If simplicity comforts you, and you chose to ignore the complexities of life and the grey areas because they are uncomfortable or perplexing or stressful or challenging of you preconceptions, that’s totally fine and you are free to believe it.
I think these kind of simplistic takes lack nuances and intellectual accuity. They describe incomplete realities and only serve to cuddle insecure or weak minds into intellectual safe spaces. Clearly the experiences I and other described here are reflecting that sexual attraction is an ambiguous subject matter. Locking those nuanced ambiguities into rigid and stricly limited categories seem intellectually lazy to me.
The sky is blue is a simple reality.
Behind that statement of reality lies many complicated things that does not necessarely, but could, contradict the original statement. Shades of blue, changing of the sky’s color during different periods or events, biological composition of the human eye and the subjective nature of the concept « sky ».
I think a smart person’s first reflex should always be to have the intellectual humility to confer that perhaps his conception of the world is an incomplete one, and that behind simple realities must, or at least could, lie complex nuances that he might not fully grasp in the moment.
I mean this with respect, really. Not looking to escalate or fight. I’m not offended by your post but I think it is maybe a little insensitive to others. Mostly just… very intellectually weak.