Ask us anything part 3

[envelopes]

@ Indies

whats the best way to get started ASAP in a new city when you're touring so you can get bookings before you arrive?

i have a SW friend going indy and she plans to not work in the same city anymore after running into someone she knew, so she plans to tour only. shes asking me since i'm a hobbyist but i honestly have no idea. i'm guessing advertising on all the sites/boards. but since i'm a hobbyist who only sees SPs from agencies, i don't know how indys do it

 

[Skym]

To the SP, do you like cimsw?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

@ Indies

whats the best way to get started ASAP in a new city when you're touring so you can get bookings before you arrive?

i have a SW friend going indy and she plans to not work in the same city anymore after running into someone she knew, so she plans to tour only. shes asking me since i'm a hobbyist but i honestly have no idea. i'm guessing advertising on all the sites/boards. but since i'm a hobbyist who only sees SPs from agencies, i don't know how indys do it

Well, indeed, you have to advertise on the local sites. On Twitter as well.

 

[Johnny test]

In Montreal there's an indy network (for lack of a better name), not exactly sure how it works but ladies who use the network have a link on their website and access to incalls if i'm not mistaken.
@Julia Sky and @LC18 @MichelleMontreal are part of the network.
Not sure if the same thing exists for other cities.
It's a very useful website as far as i'm concerned, MERB being more useful for reviews in my experience

 

[Giselle Montreal]

In Montreal there's an indy network (for lack of a better name), not exactly sure how it works but ladies who use the network have a link on their website and access to incalls if i'm not mistaken. [...]

What are you answering to? I am not sure what you are referring to so I can't comment on your statement. But, not everyone uses the same incalls.

 

[Fradi]

In Montreal there's an indy network (for lack of a better name), not exactly sure how it works but ladies who use the network have a link on their website and access to incalls if i'm not mistaken.
@Giselle Montreal @Julia Sky and @LC18 @MichelleMontreal are part of the network.
Not sure if the same thing exists for other cities.
It's a very useful website as far as i'm concerned, MERB being more useful for reviews in my experience

This is not news to anybody.
Everybody knows and all have been told not to mention it.
Sp are not any better at keeping secrets than anyone else lol.
Still want to send photo ID?

 

[LC18]

This is not news to anybody.
Everybody knows and all have been told not to mention it.
Sp are not any better at keeping secrets than anyone else lol.
Still want to send photo ID?

What do incalls have to do with IDs?

 

[Rebaynia]

SPs, does this make you look at men* differently?

Meaning, are you turned off more easily than before?

It's a good thing I have my relationship now before getting back into this.

Doing this for work has reinforced me not to trust men in relationships. I don't judge those I see for making the choices they do. But it often has me turn to my master with my ever growing insecurity that men seem incapable of remaining faithful. Thankfully he understands where I am coming from, and always meets my insecurity with kindness, understanding, and reassurance, reminding me not everyone is the same.

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If we are talking about being turned off by men physically, no it doesn't turn me off. I am not emotionally dependant on my clients. They are free men to do what they want.
If anything, I have learned to not base my attraction to men by how they look, but who they are, and how they treat me.

 

[Rebaynia]

How often do you cold call?
Or call up clients you haven’t seen for a while?
How often you try calling your favorite clients before you give up

Maybe 1-2 times a year. Only if I was given the ok. And only a generic message that could easily be disreguarded as a wrong number, or a it's no one, in case they have since gotten into a relationship. Like a simple, "Hi, hope all is going well." Or "Wishing you a Merry Christmas."
I give up right away if they don't respond back. I assume either they don't want to reach back out, are not interested any more, or number might have changed.

 

[Rebaynia]

Interested in your opinion on the following...

A previously (no longer in the industry) very well-known and very well-reviewed (on MERB) SP breaching the “code of discretion" by:
- Stalking a client’s social media under a false identity.
- Obtaining information about his relationship through his social media.
- Contacting his girlfriend and lying about the timeframe during which he was a client.
- Proceeds to mock the client via texts…knowing that the relationship didn’t survive her interference.

