It’s drama free with a sp compared to my ex partners which is really niceWhen I first saw this thread I thought to myself "oh no.." lol I'm nervous to comment because apparently commenting in the lounge about our opinions is being a whiny time waster and going on useless tangeants, or just mentioning social time, in the lounge, is trying to force clients to book us for it lol. It's puzzling to me because the advertising section is elsewhere in this forum, and we are just chit chatting here. Same thing with ad websites like tryst and leolist lol they are not forums where people discuss their opinions and feelings.. I guess I don't understand the logic here.
I'm not very complicated for social dates, obviously I'd love to be taken on a day trip up north.. I'd love to go swimming. An opportunity to be in nature would be wonderful. The spa sounds fantastic too.. and yes I love dinner dates lol
But I also like simple things like going out for breakfast or lunch, doing a picnic or just hanging out at the park, even going out for drinks or coffee at a cute place. I'd like to go to the cat cafe. High tea would also be lovely.. going to see a show we're both interested in it or to a museum. Doing something creative together would also be amazing. I love Rosie's idea of playing video games. A movie date would be lovely.. I've actually been taken on social dates to the movies and watched movies with clients at my incall or their hotel room.. it was really nice.
That being said I don't want to pressure anyone to book me for it and I doubt there's a conspiracy to brainwash naive clients into booking for social time. Anyways not one that I'm aware of lol and I'm not known to be someone who pressures people into doing certain things.
I'd like to note that clients who book social time are not losers who can't find people to hang out with for free, they just find it convenient to have someone around no strings attached in both social and intimate contexts. This is common with people who are traveling or on a business trip or people who don't want to bother using a dating app.
I think some mean "a man is a loser to pay to hang out with a prostitute" because we are to them human beings of lower value lol that's their opinion and I'm not going to try to change it. I'm also well aware that most clients just want a 30 min to 2 hour incall session and I'm not trying to change that.
I also know many SP will hang out with their favorite client after or between sessions for free and that's their prerogative, there's nothing wrong with it. I have the privilege to like most of my clients so if I went for drinks, coffee, lunch, the park for free every time I get along with a gentleman I wouldn't have time for myself anymore..I hope this clarifies certain things. I'll chat between bookings sometimes but to me if I went out with clients outside of bookings there's a boundary that would be crossed and things might get confusing for both of us... I hope that makes sense.
Clients and providers what are your dream social date ideas?
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I actually had a date to see one of their shows last winter! It was magical. And it was my clients idea
earlier in this thread it came up about social dates that are paid and social dates that are unpaid. Atleast one SP mentioned she would never do a non compensated social date and several clients scoffed that women would do that.
So today, I decided to test my theory that at least some SP's would do a social date. Not all but some.
I mentioned to a SP that I was going sky diving , she related that she would "love to go skydiving". SO I offered. I said I would take her if she wanted.
well, she happily meet me and drove to the sky dive center. Did a skydive (which I paid for) and then I drove her back to Montreal. I did a couple of jumps as well.
IN short: why in the heck not go with a client, if you enjoy their company and are doing something you would love to do. I obviously paid for the sky dive and NO I droped her off afterwards with no sex expected or asked for.
I did conincidently see her later that evening and paid normal session rates. So to all the doubters, it happens. Maybe shes a fluke. Maybe I am just a super cool dude (im not) or maybe just maybe, some SP's can see the forest through the trees.
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So today, I decided to test my theory that at least some SP's would do a social date. Not all but some.
I mentioned to a SP that I was going sky diving , she related that she would "love to go skydiving". SO I offered. I said I would take her if she wanted.
well, she happily meet me and drove to the sky dive center. Did a skydive (which I paid for) and then I drove her back to Montreal. I did a couple of jumps as well.
IN short: why in the heck not go with a client, if you enjoy their company and are doing something you would love to do. I obviously paid for the sky dive and NO I droped her off afterwards with no sex expected or asked for.
I did conincidently see her later that evening and paid normal session rates. So to all the doubters, it happens. Maybe shes a fluke. Maybe I am just a super cool dude (im not) or maybe just maybe, some SP's can see the forest through the trees.
Tor
I think it has been mentioned numerous times that although you enjoy an activity as simple as eating, you might not want to spend your personal time or you don't feel like entertaining with a client although you appreciate him. It's a necessary boundary if you don't want your whole personal life eaten up by the work.
My unpaid time belongs to my children and my Master. I have a social limit, and I am not able to accommodate free social time with people, when it means I will be socially maxed out before I go see someone willing to pay for my time, as it is the time I spend with someone paid, and not the bedroom activity exactly paid for.
When I am not being paid, I am a loner, and an introvert, and my time is being in my comfort zone around my offspring, time with them doesn't count twords the social limit.
so I am ready and excited to see those who contact me.
If your boss told you to come to work for free would you? He’s a super cool boss and you’ve been working there for a long time. He also said he would bring food, music but you’re not getting paid for those hours you’ll be in.
