy hurting people's feelings but then she didn't hesitate before telling you that she disliked your dick.

Only thing I'd say on your end is maybe don't go out of your way to absolutely see a SP when your first 4 or 5 plans get canceled. Sometimes the stars are just not aligned.

 

[Jacob Israel]

It’s really hard to have any sympathy for you if you are not gonna say it’s who
Plus many people will have bad experiences (even the ones that are not ridiculously hideous). There’s no “it’s not made for her”.
Chances are she’s a poor gen Z girl that can’t find a regular square 9-5 or she is a newcomer that can’t speak French (it’s becoming really hard for allophones and anglophones to find a job in Quebec). She probably would have taken even a 40k job over doing this let’s be straight here. She probably just can’t find any. Prostitution has been so glamorized lately some can’t understand that with all their chemistry and orgasm non sense.
I don’t buy one second the dick comment lol.
So yes your post is a big huge waste.
If you think it’s not for her hiding her name will only make her stay.
I suggest you take the advice of fellow members.

 

[Halloween Mike]

Session was ruined when she told you that she didn't like your dick. I mean comon. I don't know if you have some kind of obvious health issue down there but personally there is no way I'd be able to go on with a session after hearing that. Thankfully I never did.

From what I understood she gave meh service and was still fully compensated. You were honest to her when you told her that you were disappointed. I don't see why you should feel bad for her reaction. I don’t enjoy hurting people's feelings but then she didn't hesitate before telling you that she disliked your dick.

Only thing I'd say on your end is maybe don't go out of your way to absolutely see a SP when your first 4 or 5 plans get canceled. Sometimes the stars are just not aligned.

No health issue. I always been like that since as long as i can remember. Never had a positive test come out for anything over the years. Dicks come in all shape and size, i mean i seen some in porn that i find ugly myself (not that i watch porn for the dick but i mean its obviously in your face during a scene).

Ultimately like i said there was a deal made with the agency. So i didn't paid full ammount. But i was gonna if all this drama wasn't happening. She had already taken the money, i told her to leave. But then she insisted on asking if i was angry (i just couldn't hide my disapointement at this point, i was very calm but my face probably betrayed me). I was just honest on my feelings. I was calm and polite but i didn't put white gloves. She called her agency and i described the rest. And it wasn't meh services, it was TERRIBLE services.

As for the last part, its tricky because i had great meetings out of last minute replacements. But yes i should had waited til next day and book someone daytime incall before leaving Montreal.

 

[Halloween Mike]

It’s really hard to have any sympathy for you if you are not gonna say it’s who

I don’t buy one second the dick comment lol.
So yes your post is a big huge waste.
If you think it’s not for her hiding her name will only make her stay.
I suggest you take the advice of fellow members.

A deal is a deal. I have one word. I made this post in the lounge, i didn't put it as a review. Im not asking for your sympathy. I felt bad that day, i wanted to vent. I did. Now im moving on. And what you mean you don't buy the dick comment?

 

[Jacob Israel]

A deal is a deal. I have one word. I made this post in the lounge, i didn't put it as a review. Im not asking for your sympathy. I felt bad that day, i wanted to vent. I did. Now im moving on. And what you mean you don't buy the dick comment?

Maybe not my sympathy but you are clearly looking for sympathy lol
That it’s not true lol
I think it’s an excuse she is using to not do the job she doesn’t want to do
Dicks come in all sizes and shapes so it’s a bit awkward as a comment especially coming from a prostitute

 

[Smokemeal2]

No health issue. I always been like that since as long as i can remember. Never had a positive test come out for anything over the years. Dicks come in all shape and size, i mean i seen some in porn that i find ugly myself (not that i watch porn for the dick but i mean its obviously in your face during a scene).

