How would you have handled this situation?

[johnybird]

As prepared as the SP could have been it's got to be really awkward when her friend just walks up and interrupts her date, thousands of thoughts must have been going through her mind and she might not have had enough time to react or just been really caught of guard before all her personal info was spewed out.

The Client on the other hand, like almost everyone mentioned here, was not being respectful of her at all. After asking him to stop and him not she should have just left, she had very high to do so and she is very sweet for sticking with him.

When she came back after she composed herself he should have asked her if she was ok and then just said "I didn't hear or see anything, {SP's fake name**" and continued on like nothing ever happened to make her feel at ease and as comfortable as possible.

 

[wasisname]

Yes, here's a thought. The client is a pathetic petty POS with serious issues. She had every right to end the date right there and walk away. She should also contact her friends in the biz and blacklist this idiot. Privacy issues are that serious.

To me it isn't so much the privacy issues, but she asked him to stop and he didn't. Both the client and the SP should be able to put a stop to any activity that makes them uncomfortable, to continue on is a serious lack of respect. Granted this applies in most interactions regarding reasonable requests. Unless someone is wigging out over bullshit you stop. Even if it is bullshit, if you want to keep in their good will you do it anyways or just give up on them.

 

[Merlot]

Ooops,

It is confusing because on few occasions girls have given me their contact info and real names and spoke freely about their personal (non-SP) lives.

I think the SP should have immediately told him the following when she returned from the bathroom something like the following

I have been with a few ladies who knew me and were relaxed enough to let some personal information out. That was not the case here since this issue is about intruding on personal space. I thought the lady would have been fully within her rights to cancel the whole thing when the guy kept pushing for more and more personal information. Guys like that want to stick their nose where it doesn't belong and intrude their way into the lives of others, like certain peeps. Some people are born intruders. In this case there's no question the guy should have known what he heard accidentally was out of bounds. Using that information and deliberately pushing further shows he doesn't respect the proper escort-client relationship, especially when he didn't stop after being told to and refused to back off apparently. To me that means all deals are broken. She was bit foolish to follow through after the boundaries were broken. He may take that as tacit approval unless she pointed out where he crossed the line and he specifically acknowledged those proper boundaries, and still I doubt this guy would honor any boundaries like some I know.

She should have said, thanks for the dinner but since you don't respect business boundaries or my wishes you need to see other ladies. Have a nice night.

:thumb:

Merlot

 

[hungry101]

Yes, here's a thought. The client is a pathetic petty POS with serious issues. She had every right to end the date right there and walk away. She should also contact her friends in the biz and blacklist this idiot. Privacy issues are that serious.

Your forgetting that the guy knows a good portion of her life story. Be vindictive and he may do the same and make that public. Maybe it is good that she soldiered on?

This guy probably thought he was being cute and playful and doesn't have a clue.

I think Patron made a good observation. Why the fuck do you go out to eat with someone you do not know? Just get a hotel room and spend an hour or two banging for your first session. See if there is any chemistry for a social, non-banging engagement in the future.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

The ones that commented that the guy should just forget the dinner date and ''bang her'' do not seem to realize that for the client who wants a dinner date the purpose of meeting a sp is not fucking a body or as you say bang her...there is a sex component but they look for more,to each his own...

But as for the subject of this thread I agree with Gabriella, if a sp offers public experience she should have a series of plausible excuses prepared...if she cannot afford to be seen in public she should refrain,same as the hobbyist who wants to see a lady outside his room, have a story ready.

He was rude not to stop when she asked him even if he doesn't see her point,if you know a certain behavior bothers someone it is good manner to refrain...

 

[Doggyluver]

I have a couple of SP's that I know all their personal details. Name, Address and personal details but I would NEVER use this in public setting where they felt uncomfortable. If I was on a dinner date with an SP and the situation mentioned came up I would certainly respect the girl enough to NOT start asking personal questions and if I was stupid enough to do that and was asked to stop.....I certainly have enough respect to stop and make the evening about me and not about her personal life.
I feel your friend should have asked politely for the client to respect her privacy and if he continued, thank him and excuse herself, grab a cab and head home and.....................NEVER see this person again !