My time outside of Lena is for other people and activities. I really need this time for myself and there’s no activity, food or travel destination that would make me want to change that. Those are my days off and my vacation bank
If others are willing to meet clients for free, good for them and good for their clients. May they be reunited
I have in the past and will never make that mistake again, it’s not worth it
My time outside of Lena is for other people and activities. I really need this time for myself and there’s no activity, food or travel destination that would make me want to change that. Those are my days off and my vacation bank
If others are willing to meet clients for free, good for them and good for their clients. May they be reunited
I have in the past and will never make that mistake again, it’s not worth it
my post was mostly that SP providers and clients come in all kinds of different types. It seems like there are no strict rules
Its a big city. may everyone find what they are looking for.
Its a big city. may everyone find what they are looking for.
I “respect” wanting to go out with your favourite SP for free but some of you really seem to think that the simple fact of being invited for a nice meal is enough for us to drop everything and hangout free of charge. When I want to volunteer, I go and help in food banks.
You can find a SP that wants to hangout for free and you can find a client that will pay you for your time no matter what the activity is. Beautiful world we live in ❤️
You can find a SP that wants to hangout for free and you can find a client that will pay you for your time no matter what the activity is. Beautiful world we live in ❤️
That's exactly how I see it.. And some clients think that us not wanting to go out with them for free means we don't like them or don't like men. Newsflash I hang out with men for free lol they are my friends. But they didn't book me as clients. It doesn't mean I think my clients aren't the type of people I'd hang out with for free, but boundaries are important.
I don't know if SP who go out with their clients for free are volunteering (or conscious of it at least).. but I think it shows a lack of boundaries between the client and the SP if this happens frequently. It can lead to messy situations. Just decide.. is he your client, or what? are you dating him? is he your friend? Is this person worried she will lose the client if she doesn't accept invitations? I've refused invitations to go out for lunch or coffee with clients before, and that happened way before I started offering social time. Every single time the client looked very offended and disappointed. To me it shows that there is an unfair expectation that is unspoken here.. It made me feel a bit uneasy.
And don't get me wrong, I don't judge SP and clients who go on unpaid dates together. It's their choice, but I don't want to feel like it's expected of me. I've given extra time and still do sometimes, but I don't want to feel like it's an expectation. Same thing with conversations and joking around between bookings.. It's cute to receive messages from clients I like. I get music recommendations, cute pictures, jokes etc. I don't mind it at all and I entertain it when I can, but there are times when it's too much for me. And it doesn't have to do with the clients themselves. I have a life outside of this.
I think for the clients when ones becomes a client it put them in the clients category with boundaries. And most if not all are not aware of such boundaries. This might be were the expectations mismatch occur.That's exactly how I see it.. And some clients think that us not wanting to go out with them for free means we don't like them or don't like men. Newsflash I hang out with men for free lol they are my friends. But they didn't book me as clients. It doesn't mean I think my clients aren't the type of people I'd hang out with for free, but boundaries are important.
I don't know if SP who go out with their clients for free are volunteering (or conscious of it at least).. but I think it shows a lack of boundaries between the client and the SP if this happens frequently. It can lead to messy situations. Just decide.. is he your client, or what? are you dating him? is he your friend? Is this person worried she will lose the client if she doesn't accept invitations? I've refused invitations to go out for lunch or coffee with clients before, and that happened way before I started offering social time. Every single time the client looked very offended and disappointed. To me it shows that there is an unfair expectation that is unspoken here.. It made me feel a bit uneasy.
And don't get me wrong, I don't judge SP and clients who go on unpaid dates together. It's their choice, but I don't want to feel like it's expected of me. I've given extra time and still do sometimes, but I don't want to feel like it's an expectation. Same thing with conversations and joking around between bookings.. It's cute to receive messages from clients I like. I get music recommendations, cute pictures, jokes etc. I don't mind it at all and I entertain it when I can, but there are times when it's too much for me. And it doesn't have to do with the clients themselves. I have a life outside of this.
Personally I would out of friendliness propose but not insist if declined.
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Let me stir the thread back on track: find a gym buddy and sweat together
@Julia Sky here is an opportunity for you lol
@Julia Sky here is an opportunity for you lol
From what I understand of your personality you wouldn't feel offended if the person declines!
I agree that some may not be aware of these boundaries.. I understand this process involves intimacy and connection, too.
But the client has to learn that if he wants to get to know the provider and spend more time with her, he should just book longer periods of time or book social time. A lot of clients are against the idea of booking social dates but they book 2+ hours for instance.
It doesn't hurt to ask tho!
Ms. Carter, I dont think that at all. All I have ever maintained is that there are social activities that providers may want to experience. And if the opportunity presents itself with a client, they may take the opportunity to do so. As the Bard might say: "me thinks the lady doth protest too much"". I have no doubt you would go out socially with a client for the right experience. We all have our weak points. Mine just happens to be women. LOL
Its always proper to mix in social and intimacy especial if you have many interests to shareFrom what I understand of your personality you wouldn't feel offended if the person declines!
I agree that some may not be aware of these boundaries.. I understand this process involves intimacy and connection, too.
But the client has to learn that if he wants to get to know the provider and spend more time with her, he should just book longer periods of time or book social time. A lot of clients are against the idea of booking social dates but they book 2+ hours for instance.
It doesn't hurt to ask tho!
How long has there been a maze there? I did the zipline last year but I don't remember a maze.
I arrived in Montreal 3 years ago and it has been there since that time at least lol
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