Have you ever been sexually abused or harrassed ?

[ShyMan]

We were having dinner and after I went in to the can to wash my hands.
As I was doing this I wasn't paying much attention, but suddenly there were two hands on my shoulders and the guy began massaging me.
I spun around quickly ready to clock the guy and then I realized that he was in full hotel uniform with a white towel on his shoulders.
Apparently this was a custom and service provided to all guests which I saw later on being provided to a Chinese gentleman who had no issues, for me it was awkward as hell and left real quick.

I too have encountered this weird custom in some of the high-end hotels I stayed at in Asia. I freaked out the first time too.

It would be nice if a few hot ladies performed these complementary benefits. Sam, would you refused such amenities if hot ladies were massaging you?

As for the sexual harassment issues, I believe it's a power thing for guys like Harvey Weinstein and Bill O'Reilly -- this dude ended up paying $34 million to a female lawyer who he sexually harassed. Damn! These dudes could have had all of the Montreal SP's to themselves at a fraction of the monetary costs they have had to pay and will continue to pay for their atrocious conducts. Powerful women have done the same to their male subordinates (or ladies who they found attractive). I work in a male dominated world so I haven't been harassed except I've been mistreated my gay men bosses (because I guess they did not find me attractive -- heck, I don't blame them, even my late mama found me ugly!).

 

[james t kirk]

hmmm, I've read this thread and from my point of view, most of you don't understand the question from the OP.

He asked if anyone had ever been sexually abused or harassed. Not if you had ever suffered an unwelcome pass. In reading most of these stories, what you are relating is an unwelcome pass. Some gay guy touched you, etc. (Though I guess you could argue that that act was "sexual assault".)

Abuse means that you were unable to defend yourself (say when you were a youth) and someone continually forced you to do things that you did not in any way consent to or ask for.

Harassment is the act of continually badgering you to do something of a sexual nature when you are not interested. You have told that person no, but they keep repeating the unwanted behavior. For example, the boss at work who is continually trying get you to give into his sexual demands and won't take no for an answer. The act or the pressure is repeated several times and at all times.

If some gay guy just started rubbing my crotch, I'd just tell him that I'm not interested and walk away. The problem would only occur if he would not take no for an answer and kept repeating the undesired act (won't take no for an answer so to speak.)

 

[jalimon]

heck, I don't blame them, even my late mama found me ugly!).

Shyman she was just protecting her son... I remember I was about 20 I ask my father to drive me to a end of year skiing party. On the way I ask him to stop at the drugstore. He is annoyed as he wants to go back home watch the hockey game... So he said what do you want to buy? Gulp... I said dad I want to buy condom. I said dad you never know I might score so I need to protect myself. Nah he said, no need to stop for condom, your face will protect yourself. Haha what an ass hole

Cheers,

 

[clark_larson]

If some gay guy just started rubbing my crotch, I'd just tell him that I'm not interested and walk away. The problem would only occur if he would not take no for an answer and kept repeating the undesired act (won't take no for an answer so to speak.)

The idea of just walking away didn't cross my mind because I felt disrespected beyond self control.

 

[Sonia.von.Sacher]

Sonia of Unicorn abused me beyond belief! But it was soooo good Just kidding...

I heard that an abuse often starts with a "No" from one side. I've heard lots of "yes!" thought
In this case, I totally own up my title of abuser!

 

[ShyMan]

You are right about these power hungry guys. They can afford all the pussy in the world but it is not about that, It is about their sick mind enjoying having power over someone.

Glad to see you are better and posting again btw.

Thanks, Sam21. I'm glad to be back -- baby steps.

Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely until the downfall inevitably ensues. Sadly and tragically, rape has been used as a sinister weapon in wars since the beginning of humanity. Predatory Monsters like Harvey Weinstein (and his brother Bob) and Bill O'Reilly likely used sex similarly -- conquest, domination and compensating for their shortcomings.

If I every make the monies these sick monsters have, I'd be in pussy heaven everyday -- spending my time almost entirely in Montreal. I'd outdo The Great Hugh Hefner -- he was great in a historical sense; I don't think he engaged in sexual harassment -- from what I read and heard about the work environment at Playboy; it was all business and everyone was straight laced and doggedly professional at work, even though they were dealing with photos of beautiful young naked ladies.

Jalimon -- if you are ugly then I'm must be the ugliest dude to have stepped foot in Montreal.

 

[EagerBeaver]

A friend of mine, as a 12 year old, experienced the reverse situation: he caught his father cheating on his mother, with a woman he now recognizes was an escort. Although he rarely discusses his past with me and certainly never tries to attempt amateur psychiatry, he told me it significantly traumatized him. He told me this story as a way of explaining his own rampant infidelity and love of escorts. I took from his comments that he feels like the Apple did not fall far from the tree. He has a strong relationship with his father, who I know fairly well. He grew up fearing and respecting him.

 

[hungry101]

Reminder: Regret does not equal rape.

https://thoughtcatalog.com/indu-reddy/2014/05/can-we-please-stop-calling-drunk-consent-rape/

If regret was equivalent to rape than the girls that used fake photos or lied about services offered or took my money without putting forth any effort would be rapists.

 

[cloudsurf]

One of the cutest "sexual assaults" I`ve ever seen happened in front of dozens of cameras.
Two pretty female boxers posed for a pre-fight promo....face to face both looking intimidatingly at the other.
Then the challenger lunged forward and planted a wet kiss on the mouth of the champ.
The champ`s reaction was shock and a slap on the face of the challenger.
Then they both tuned around and started smiling and laughing.
Was this staged as a clever promotion. It sure got a lot of press.

 

[Julia Sky]

Why? Julia I am discovering there is so many dude here that do not take abuse or harassment toward women seriously. I know I was one of them a few year ago...