Ultimately like i said there was a deal made with the agency. So i didn't paid full ammount. But i was gonna if all this drama wasn't happening. She had already taken the money, i told her to leave. But then she insisted on asking if i was angry (i just couldn't hide my disapointement at this point, i was very calm but my face probably betrayed me). I was just honest on my feelings. I was calm and polite but i didn't put white gloves. She called her agency and i described the rest. And it wasn't meh services, it was TERRIBLE services.

As for the last part, its tricky because i had great meetings out of last minute replacements. But yes i should had waited til next day and book someone daytime incall before leaving Montreal.

In this biz, a girl who says she does not like your dick is really simple. She put one strike down to more easily find another strike and be done with you.

Another girl who is in the wrong business. As simple as that.

It happened to me a few times.

 

[hob12]

Sharing doesn't means he wants or expect sympathy. Ever heard of "venting"?

Also I don't understand why you'd insinuate that he is lying about the comment. That's a bit gratuitous.

And the whole immigrant sob story came outta nowhere.

 

[Jacob Israel]

Sharing doesn't means he wants or expect sympathy. Ever heard of "venting"?

Also I don't understand why you'd insinuate that he is lying about the comment. That's a bit gratuitous.

And the whole immigrant sob story came outta nowhere.

Can you read?
I never said he is lying. Where did I say this? I was talking about the prostitute that scammed him not him. Yes he’s clearly looking for sympathy.
Sharing for what? If the name of the person is not there? Tell me why he shares the info? He feels bad right? So he wants sympathy.
No wonder why sex workers think men are weak and take advantage of them. They complain and whine for nothing. Can’t even expose the person.

The “immigrant” as you refer to was me explaining the reason why some girls work as escorts that’s from where it comes. I’m not there to bring it for fun. Just explaining.

Yes genius I know what’s venting. Maybe you can write to me the definition too.

 

[hob12]

Can you read?
I never said he is lying. Where did I say this? I was talking about the prostitute that scammed him not him. Yes he’s clearly looking for sympathy.
Sharing for what? If the name of the person is not there? Tell me why he shares the info? He feels bad right? So he wants sympathy.
No wonder why sex workers think men are weak and take advantage of them. They complain and whine for nothing. Can’t even expose the person.

The “immigrant” as you refer to was me explaining the reason why some girls work as escorts that’s from where it comes. I’m not there to bring it for fun. Just explaining.

Yes genius I know what’s venting. Maybe you can write to me the definition too.

Well when you said you weren't buying the comment I sorta took it as if you didn't believe HM. He himself also didn't get what you meant. So maybe write better?

And you did go off onto an immigrant sob story without any hint that the SP in question isnt Canadian/Queb

 

[Jacob Israel]

Well when you said you weren't buying the comment I sorta took it as if you didn't believe HM. He himself also didn't get what you meant. So maybe write better?

And you did go off onto an immigrant sob story without any hint that the SP in question isnt Canadian/Queb

It was clear enough and even OP understood it wasn’t me saying he’s lying.
Maybe learn English cause I’m not trying to write in French on here.

I said it could be the case but it’s not necessarily the case but it could be a reason why. Some members understood my comment if you don’t that’s your problem.

Got it? Other questions? OP is an adult he can answer on his behalf

 

[hob12]

Bon deleted pour éviter que le tout déraille encore plus.

 

[Fradi]

A deal is a deal. I have one word. I made this post in the lounge, i didn't put it as a review. Im not asking for your sympathy. I felt bad that day, i wanted to vent. I did. Now im moving on. And what you mean you don't buy the dick comment?

If you made a deal with the agency then why are you bringing it up.
I doubt they think part of the deal was for you to vent on Merb about it.
Besides you probably saw a girl who has zero reviews and is an unknown, someone with 16+ years of doing this should know better and listen to his brain and experience not his dick lol, that being said it will happen to all of us sooner or later.
Personally if I feel bad enough to vent then I will name the SP otherwise my venting is of no benefit to anyone else.


You had one bad experience in 16+ years seems to me for someone who is no Brad Pitt by his own admission is a pretty good batting average.
I doubt any SP could say the same about the clients they get to see lol.