Fingering: The basics

[LC18]

I’ve noticed a few of you complained about not being able to finger escorts. A lot of my peers don’t allow it for valid reasons. Let me help you out. Most common reasons are: hygiene, sensitivity and comfort

Never and I mean it never:
• Stick a finger in someone without consent
• Stick your fingers in someone if your hands are dirty
• Go from ass to vag

Quick reminders:
• Always wash your hands before
• Keep your nails short and make sure they’re not broken
• Ask for consent
• Ask if it’s ok to add a finger
• Use lube especially for anal play

These can seem very obvious to some and I’m happy if it is but sadly, far too many men don’t know the basics. Vaginas are very sensitive and a small detail like forgetting to wash your hands before you play with it can disrupt its pH. You know what that means? Bacterial vaginosis or yeast infection. Those aren’t pretty or sexy words, I know. That also means that the provider won’t be able to see clients while she’s treating herself. Don’t be rude, wash your hands.

You aren’t a DJ and the clit isn’t a mixing table so there’s no need to rub it in all directions super rapidly. Ask your partner how she likes it, not only is it super sexy but on top of it you’ll know exactly what she likes.

We are not hiding gold in our cervix so there’s no need to go that deep. The g spot isn’t even there.

It’s not a race either so you don’t need to speed up as soon as you slide your fingers in. Start slowly and ask your partner if she’d like you to go faster or better yet, maybe she’ll tell you herself.

TLDR: Providers refuse DIGITS(fingering) because they’re afraid you’ll hurt them or that you’ll disrupt their pH. Don’t shove your fingers rapidly like you’re in some kind of competition. Don’t go from ass to vag.

Need more advice:
How to book an indy
How to introduce yourself like a pro
Screening and references [Help]

 

[Nachoy]

How do feel about stimulating the clit without finger insertion?
Do most SP allow that?

 

[RYANvsEVERYBODY]

Do you hand out maps to the G-spot when people meet you in person? How exactly do we locate it?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

How do feel about stimulating the clit without finger insertion?
Do most SP allow that?

Most men are stimulating my urethra more than my clitoris (and it hurts), so I allow it but I ask you to be gentle and you need to follow my directions, and accept that I reposition your hand from time to time!

 

[LC18]

Do you hand out maps to the G-spot when people meet you in person? How exactly do we locate it?

I do my best

 

[AHarper]

Be respectful....fingering.....don't go in there like you lost your car keys ! Always ask first !

 

[TheJames101]

Be respectful....fingering.....don't go in there like you lost your car keys ! Always ask first !

About my car keys?

 

[2fast2slow]

ok now that we covered the basics, i'm interested in the advanced course!

 

[Nachoy]

How about when DATY does the tongue touching the urethra hurts as well? Or tongue more gentle ?

 

[bodick7]

Happy not being a mechanic. It must be tedious to prepare...

 

[Jordd]

I’ve noticed a few of you complained about not being able to finger escorts. A lot of my peers don’t allow it for valid reasons. Let me help you out. Most common reasons are: hygiene, sensitivity and comfort

Never and I mean it never:
• Stick a finger in someone without consent
• Stick your fingers in someone if your hands are dirty
• Go from ass to vag

Quick reminders:
• Always wash your hands before
• Keep your nails short and make sure they’re not broken
• Ask for consent
• Ask if it’s ok to add a finger
• Use lube especially for anal play

These can seem very obvious to some and I’m happy if it is but sadly, far too many men don’t know the basics. Vaginas are very sensitive and a small detail like forgetting to wash your hands before you play with it can disrupt its pH. You know what that means? Bacterial vaginosis or yeast infection. Those aren’t pretty or sexy words, I know. That also means that the provider won’t be able to see clients while she’s treating herself. Don’t be rude, wash your hands.

You aren’t a DJ and the clit isn’t a mixing table so there’s no need to rub it in all directions super rapidly. Ask your partner how she likes it, not only is it super sexy but on top of it you’ll know exactly what she likes.

We are not hiding gold in our cervix so there’s no need to go that deep. The g spot isn’t even there.

It’s not a race either so you don’t need to speed up as soon as you slide your fingers in. Start slowly and ask your partner if she’d like you to go faster or better yet, maybe she’ll tell you herself.