Cheers,

Because it probably happened to her and is embarrassed to talk about it. It is understandable. In any case she should take proper action.

Hm, more because I dont want people to see this thread and use it to justify the good old thinking that escorts who were raped or abused in any way sexually are escorting because they were abused.

I also think it's awkward to see people almost proud to say they pulled a knife at some gay man because he either touched his thigh or looked at him... Get real here, unless you are in immediate life-threatening danger and have no other way to help yourself, why would you pull a knife at someone... Girls get catcalled all the time and we don't pull knives at people.

 

[cloudsurf]

Julia from my own amateur observations, women who`ve been raped multiple times as girls , tend to react 2 very different ways.
They either turn inwards and shrink from society, or they become social butterflies, party girls and promiscuous women. Some in the latter group have turned to prostitution.

 

[heliragedeleted]

Julia: Hm, more because I dont want people to see this thread and use it to justify the good old thinking that escorts who were raped or abused in any way sexually are escorting because they were abused.

My thinking exactly, wonderful insight. This thread could justify sp abuse by some.

 

[jalimon]

I also think it's awkward to see people almost proud to say they pulled a knife at some gay man because he either touched his thigh or looked at him... Get real here, unless you are in immediate life-threatening danger and have no other way to help yourself, why would you pull a knife at someone... Girls get catcalled all the time and we don't pull knives at people.

You see you contribute and you, again, make the most interesting and important comment of us all! Your fresh mind gives me hope

Many dudes here do not realized just how much women are harassed. I know I was one of them. Before I took a deep plunge on the matter and discovered how horrible women are often treated.

Cheers,

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

The truth is; men have the tendancy to put their head in the sand and to avoid having to see the ugly truth of being a lady...

I was working in that cheap ioncall agency as receptionnist after a car crash (those who read my posts : yeah! I had one of a shitty 19th!!) and I was restarting to walk without any help since about a month (without crutches nor cane)...and a girl had trouble with a client who took one hour, so 2SOG while there was one left...an argument happened between us 2 (the client and I).. and he finally grabbed a small chair to throw it at me as I endend up kneeling on the floor and received 3 stab wounds on the back of my hand before the guy took off with my purse...

The cops were involved and I had many stitches, we can barely see it today..but the agency owner told me, of front of the girls (including the one I was defending):"ok the dude is a jerk, but knowing how Alyssa can be reactive, we must admit you most probably ran after it..."

Then the girl that was there the whole time exploded and yelled at him; "don't you realize the client came over with a knife???"

Since I lost my purse and my cards and I didn't want to work for him anymore and 2 other girls followed me, we worked as indies from my appartment...Well, I became indy, and as they were calling me to know how things were going, they wanted to try it out and they were coming at my place to work...

So, it's kind of funny to see men showing knife to deviant dudes but if we dare dong the same, we are having our PMS or we are psycho....

Go figure!

 

[LeafsSuck]

So, I went to get my chest and balls trimmed by a gay guy. I couldn't find a female who did this so if you do know someone please tell me about it. Anyways, after trimming my chest with a clipper he suggests to shave the balls and not trim them. I say ok, these gay guys know much better than me. So after shaving my balls he puts this after lotion on them, I say ok makes sense. After he massages the lotion in he grabs some more and does more massaging but this time he spreads the lotion on the shaft of my cock, I say ok, he did shave a bit there too. After applying the lotion to the shaft of my cock he grabs some more solely for the shaft of my cock. I say to myself ok this guy is a professional and knows his business.
At the next couples dinner, we were 4 couples, I recite this story and they say, "He took advantage of you!!!!" I replied well I didn't get hard I just thought it was part of the process. They all laughed their heads off at me!!!! Thankfully, I am able to just account it as an amusing story.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

So, I went to get my chest and balls trimmed by a gay guy.

Fuck it that funny, I do my own and do not need to find a reason to see a gay guy. ( The last part is my sense of humor, take no offence )

Edit: Redead the post, I would not have told that story to anyone, taken it to my grave.

 

[hungry101]

So, I went to get my chest and balls trimmed by a gay guy. laughed their heads off at me

Now I'm laughing. I ordered a nose trimmer in an attempt to degrossify myself and it came with a grooming head. They are less than 20$. There is no need to pay a gay man to touch your cock and balls. In fact, if a gay man wants to do some heavy petting on me, he will be the one paying. LOL!

http://www.hammacher.com/Product/De...MIvJiJtbuP1wIVgYdpCh2JBwhpEAQYAiABEgJNwPD_BwE

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

I get a slight chuckle when someone mentions that they get approached by gay guys, I have a friend who is gay says that he goes after men who he thinks look feminine and he has a good chance of picking up. Perhas change your clothes style and wear some brute.
Again, my sense of humor, take no offence.

 

[clark_larson]

Haha, something to think about, I was wearing a blue trench coat and a Hermès scarf. It might have been the scarf. The guy told me he worked in fashion prior to grabbing my junk. So maybe I appeal to the gay fashionistas. Anyways, I think fashion is bullshit.

"Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months."
-Oscar Wilde.

 

[hungry101]

Haha, something to think about, I was wearing a blue trench coat and a Hermès scarf. It might have been the scarf. The guy told me he worked in fashion prior to grabbing my junk. So maybe I appeal to the gay fashionistas. Anyways, I think fashion is bullshit.

"Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months."
-Oscar Wilde.

Wait a second...You were wearing a scarf? Why didn't you just write fellow cocksucker on your forehead? Don't tell me...did you have a sweater tied around your neck too? Hell, the poor guy probably thought he had an open invitation...He was already imagining the two of you setting up house and hanging his and his towels on the bathroom towel rack and then blam! A punch to the face.