 

[Gabriella Laurence]

Why would anyone want all this shit, anyway? Why pay a lot of money for social time?

Hire the escort for an hour in the hotel room. If they become friends, any social time would be less awkward.

I think Patron made a good observation. Why the fuck do you go out to eat with someone you do not know? Just get a hotel room and spend an hour or two banging for your first session. See if there is any chemistry for a social, non-banging engagement in the future.

LOL

Some of you should really get over it and accept the fact that not everyone is into the wham-bam-bang-thank-you-ma'm experience and it is their prerogative, as clients, to do as they please without always being called idiots for engaging in paid social time with the ladies.

You like a straight up bang... some others need more than that. No one's approach is better than the other and are just as valid as any other.

And to answer your "WTF" question: some gentlemen much prefer starting the date over cocktails and/or dinner and then go back to their room for a more private time. That's how THEY want to establish chemistry and a good comfort level before taking things further. It's not rocket science and frankly, to each their own.

 

[MtlNewbie]

Sounds like she was really unlucky, with her friend running into her and this guy just being downright stupid. It's always tough to react properly when faced with an unexpected situation that you've never thought of before. It's also really easy in hindsight to say what you should have done. OP really went out of his way to mention repeatedly that she finished the date because of this this and that and clearly not money, when it was most likely money, regardless of how well known she is. I just wanted to point out that when you try so hard to deflect something it actually has the opposite effect.

In retrospect if she was so uncomfortable with the client knowing this information she should have just told her friend to shut up.

 

[hungry101]

The ones that commented that the guy should just forget the dinner date and ''bang her'' do not seem to realize that for the client who wants a dinner date the purpose of meeting a sp is not fucking a body or as you say bang her...there is a sex component but they look for more,to each his own...
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LOL

Some of you should really get over it and accept the fact that not everyone is into the wham-bam-bang-thank-you-ma'm experience and it is their prerogative, as clients, to do as they please without always being called idiots for engaging in paid social time with the ladies.

You like a straight up bang... some others need more than that. No one's approach is better than the other and are just as valid as any other.

And to answer your "WTF" question: some gentlemen much prefer starting the date over cocktails and/or dinner and then go back to their room for a more private time. That's how THEY want to establish chemistry and a good comfort level before taking things further. It's not rocket science and frankly, to each their own.

Hey, I always start the date out with a glass of wine and conversation. I like the company of a beautiful charming lady. Sometimes I just like to admire them. I love to try to make them laugh and i like to converse. Ask any escort I have been with. I just don't believe in paying 200$+/hour to take someone out to eat and drink for another 100$/hour. That just seems like a bit of a waste.

As for the verb "bang" as in "to bang." It sounds a little crude. I had watched a marathon of It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia over vacation. They use this phrase a lot...and BTW call it "to see" or "to do" or "to bang" or "to make love" etc....we get all caught up in semantics. It all means the same thing. I think it is disingenuous that we bandy about all these euphemisms and it all means the same thing.

 

[PopeDover]

I think this guy went into the situation without understanding just how limited his social interactions with her would be.

Limited to being respectful?

He created the situation that he got himself into by his own actions. What part of the story am I missing? Seems like basic YMMV stuff with the red herring being the chance encounter with the friend and apparently also that he took her out in public in the first place, which both seem irrelevant if he just did what many commenters here suggested he should have or even simply kept his mouth shut.

Be vindictive and he may do the same and make that public. Maybe it is good that she soldiered on?

great point, especially considering he already displayed completely unnecessary destructive behavior at that point

 

[anon_vlad]

I am sure that SPs are aware that some clients are socially awkward. The SP of this story seems to be concerned with protecting her privacy.

For those two reasons, as soon as her female friend opened her month, the SP should have excused herself immediately and asked her friend to join her in the washroom. There she could have explained that she didn't want her date to know anything more about her personal life as he seemed nosy and she wasn't intending to see him again. Of course, the client behaved badly. He either didn't care or was unaware of the extent of his date's discomfort. However, the SP should have "driven defensively". Then there would have been no story.