TLDR: Providers refuse DIGITS(fingering) because they’re afraid you’ll hurt them or that you’ll disrupt their pH. Don’t shove your fingers rapidly like you’re in some kind of competition. Don’t go from ass to vag.

Need more advice:
How to book an indy
How to introduce yourself like a pro
Screening and references [Help]

Great advice. What about similar thread for DATY? Please feel free to start one.

 

[LC18]

ok now that we covered the basics, i'm interested in the advanced course!

I’ll think about it but it’s a little more complicated because every woman is different. What turns me into the Niagara Falls might make another woman as dry as the Sahara and vice versa.

 

[marky mark]

I've said it before, I'll say it again: Porn has given men unreasonable expectations of what is acceptable in the bedroom. Porn is to Sex Education what The Fast and Furious franchise is to Drivers Education.
Time to listen to LC, the best educator we have around here it would seem.

 

[TheJames101]

I've said it before, I'll say it again: Porn has given men unreasonable expectations of what is acceptable in the bedroom. Porn is to Sex Education what The Fast and Furious franchise is to Drivers Education.
Time to listen to LC, the best educator we have around here it would seem.

In general, agreed. The thing is there's actually some porn that's actually pretty decent (some of the bellesa stuff, for instance) and caters to those looking for something a bit more grounded. But, most porn isn't that.

 

[Valentina]

How about when DATY does the tongue touching the urethra hurts as well? Or tongue more gentle ?

Well, for starters DATY feels best when:

- You aren’t licking the inner thigh or groin area thinking you’re flicking the bean ( & then later making a review on merb saying you made us cum with your incredible DATY/DATO skills )

- When you’re not munching on the labia majora or minora like it’s beef jerky

- When you are stubble free. Why do you want to stab us in the pp? (Beards or clean shaven feels best)

As LC mentioned, we are all different in regards to what we like. It varies. The list above just serves as universal pointers.

 

[Jordd]

Well, for starters DATY feels best when:

- You aren’t licking the inner thigh or groin area thinking you’re flicking the bean ( & then later making a review on merb saying you made us cum with your incredible DATY/DATO skills )

- When you’re not munching on the labia majora or minora like it’s beef jerky

- When you are stubble free. Why do you want to stab us in the pp? (Beards or clean shaven feels best)

As LC mentioned, we are all different in regards to what we like. It varies. The list above just serves as universal pointers.

What about fingering during DATY? Should there always be 1, 2 or no fingers inside?
What about the back door?

 

[Valentina]

What about fingering during DATY? Should there always be 1, 2 or no fingers inside?
What about the back door?

That’s a personal taste! I LOVE when fingers are added to the mix during DATY since I’m more of a G girl (even though DATY alone feels great - depending on peoples’ skills )
- 2 phalanges is nice
- butt stuff needs to be asked but not for me.
(I’ll allow certain clients to touch, rub, the surface of my litol a hole during doggy - but I gauge who has access because again some people don’t rub, they scrub as if they’re using an SOS sponge)

 

[Jordd]

That’s a personal taste! I LOVE when fingers are added to the mix during DATY since I’m more of a G girl (even though DATY alone feels great - depending on peoples’ skills )
- 2 phalanges is nice
- butt stuff needs to be asked but not for me.
(I’ll allow certain clients to touch, rub, the surface of my litol a hole during doggy - but I gauge who has access because again some people don’t rub, they scrub as if they’re using an SOS sponge)

LOVE IT - you even answered one of my questions after I left it out! I find that more often than not a finger tip in the little hole during FS is well received (pardon the pun!) and adds to the woman’s pleasure. It slides in like butter when all the juices are flowing.

 

[LC18]

LOVE IT - you even answered one of my questions after I left it out! I find that more often than not a finger tip in the little hole during FS is well received (pardon the pun!) and adds to the woman’s pleasure. It slides in like butter when all the juices are flowing.

You mean a finger in the ass while you’re having sex? I absolutely hate it.

Either you’re going to stick your whole D in it or nothing. A finger isn’t comfortable or fun to me.

 

[DouMan]

It's always amusing to notice how fine the line is between humour and ignorance