Were you able to get through a mental block?

[crux]

I was wondering if anyone had a similar situation and if so, how you dealt with it. I met with two different SPs, at first I'm turned on as I'm attracted both to her body and personality (luckily). After the action starts, I feel like I'm trying to listen if she's enjoying it (especially during DATY), and then I can't stop thinking that she's not really enjoying it, she's not into me, maybe she doesn't even want to be there. And if I start thinking that, I just lose any willpower to do anything and feel like shit.

Maybe what I'm thinking is true, maybe not so much, I don't know. Or maybe I fail to make the SP be relaxed enough to be able to enjoy it (as much as one can enjoy it when it's a paid service...) Am I too stressed / not confident enough when we talk at the beginning of the session? Should I just accept that as much as I want to have a bit of reprieve from the sadness in my life, this is just not for me?

 

[Flyingby]

If you fee like that
The SP ain’t doin her job
Go see another one

 

[LeDodo]

I try not to think too much during the encounter but I am the kind that takes pleasure when I feel the other having it genuinely. By that it's not necessarily reaction, moaning or else. It's very subtle like feeling she's into you more than giving a physical response.
I may not come during the encounter, once it's the norm (although it takes me while before being able) and one time only twice. For a comparison, in my personal relationship I come rather quickly.

At the beginning I tried figuring out why I have such different physical response but I got over it.
I would say that just enjoy your time with the SP as some are great persons, enjoy the physical exchange. So far I enjoy my time like this

 

[2fast2slow]

sometimes my mind gets in the way of the action too. If the girl is too distant, thats not fun, if she is too into it, i think, please dont overfake it lol.

For me the first encounter can be the most exciting, there is something about knowing a person for only 30 seconds and then jumping into sex, such a rush. But i have found that from the providers side, often the second, third and fourth encounters can be the best, as they have gotten to know you a bit, and often will reciprocate more. So my suggestion is keep expectations low for a first encounter and see if things progress upon a second encounter...if it does it is a confidence builder.

 

[Fradi]

I was wondering if anyone had a similar situation and if so, how you dealt with it. I met with two different SPs, at first I'm turned on as I'm attracted both to her body and personality (luckily). After the action starts, I feel like I'm trying to listen if she's enjoying it (especially during DATY), and then I can't stop thinking that she's not really enjoying it, she's not into me, maybe she doesn't even want to be there. And if I start thinking that, I just lose any willpower to do anything and feel like shit.

Maybe what I'm thinking is true, maybe not so much, I don't know. Or maybe I fail to make the SP be relaxed enough to be able to enjoy it (as much as one can enjoy it when it's a paid service...) Am I too stressed / not confident enough when we talk at the beginning of the session? Should I just accept that as much as I want to have a bit of reprieve from the sadness in my life, this is just not for me?

Why don’t you instead think about if you are enjoying it or not,
Is the SP enjoying it? Simple answer to that is would she be fucking you if you weren’t paying her, that should answer that question quite easily.

She will be enjoying what she can do with the $$$ so yes she is enjoying that part of it for sure which leads back to a fair exchange, you get to enjoy what you paid for and she gets to enjoy what she earned.

 

[GreyPilgrim]

I think, in a sense, Fradi isn’t far off from me.

I did have that issue early on: overthinking the session and getting psyched out. For me, it was all about getting out of my head and into the moment. Two things helped.

#1: Longer sessions. Having the luxury of time helped me feel like I connected with the SP. The second (or even third!) round in an single extended session were almost always better.

#2: Being selfish. Well, no, not really… But I remembered I was there for my own enjoyment. I tried strictly oral sessions, role playing scenarios, PSE experiences… Basically, taking full advantage of the unique variety hobbying can bring to your sex life. The more experimental you get, the less you revert to your usual patterns and expectations!

I still have off days now and then, but that’s just me not getting any younger!

Cheers!

 

[luxurystacy]

Why don’t you instead think about if you are enjoying it or not,
Is the SP enjoying it? Simple answer to that is would she be fucking you if you weren’t paying her, that should answer that question quite easily.

She will be enjoying what she can do with the $$$ so yes she is enjoying that part of it for sure which leads back to a fair exchange, you get to enjoy what you paid for and she gets to enjoy what she earned.

Escort who dont enjoy sex are in the wrong business lol. Yes, we are working, it's a job, to pay our bills; but it doesn't mean that we dont enjoy it (depends with who lol). For example, a teacher is teaching to get money (it's her job), but she also likes teaching and loves kids. One doesn't exclude another. But maybe she is not enjoying teaching some classes or some students, it's normal. Like us, we enjoy sex and like to socialize with mens while still doing our job. Both are true