How often do you see your regular?

[LotusFlower]

My regular comes 2 or 3 times a month for 90 or 120min, some times more.

 

[Artvandelay_importer]

I still wonder why an active member of this board laugh reacted my comment when I said I consider a regular if they see me at least once a month for a certain period of time, because most comments here reflect what I said

Hey, I’m really sorry, I think that was my mistake. I didn’t mean to laugh in a negative or disrespectful way at all. It was more of a smiley reaction because I thought it was nice that seeing someone just once a month could still count as being a regular. I truly meant it in a positive way, and I’m genuinely sorry if it came across differently or offended you.

 

[Sylar]

I still wonder why an active member of this board laugh reacted my comment when I said I consider a regular if they see me at least once a month for a certain period of time, because most comments here reflect what I said

I think you are overthinking this. There is such a lack of emojis that people just pick the closest one. The chance of miss clicking is also pretty high!

 

[NoPantiesAllowed]

I still wonder why an active member of this board laugh reacted my comment when I said I consider a regular if they see me at least once a month for a certain period of time, because most comments here reflect what I said

Once a month is pretty common, I see another regular every 2 or 3 months since our schedule don't always match. We are both happy to see each other every time we can.

 

[hob12]

I think I asked that question once in one of the "ask us anything" thread : when do you start to consider a client a "regular" and I got so many different answers. Seems like there isn't an agreed upon benchmark, and that's normal.

I don't really have "a" regular myself, but maybe a few SPs I see in rotation. But right now I'm back into a more exploratory phase where I want to meet new people.

As far as I'm concerned, I think once or twice a month over maybe a bit more than 6 months starts to become a regular thing. I've only been hobbying for 2 years or so anyway.

 

[Enjoying life]

Once a month is pretty common, I see another regular every 2 or 3 months since our schedule don't always match. We are both happy to see each other every time we can.

Once every 3 months but still considered a regular with her as i took her many times plus i always get her gifts

 

[LeDodo]

I started seeing her recently—mostly out of curiosity at first. From the way she expressed herself, she struck me as really intelligent and thoughtful, and that definitely caught my interest. When we finally met in person, I was pleasantly surprised; something about the interaction made me want to see her again. So I did. And I met her 3 times in a month time.

But now, things in my personal life are shifting. I am changing job, and there’s a lot of uncertainty in the near future. I’m not really sure how much time or mental space I’ll realistically have for anything new or developing. It’s a bit frustrating, because I genuinely enjoyed getting to know her.

Regular, would be anyone who we see on a regular/semi-regular pattern, basically constant repeat. More than at least 3 times. Before that it is concidered repeats (in how I see it for myself, I can't speak for how anyone else sees it.)

I can say regulars are more the goal generally, as they are still calling and supporting us year round, not just on a whim out of nowhere. When being contacted by several people at once I will prioritize people I know, and know I enjoy my time with them, over people who I have never met yet.

As for SPs seeing regulars they aren't keen on, not everyone we see is going to be someone we are compatible with, but it is a job, and sometimes we need to compromise for work and accept/or not, who we are willing to see.

It is apparently rather a privledged role I have been told, that I refuse repeats with people I have not enjoyed my time with, preventing them from ever becoming regulars. Most don't have that luxury, and admittedly one I can't really afford either, but for my mental health, and to prevent SW burnout, it is necessary.

I'd say being a regular or considering someone a regular depends of the time reference. Like for people who come to town on a regular basis but like every year could be considered as a regular?
As for the frequency I think that several encounters could count as well as being a regular?

 

[bodick7]

Once a month is pretty common, I see another regular every 2 or 3 months since our schedule don't always match. We are both happy to see each other every time we can.

Exactly my situation too.
I got the chance to be pleased by (and please ) a retired one once in a while . Each time, we appreciate each other.

 

[EastWind]

When I first started this hobby I saw the third SP I met for eight months and only her. Looking back what a major idiot I was treating the hobby with quasi-relationship elements. Well I learned much from that encounter fiasco. Luckily I was able to experience the crash and emotional closure. My bank account took a minor dent but that is okay.

After that in my time in the hobby I don’t have regulars anymore. My happy medium is three encounters and let it be that. Third and final meeting is dinner and thank you for coming into my life and best of luck. Started on a high note and ends on a high note. Something you can rarely achieve with a civilian relationship. I guess looking back this is what I really wanted and not for the sex but having things move on my own terms.

 

[TheBlackBass]

When I'm in to it, I can see my regular once a month. But the "$$ reality" made me slowing down my frequency and now I usually see my regular one time, every 2–3 months.
Usually, I hobby once or twice per month, but in the last 2 years I started to have 2–3 regulars at the same time. So, there is more space between each visit to them.
Plus, there are all the new girls who need my attention... lolll

At the end, I understand that these girls are my regulars (for me), but for them, I'm just a repeated client.

 

[David Sel et Poivre]

Not as often as I would like too

 

[Rebaynia]

At the end, I understand that these girls are my regulars (for me), but for them, I'm just a repeated client.

Don't sell yourself short. For many, those we see regularly, are not just a repeated client.

Those I see multiple times become priorities. They are people I enjoy seeing, and some when they reach out, I am happy to get to go see them and catch up. Friendships can develop beyond the transactional nature of the visit.

Yes I'm sure there are some who see repeat clients as just repeats, but the majority I have heard of, there is something more to those repeatedly seen over time. Some we develop fondnesses for.

 

[urquell]

regularly, by definition.

 

[chowzilla]

I used to see her so much, it became casual hangouts, "hey im bored, can i come chill?" - from experience I knew it would lead to the grey zone where if we hooked up, I would wonder if I needed to pay. I'd casually ask if she needed some $, sometimes she would say yes, sometimes no. After years I would just give her a donation at the end of the month, so neither of us had to think about it.