Thoughts?

That is not ok.
This has mean girl, ruin your life, for no good reason, energy all over it.

Sorry to hear you went threw this.

 

[Johnny test]

What do incalls have to do with IDs?

was wondering the same thing, it seems to be a touchy topic but since i didn't add any link to said network i didn't think it would be a problem
anyway i was answering to @envelopes question didn't want to open another controversy

 

[LC18]

Interested in your opinion on the following...

A previously (no longer in the industry) very well-known and very well-reviewed (on MERB) SP breaching the “code of discretion" by:
- Stalking a client’s social media under a false identity.
- Obtaining information about his relationship through his social media.
- Contacting his girlfriend and lying about the timeframe during which he was a client.
- Proceeds to mock the client via texts…knowing that the relationship didn’t survive her interference.

Thoughts?

Was she in love with you? What’s her motivation to act this way? That’s so bizarre…

 

[Workingman]

Was she in love with you? What’s her motivation to act this way? That’s so bizarre…

I'm curious cause that part of the story is oddly missing.

 

[Workingman]

It's a good thing I have my relationship now before getting back into this.

Actually the relationships I was in prior to my recent one turned me off of men, and gave me a distasteful way to look at men.

If I happen to find myself single ever again. I will choose to avoid any and all men for relationships. Been cheated on too many times in the past, and got tired of putting more into my relationships, lifestyle, and home than they did, while they got to treat it like a free ride. They were monogamous relationships, and I wasn't a SP, just a cheated on gf and 2×fiancee.

Doing this for work has reinforced me not to trust men in relationships. I don't judge those I see for making the choices they do. But it often has me turn to my master with my ever growing insecurity that men seem incapable of remaining faithful. Thankfully he understands where I am coming from, and always meets my insecurity with kindness, understanding, and reassurance, reminding me not everyone is the same.

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If we are talking about being turned off by men physically, no it doesn't turn me off. I am not emotionally dependant on my clients. They are free men to do what they want.
If anything, I have learned to not base my attraction to men by how they look, but who they are, and how they treat me.

There are two sides to everything and I don't see it as a men issue than as a people issue. I won't be in relationships fo a number of reasons, but people are just fucked in general.

 

[Fradi]

I would never send my ID as a form of verification either, but just because information is shared between SPs, doesn’t automatically mean that they pass around clients’ personal information.

No of course it doesn’t mean that and most are very discreet and reliable that wasn’t it at all just in general that not everything you think is secret is a secret just like anywhere and with anyone else.

 

[Fradi]

What do incalls have to do with IDs?

Now who is being naive, you think that and other networks aren’t being used by SP to discuss clients for safety etc… and many other issues.
Women are not immune to chatter they have their own version of Merb except it is off limits to us.

 

[LC18]

Now who is being naive, you think that and other networks aren’t being used by SP to discuss clients for safety etc… and many other issues.
Women are not immune to chatter they have their own version of Merb except it is off limits to us.

They’re not related lmao, I’ve booked many incalls in different cities and no one’s ever talked about clients. We share information about the incall and that’s all, unless you are a client who came in and destroyed the incall (which I’m pretty sure you aren’t) then no we don’t talk about that when renting incalls lmao

 

[LC18]

I’ve also been asked for references many times from people in various cities and countries. No one’s ever emailed me with a client photo ID.

“Hey do you know Mr. Sausage, I’ve attached his photo ID and SIN. Let me know xoxo”

 

[ChloeCoeur]

I’ve also been asked for references many times from people in various cities and countries. No one’s ever emailed me with a client photo ID.

“Hey do you know Mr. Sausage, I’ve attached his photo ID and SIN. Let me know xoxo”

Mr. Sausage <3 lol

 

[Workingman]

Paranoia is an early indicator of dementia