But you know.. I think maybe some clients assume that if we don't want to hang out with them for free, that means we don't like them... which is not the case. I just don't have the time for it, and it's just generally a matter of principle, just like some clients have told me ''it's a matter of principle'' for them not to pay for certain types of hang outs. In the last year I've almost never had the time to see my own friends because being a SP takes up so much of my time & energy.
I don't want to bring back the ''social time debate'' because it's excruciating and drains all of my energy, but I'll just resume a few observations.. some providers have confided in me that they felt obligated to hang out with their clients for free in order to keep them, which is different from hanging out with them because they genuinely want to. Also, a lot of stories I hear about SP who hung out with their clients for hours after a booking are just so wild that it doesn't sound like this person was in her normal state of mind, if you see what I mean.
Otherwise, I think it's possible that some SP go out of their way by offering services they normally don't, perhaps almost pretending they have romantic feelings for the client, giving freebies, going on free dates etc. I have no judgement about it and it's none of my business what they do, but personally I don't want to deal with blurred lines. I am generous with my time when I can.. To each their own.
As a client if you want to hang out with a SP more, just book her for longer periods of time.. I know it's expensive, but it shows you respect her time. Maybe one day you'll get a good surprise.
