The issue with online dating, is that men and women have an ideology they want. I was 41 when i went online dating and wasted 4 years on there, I met my fair share of women and i have been told with the response i got that i was in fact lucky, meaning that for around 100 messages sent i got about 30 replies.
The divorce rate and separation is much higher than 50% its much more like 85%. I got message by a few women that i had no interest in and i never ever replied something nasty or evil. Hurting someone was never my goal, but man did i get some nasty replies back from some of those women.
How can you take something seriously when the persons profile starts with (if you are not at least 6 feet) considering that most men are around 5 foot 8. If you have a gut (sorry but i sure don't have the six pack i had when i was 25 i am now 51), if you lose your hair (hair loss in men is a common thing i have normal hair thinning).
If you have tattoos you score extra points.
I met a 50 year old women, she was the one who came to talk to me, after we spoke on the phone i said ok lets meet, went to a small Italian restaurant in Laval, she literally brought with her all her assets, her house, she had a daycare, how much she was making, selling insurance at night, and that at 50 she was an alpha women and was in demand. That she ghosted 3 men to meet me and i was lucky to be with her. She is now 60 and still single.
I met a Romanian women and with the issues we had to communicate she was able to make me understand that her visa in Canada was expiring in 6 months and she had to get married to stay in the Country.
A part from the time i got ghosted, planing dates, reservations etc and the girl never showed up.
Women telling you that her standard in men is Shemar Moore. Baggage they all had baggage from the one who lost her driving permit for 1y do to drunk driving, and at 41 with 2 kids was banging a 27y old did not message me for 1 month because she thought that it would work between them, to the ones who have super high standards, the ones on depression and of course the ones being online only to chat with you with no intentions to meet only to pass time.
I have spoken to men and also women who went online and its safe to say that all of them had the same opinion, getting off online dating was the best choice.
I was on a facebook group, they ask to ^post sexy pics of ourselves, at 45 i posted one i am pretty built 6 feet 258 pounds been training for a very long time, then the younger guy post a pic of himself clearly on a steroid cycle all tanned and all the women went nuts. So there you go this is online for you, you compare yourself to others you get discourage you develop low self esteem and you leave.
At 51, when i am well dressed i still get attention from women, the weird thing is they are younger women, when i go out with friends etc, but yet online dating with women my age i get nothing.