Dealbreaker or not?

[LeDodo]

So far it seems like kissing is the most important for a lot of people. I'm not entirely surprised tbh but it's nice to read this thread and see that many people share that preference!!

It's a good reminder that intimacy is so much more than just penetration and that actually, most clients are looking for more than just a warm hole Pardon the vulgarity haha.

I think it's down to the E of GFE, Experience. As you said it's not just down to the hole. But the whole thing. I would assume that if it's just the hole, MP might be the logical choice.

 

[mtremblay]

I would say it's more about the overall experience than the acts themselves.
I'm still exploring, but in my head, I'm not seeking for the perfect SP that is an all star in every aspect. Each of you have your strength and I'm glad to see a particular lady when I feel the urge of a specific fantasy. And within an encounter, once I ejaculate, I don't have that much energy for anything else (so msog has no value for me).

DATY
Because, after 5 min. the juice is already out, what should I do the rest of the time? Talk? ;-p
That's really my favorite sexual thing, but to be fully enjoyable, there's a few factors. Time: I like to lick the clitoris slowly, not the same excitement when it's rushed. Feeling that my partner enjoy it: moaning, body reaction, talking about it, hand on my head, etc. It's really mood related.
Still not a deal breaker to book, but if there's a nice connection in that act, there's a high possibility that we see each other again.

BBBJ
I also enjoy receiving oral sex (so 69 is a big+)
When offered, a slow and sloppy BJ with CIM is a really good way to let it go. It puts a smile on my face every time.
But I'm also really comfortable with the CBJ version. So not a deal breaker.
However, what would be a deal breaker is a 30-60 sec. BJ before going to the next step. Heavy usage of hands is also a no go for me. (If I want hands on my dick, I'll stay at home and masturbate)
For me is more about the tongue usage, kissing with the lips than then deepthroat part. Bonus when there's BLS. Slutty eye contact is also a plus.

Kissing
Not looking for it at all.
It could be that I didn't got any chemistry yet with it. And I don't expect that kind of connection from first encounter.

 

[PSEfreak]

Deal breaker for me if any one of these was off the table

 

[Zzyzx]

YES, NO, YES

 

[philonius]

Simple questions, 3 answers would you still book if those weren’t offered:

Kissing in a session, dealbreaker or not?

BBBJ in a session, dealbreaker or not?

DATY in a session, dealbreaker or not?


I’ve asked them separately because people all have different needs and I’m curious

- Kissing is a must, LFK at least.
- In the past I would have said CBJ is a dealbreaker but I've had a couple lovely experiences where that wasn't the case, so I guess not.
- DATY is a must. In fact, LFK after DATY is a must. I want taste you, then for you to taste you and me. I have no problem with the same in return, it's only fair.

 

[EagerBeaver]

Kissing
Not looking for it at all.

I feel the same way 95% of the time. The only time I am interested in kissing at all is when the face is exceptionally pretty- top 5%. I don't understand all of these guys who are interested in kissing average looking faces. You might as well kiss an average looking wall, or an average looking ashtray. This is not arousal activity.

I was on a Seeking Arrangement date one time with a lady and I very spontaneously started kissing her. It was like our third date. That being said, I don't normally do things like that very spontaneously. It's just that she looked really pretty in that moment and I had an overwhelming urge to kiss her and did. It seemed to be well received and she kissed me back, although later I regretted my impulsiveness. It did make me realize that these are the only occasions when kissing comes onto my radar. I have to be moved by the beauty to want to kiss it.

 

[cpp433]

Kissing preferred but not a dealbreaker
No bbbj 100% dealbreaker
Dont daty so dont care

 

[2fast2slow]

in order of importance for me is bbbj, dfk and way down there is daty (no pun intended). There once was a really cute (and i mean really cute ) girl in a mp who did not offer bbbj, not even cbj, no bj, point final. But she aggreed to kiss and kiss she did. Honestly some of my best experiences ever (fs+dfk). Its not 1 acronym that matters, it is the whole package.

 

[kstanb]

If the offer is GFE, then: yes, yes, yes.
in another environment, like massage parlor, maybe not

that said, it is the full picture, there are other factors like the level of attractiveness, level of rates and the services offered; I mean, a domme won't do any of these activities (not even FS), and some guys will still pay big bucks to meet them, same can be said for some forms of massages,,, are you a tantric massage expert? the prostate/ strap-on queen? you like it in the ass? if you find your niche, you don't need to follow a standard GFE script

 

[Fradi]

Super curious as well !!

I love kissing too. It's part of the experience to me. It's always a little awkward for me when someone doesnt want to kiss but of course I dont force it haha. If I was a client I wouldn't book someone who won't kiss.

Im also a huge fan of oral both ways, so if I was a client that would probably be super important.

Curious to see clients replies!

All three, but if I had to pick, kissing would probably be top.

 

[Fradi]

I feel the same way 95% of the time. The only time I am interested in kissing at all is when the face is exceptionally pretty- top 5%. I don't understand all of these guys who are interested in kissing average looking faces. You might as well kiss an average looking wall, or an average looking ashtray. This is not arousal activity.

I was on a Seeking Arrangement date one time with a lady and I very spontaneously started kissing her. It was like our third date. That being said, I don't normally do things like that very spontaneously. It's just that she looked really pretty in that moment and I had an overwhelming urge to kiss her and did. It seemed to be well received and she kissed me back, although later I regretted my impulsiveness. It did make me realize that these are the only occasions when kissing comes onto my radar. I have to be moved by the beauty to want to kiss it.

 

[Halloween Mike]

Simple questions, 3 answers would you still book if those weren’t offered:

Kissing in a session, dealbreaker or not?

BBBJ in a session, dealbreaker or not?

DATY in a session, dealbreaker or not?


I’ve asked them separately because people all have different needs and I’m curious

1) Dealbreaker absolutely. I would be "ok" if its just lips kissing without much tongue (even tough i prefer with plenty) but there need to be some kissing... Its how a meeting start pretty much, how the boner start lol

2) So far it is for me, but i supose there could be SOME exeptions. Lets say someone semi famous (like an instagram "model" with a fair share of followers) who would work in agency at regular agency price but would not offer it, maybe eventually i could be tempted... But i noticed more often than not its indies in the higher rates that will do "safe services only". Correct me if im wrong but when its written as that, it also mean no kissing right? So basically you loose BBBJ AND KISSING ... but yet still pay a premium price...ouch.

3) Absolutely don't care, very rarely did in my meetings. The thing is its hard for me due to my tongue (that is not like most peoples, born like that) but on top of it its not something i really get "exitement out of". Like i supose i would reciprocre oral to a girlfriend if i had one, its normal, but since i pay ...only have one hour, i just don't see myself taking time out of "my time" to do something i kinda don't care for. :/

 

[Fradi]

I feel the same way 95% of the time. The only time I am interested in kissing at all is when the face is exceptionally pretty- top 5%. I don't understand all of these guys who are interested in kissing average looking faces. You might as well kiss an average looking wall, or an average looking ashtray. This is not arousal activity.

Why would you select and pay for a lady with an average looking face is my question.
Do you also go to a restaurant and order food that you don’t really like.