Ask us anything part 3

luxurystacy said:

I lost 20 pounds during my depression in 2022, I didnt eat or work for 2 months. When I started eating again, I gained 10 pounds back and I started working again. 1 client (who I saw couple of time before my depression) booked me and after told my agency he's never gonna see me again because I was too skinny.

Eventually I was back to my normal weight; clients who saw me all before,during and after my depression were telling me : Wow did you gain weight recently? You're not as skinny.

FIY: I didnt actually 'gain weight' ; I only came back to my normal weight, which is 105 pounds at 5 feet.

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luxurystacy said:

I lost 20 pounds during my depression in 2022, I didnt eat or work for 2 months. When I started eating again, I gained 10 pounds back and I started working again. 1 client (who I saw couple of time before my depression) booked me and after told my agency he's never gonna see me again because I was too skinny.

Eventually I was back to my normal weight; clients who saw me all before,during and after my depression were telling me : Wow did you gain weight recently? You're not as skinny.

FIY: I didnt actually 'gain weight' ; I only came back to my normal weight, which is 105 pounds at 5 feet.

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Julia Sky said:

I think you're giving him too much credit here! First overnight or not, any decent human being knows that people need to eat. There's no world in which it's gentlemanly, or even ok and normal, to spend 8-16 hours with someone without so much as offering to eat at some point. This isn't escort etiquette it's just decency and common sense... Im sorry you experienced this

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Alucard87 said:

That's wild that a client would drop you in that scenario. I haven't been mistreated or had a bad enough experience yet to turn me into the "treat them like a piece of meat" kind of client I keep hearing about. Couple pounds down, you compliment. Couple pounds up, shut your mouth it's just more to grab. Or a better sit on my face experience

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Lunaseraphim said:

I haven't seen that client since last summer, and I don't think he had bad intentions.. I think he was trying to save money, which is normal considering the fact that he isn't wealthy. He did at some point order some junk food but it wasn't really appropriate for the occasion. I also figured he would choose a larger room, which wouldn't have been too expensive for the motel he picked. The thing is, an overnight is already expensive.. So it's not really logical to avoid spending a bit more.

It kinda made me not want to do overnights after that because I was so uncomfortable that time, and I felt super guilty for feeling this way because many people never get that type of bookings. That's why I think it's a bit silly when we are told we are ''bullying clients'' into these types of bookings because it was never my idea. It happens quite often actually that I get asked for overnights by clients I've never met and I always refuse.

Slightly off topic but, I do like long bookings like full day and full evenings. However overnights, entire weekends and FMTY are too much for me lol

This is just my opinion, but I don't think any bad experience in this industry justifies turning someone into this type of client... bad experiences with clients never turned me into someone who's taking it out on other men. My belief on this type of client is that they are like that to begin with, or they get jaded from too many experiences..

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Alucard87 said:

Yes I agree, it's probably moreso guys who are a bit sociopathic or poorly adjusted to general society who would be so rude. Same goes for SPs though, there's one chick who's ad goes off on guys with ED lmao . One of her requirements is you have to pop a Viagra. Imagine losing your erection which is devastating psychologically enough and then the girl starts screaming at you and throwing you out half dressed ffs haha

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Lunaseraphim said:

For sure. It's also more conservative about women's sexuality in particular. It would make sense that a young woman would feel shy about carrying condoms visibly.

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luxurystacy said:

I lost 20 pounds during my depression in 2022, I didnt eat or work for 2 months. When I started eating again, I gained 10 pounds back and I started working again. 1 client (who I saw couple of time before my depression) booked me and after told my agency he's never gonna see me again because I was too skinny.

Eventually I was back to my normal weight; clients who saw me all before,during and after my depression were telling me : Wow did you gain weight recently? You're not as skinny.

FIY: I didnt actually 'gain weight' ; I only came back to my normal weight, which is 105 pounds at 5 feet.

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Lunaseraphim said:

I had similar comments on my weight, when I started working in 2022 I was really not doing well and really really underweight. I got insulted over the phone, accused of being a heroin addict, told stuff like ''I'd never fuck you even if you paid me for it, you're too skinny!'', it was written in a review as well. I went back to my normal weight eventually, which is already quite low. And this guy had the nerve to tell me I was too big lol I was still under a healthy weight.

Commenting on people's weight is unacceptable.. I also feel bad writing this because a lot of providers do not fit in the ''spinner'' category and get insulted for being bigger all the time in reviews or over text. You don't know why someone is gaining or losing weight. Could be depression, an eating disorder, the effect of medication, another health issue, stress in personal life etc.

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Alucard87 said:

Yes I agree, it's probably moreso guys who are a bit sociopathic or poorly adjusted to general society who would be so rude. Same goes for SPs though, there's one chick who's ad goes off on guys with ED lmao . One of her requirements is you have to pop a Viagra. Imagine losing your erection which is devastating psychologically enough and then the girl starts screaming at you and throwing you out half dressed ffs haha

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jeffmathers said:

I want to see that ad

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Alucard87 said:

Couple pounds down, you compliment. Couple pounds up, shut your mouth it's just more to grab. Or a better sit on my face experience

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Julia Sky said:

I personally think compliments about weight loss aren't great either. Hear me out :

Some people lose weight due to illness, depression, etc. It sucks to get complimented on being sick. Some people actively want to gain weight but instead they lose it and the compliment could hurt their esteem, too, in this context. So many variations of why it's not great to compliment someone's weight.

I lost weight when I was younger because I ate one or two meals max per week for several months due to eating disorder - people congratulating me on the weight loss at the time were essentially saying "congrats on mistreating your body and having poor mental health".

Im back in the gym recently, and if I lose weight I hope people will congratulate me on being back in the gym (because Ive been saying I wanted to for a while) and doing something that makes me feel good, but not on the weight loss itself. I don't like compliments about weight in any context. They're weird and you never know how someone feels about their weight or how they got there in the first place!

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philonius said:

Here's a question for SPs that's probably lost in the last 130 pages here I don't want to read through: Do you have a preference regarding cut/uncut?

I imagine most will say IDC as long as it's clean but I mean like, all things being equal, a personal preference. Do you enjoy one more than the other?

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Julia Sky said:

I personally think compliments about weight loss aren't great either. Hear me out :

Some people lose weight due to illness, depression, etc. It sucks to get complimented on being sick. Some people actively want to gain weight but instead they lose it and the compliment could hurt their esteem, too, in this context. So many variations of why it's not great to compliment someone's weight.

I lost weight when I was younger because I ate one or two meals max per week for several months due to eating disorder - people congratulating me on the weight loss at the time were essentially saying "congrats on mistreating your body and having poor mental health".

Im back in the gym recently, and if I lose weight I hope people will congratulate me on being back in the gym (because Ive been saying I wanted to for a while) and doing something that makes me feel good, but not on the weight loss itself. I don't like compliments about weight in any context. They're weird and you never know how someone feels about their weight or how they got there in the first place!

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Lunaseraphim said:

I agree with everything you're saying here.. I don't really want to talk about my relationship to my body and weight here but yea...

I get that people see providers based on what they look like in part, but... And this is where I stop.. I don't want to explain anything to anyone here but a little bit of reflection goes a long way.

(I'm specifically thinking of reviews and back handed compliments here)

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jeffmathers said:

I want to see that ad

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jeffmathers said:

"i only cater man with no erection issues, even some students have erection issues if they jerk off a lot, bad sleeping habits, unhealthy life style, coke, alcoholism, medications but with me always get hard, f youre an older man with erection issues you must do viagra before our session, I don't attend guys on coke/cocaine previous the encounter, am aware forums might have sabotaje hateful ppl that make bad reviews just because (it happend to me before when i was new on LL i receive too much attacks textings saying "oh i read this on merb about you") and i want to avoid it, therefore i want to make CLEAR my rate is for my TIME and SERVICE with a man can hold erections, erections = sex, if you're not in conditions of keeping erections I respectfully ask you don't book with me cause i don't mean to "steal" your money for an incomplete service"

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